Liberation of self-awareness
In a deep mountain forest, there are two temples not far away. The monks of Jia Temple often quarreled. Everyone was closely protected, living and suffering; the monks of Temple B were kind, smiling, and happy.
The abbot of Koyosei Temple A saw that the monks of Temple B lived in harmony every day. He was envious, but he didn't know what was happening. So one day, he came to Temple B and asked a young monk for a secret recipe.
The abbot asked, "Do you have any good way to maintain a harmonious and pleasant atmosphere in the temple?" ”
The little monk replied without hesitation, "Because we often do the wrong thing." ”
Just when the abbot of the Temple of Jia was puzzled, he suddenly saw a monk rushing back from outside. When he entered the hall, he had accidentally fallen down for the rest of his life. At this time, the monk who was mopping the floor immediately ran over to help him apologize: "I'm sorry, it's all my fault, I dragged the ground too wet, and you fell." ”
The monk standing in the doorway ran over and said, "No, it's all my fault." I didn't warn you that the floor was being wiped in the hall. You should be careful. ”
The wrestling monk didn't complain, but said remorsefully, "No, no, it's my fault, I was too careless." ”
The abbot of the Temple of A saw this wonderful scene and suddenly realized this. Finally, I understood the secret of harmony between the monks of Temple B. General principle: Self-blame is not only an apology to others, but also a relief for one's own soul. It can not only turn violence into peace, but it can also make people sincerely relatives. Evasion of responsibility can only lead to unnecessary quarrels between people and deepen estrangement.
Live in your own hands
On a distant mountain lived an old man who could predict the future. He is said to be able to answer anyone's questions. A young man was very unconvinced and wanted to fool the old man. He grabbed a bird and hid it behind him. He asked:
"Is the bird in my hand alive or dead?" The young man thought: If the old man says that the bird is still alive, I will strangle it; if the old man says it is dead, I will let it fly away.
The old man looked at the young man solemnly and said, "Life is in your hands!" ”
General principles; there are many things in your life that you should be solely responsible for, and there are also many things you can control. The day you take full responsibility.
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