"I'm not married to this man yet, he's always pestering me, I really feel better than dead"
In 2018, the woman who asked reporters for help was named Xu Lili, 33 years old
According to her description, a man recently came to her residence at 6 p.m. every day
I won't leave until the next morning, and I'll be back on time in the afternoon
How did the man get into her home?
Men who come to the house
It turned out that the key to the home was given to the man by Xu Lili's mother
A few months ago, through the introduction, Xu Lili met the man
The first time they met, Xu Lili didn't feel anything for him
Because the man's appearance does not attract her
And the more important reason is that Xu Lili's mate selection standards in her heart are different
She wanted to marry a mature man who was divorced or had children
And this man is still single
This does not meet Xu Lili's requirements
However, the man still has a good impression of Xu Lili
He did not give up easily, and often came to take care of her, and greeted her warmly
After two months together
Xu Lili was gradually impressed by this man who cared for her
She agreed to the two men's relationship
The man was very happy and also set up a banquet for the parents of both sides to celebrate
Xu Lili also lived in the man's home for three days
Xu Lili said: "I was so happy those days, my family was very good to me, and I was reluctant to leave for three days. ”
We can feel that those three days are still Xu Lili's beautiful memories
After establishing the relationship, Xu Lili agreed to her boyfriend moving in with her
But Xu Lili admitted that she did not want to have children
What the heart yearns for is love and marriage, just two people who like each other together
Don't have a married life, and live a lifetime of respect and hospitality
For Xu Lili's idea, the boyfriend agreed at first
The boyfriend also said at the time that he would only sit on the sofa and talk about the next day
At first, the boyfriend had been sleeping on the couch outside, and the two respected each other
But after a while, the boyfriend violated the original agreement
In the case of half pushing and half doing, the two performed the ritual of Zhou Gong
After that, the boyfriend changed his old rules
Xu Lili: "It's just changed, I sleep he is always like this, anyway, it is noisy for me to sleep"
Such a move by her boyfriend made Xu Lili feel uneasy and afraid
Unable to bear it, she proposed to break up
But the breakup wasn't as simple as she thought it would be
The man still lives in Xu Lili's house as always, and the man's mother calls and threatens
Xu Lili: "His mother once said that if she is not with her son again, I will find someone to beat you."
A woman who lives alone, hearing such words, makes her feel frightened
But what scared her even more was her mother's attitude
Xu Lili hopes to get help from her mother
But instead of helping and comforting herself, the mother supported her boyfriend's approach
This shocked Xu Lili
In Xu Lili's view, her mother's actions are simply incomprehensible
She felt a sense of despair she had never felt before
She thought about breaking ties with her family
Such a scene is really incredible
The mysterious boyfriend's statement
Subsequently, the reporter followed Xu Lili to find her boyfriend Zhang Chunjin
The 37-year-old man in front of him is not good at words
He told reporters that this was also his first time with girls
Because the family economy is not rich, plus the appearance is not handsome
So I've never been in a relationship
Until he met Xu Lili last year, he cherished it very much and devoted himself to this relationship
He also admitted that he liked Xu Lili
Nor did he threaten or hit his girlfriend
Neighbors around him also praised Zhang Chunjin
He is a kind-hearted, honest, hard-working person
The reason why the mother wants her daughter to be with Zhang Chunjin
It is also important to value his honesty and reliability in the eyes of everyone
Maybe this man can give his daughter a happy and stable future
Zhang Chunjin said that if Xu Lili insisted on breaking up, he was helpless and unwilling, but he could only agree
But when they first decided to be together, Zhang Chunjin spent a lot of money to help the woman decorate the house (70,000)
He hoped that if they broke up, the money would be returned to himself
But at this time, Xu Lili had no savings and no job
There is no capacity for repayment
At this moment, Xu Lili's mother called Zhang Chunjin
The mother's attitude of still supporting her boyfriend completely angered Xu Lili
Xu Lili snatched Zhang Chunjin's phone and got into an argument with her mother
Daughter in the mouth of the mother
The mother inadvertently said that her daughter would occasionally be mentally abnormal, that is, intermittent psychosis
But Xu Lili believes that she only has her own ideas on the issue of marriage
However, she was considered abnormal by her mother, which also made her feel miserable
If her father had been alive, she would not be where she is today
According to her mother's description, Xu Lili's parents divorced when she was more than one year old
She grew up living with her father
For this daughter, the father is very loving
In daily life, Xu Lili's own thoughts will be up to her, and there will be no excessive interference
With her father's care, Xu Lili lives a carefree life
Now in his thirties, he has not yet worked or made any money
But not long ago, my father passed away
That good time is only left in the memory
Before his death, the father worried that his daughter did not have the ability to survive, and left 8,000 pieces at Uncle Xu Lili.'s
She can take a thousand dollars a month for living expenses
However, the money will one day be withdrawn
After the life, I don't know if Xu Lili has considered how to spend it
Xu Lili's mother: "They all serve food to her, and they don't rinse their mouths"
The daughter longs for a special love and enjoys freedom
But the mother is old, worried about her daughter's future, and expects her daughter to experience marriage and have personal care
The mother's actions were also out of helplessness
In the face of the decoration money paid by her boyfriend, Xu Lili was dumbfounded, had no idea, and pushed everything to her mother
I don't know if she ever considered when she was silent, if she went out to work to make money, maybe she could solve such a problem
Xu Lili's mother said that she would try her best to negotiate this matter with the other party
In the mother's heart, Zhang Chunjin may be the best destination for her daughter, and she will continue to strive to let the two be together
And shortly after the interview
Xu Lili's mother called the program team and said that her daughter ran away from home
Perhaps Xu Lili wants to repay her debts through her own efforts for the sake of inner freedom, and is getting closer and closer to the life she yearns for
Maybe it's just to escape the current awkward situation
But I am afraid that this will not help solve the problem
Xu Lili has the right to pursue freedom
But there is no absolute freedom in the world
Only by paying something can we gain something
The same is true of freedom
We hope that Xu Lili can handle this relationship well
Maybe she can recognize reality and take on family responsibilities by working hard
Realize the life you want, and take care of your mother, and stop letting the elderly work hard for their own lives