People who want to do but don't dare to do things, people who want to confess but don't dare to confess! What exactly are you afraid of? Can this "fear" be overcome and conquered?
Fear is an instinctive reaction
If there is one thing you especially want to do now, there is no risk in doing it, but you just don't dare to do it, you are afraid, you don't dare to take this step forward, and even your rationality is still very inexplicable to ask yourself "What am I afraid of?" Why should I be afraid? How can I not be afraid? This is when the energy and emotion of your fear have suppressed the power of your reason, trapped the energy of reason, and in fact you are living in the barrier of fear. If this energy is magnified, it is obvious that you will have many constraints in work and life and it is difficult to succeed.
In fact, fear itself is not terrible, fear should be said to be an instinct, is a biological risk avoidance self-protection instinct, you see all small animals have fear, it has unknown things must run, this comes from fear, it is a positive meaning.
Second, recognize fear
When we are educated from childhood, we are often educated in the way of fear, and some mothers and fathers say, children, you don't cry, you have to sleep well, the big bad wolf is coming, the police uncle is coming, taking you away, etc., in many ways, in fact, using fear, using fear as a tool to make children obey him.
Invisibly, our parents are using fear, so fear should be said to be everywhere. But when our cognition is sound and we have grown, our rationality tells us that we have a lot of psychological fears, which are not objective, and we dispel it.
Third, the different types of fear
Then fear is divided into two categories, one part is psychological, part is physiological fear, for example, there are many people who are afraid of heights, in fact, it is physiological.
Once the mind and physiology are serious, they become pathological fears. In fact, phobia is a psychological disease, such as obviously nothing, all kinds of fear, at that time life is not only unsuccessful, it will become a disease.
Overcoming fear and conquering fear is a compulsory course in life
If you can't even conquer your own fears, then it is basically difficult to conquer others and conquer the external world in life.
1. The positive ability of fear
If it is a healthy normal psychosocial fear, it is actually a good energy that inspires courage to maintain a sense of crisis. Fear to a certain extent can inspire courage, fear to a certain extent potential can make you have a sense of crisis very alert, so you can avoid risks, this is good.
2. The negative meaning of fear
Fear makes many people unable to extricate themselves from it, almost becoming a waste and doing nothing. At this time, fear crushed him, and nothing could be accomplished.
3. How to conquer fear?
In fact, in essence, the big overview has three directions, the first is to cognitively recognize the world, when you do not know the law of things, you just look at the appearance, because this unknown will trigger countless fear associations and fantasies.
For example, when you don't know if Li Kui is a kind person, at first glance you feel frightened, how bad and fierce this person seems. In fact, he was very naïve, he was very kind like an angel, and he didn't know much kinder than the kind of person who hid the knife in his laughter. This is that after understanding the laws of things, you will no longer be afraid of such people.
The other is to get used to it. There are some situations where you know that you should not be afraid, and you know the law of things, but you are just afraid, that is, you can't accept what to do?
You need to learn! Therefore, it is necessary to do the coping training of simulated fear scenes, and after learning, you can get used to fear. In fact, people have learned a lot of things, for example, if you fly a plane for the first time in your life, you are actually very nervous, in fact, individuals will be nervous. Faced with such strong uncertainty and dangerous possibilities, many people are afraid, but through the training of a thousand times, I believe it is getting better and better.
Ultimately, to conquer fear, we must be rooted in spiritual enlightenment, we must see openly, see through, and even have a certain faith, and achieve an enlightenment in the soul, beyond the small discriminating mind. When I entered that world, there were very few things that made you particularly afraid, and your energy would at least be controlled by others, not by one thing. This is the purpose of the open class on conquering fear that we are going to open, and we expect that the course will allow many friends to come out of the barriers of fear, break their own control of their own destiny, and not let fear lock our energy.