One
I used to rent a duplex house, and the tenant was the landlord's family. They live on the lower level and we live on the upper floor.
The landlord and the couple are not married for the first time, to be precise, the husband of the landlord is married for the second time. He divorced his ex-wife at an early age, leaving a daughter to be raised by his father. Later, the landlord and his current wife married, and the two had a son and a daughter.
When I moved in, the landlord's eldest daughter was in high school, and the younger couple had just entered elementary school.
The landlord's two sons are very strict with the small pair of children, they should not have read much books, so they are particularly respectful of the so-called "learned people" (people who have gone to college), and the education of children in this area is very strict, quite a "dream that I did not realize, I pinned on you to achieve" posture.
But the harshness is severe, and the two mouths are also really heart-wrenching and loving to the children. As soon as they have time, the couple will accompany their children to go out to play, or interact at home to play games. When we were at home, we could always hear the pleasant laughter of adults and children mixed up the stairs.
This is undoubtedly a very happy family.
But the landlord's eldest daughter rarely shows up in the house.
Until one time, when the children's grandmother came to see the grandchildren, I came home from work and was catching up with a large table of people eating dinner.
I noticed that there was a strange face, it was a big girl, and the landlord introduced me to him, which was his eldest daughter.
I am already in high school, and I don't live on campus, but I don't live in my current home, but I rent a room with my grandmother outside and live together.
Occasionally, on weekends, she would come home for a night's stay. But the frequency was so low that I had been living in for months before I first met her and became aware of her existence.
Later, I saw them several times. This girl has a very low sense of presence at home, basically comes home, just stays in her room, and rarely participates in the chat or interaction of the family.
By chance, I met her on the road, so I chatted with her, which was a familiar face.
Two
Once, on the weekend, I was shopping for vegetables and came home, and as soon as I walked to the door, I heard a roar coming from inside, it was the landlord, and his voice was agitated and high-pitched: "Such a big person, when he comes, he will throw his face to whom!" Let you eat love to eat or not to eat, do not eat and roll me back! ”
Pushing open the door, I saw the landlord and the eldest daughter standing face to face, both staring at each other with an angry face, probably seeing me come in, they were stunned, and then the eldest daughter did not say a word, turned around and went out.
After dinner, I walked around the neighborhood and saw the little girl sitting alone in a chair in front of the unit building, alone and quiet. I sat down with her and talked about the day.
The school she attended was vocational high school and majored in tourism. In other words, her later development direction will be a tour guide.
I didn't bother, and I said in passing, how nice, I can play everywhere for free in the future!
She listened, but did not seem happy, "I don't like this profession at all, I don't like to deal with all kinds of different people every day, just think about it, I feel that the future is very confused." 」 ”
I asked her, "Then why did you choose this direction at that time?" ”
She said: "I chose it casually, but I didn't understand it at that time." I don't have good grades, and I don't know what I want to do in the future, I can have one. ”
I asked her again, "Didn't you ask your mom and dad for advice?" ”
I saw this little girl smile and look very inexplicable: "Daddy? He is not my father anymore, how can he care about me! My mom, who didn't want me then, doesn't care about me anymore. ”
Apparently, she was talking about mom. And now the stepmother does not define her as a "mother".
"You see, too, he doesn't like me." She took the initiative to talk about what happened today, "I have peanut allergies, I used to live in the hospital because of this, every time I go home, five or six dishes, nine times out of ten there will be two or three peanuts in it, which is obviously deliberate." I can't help but be upset yet! This is my good dad and good stepmother! ”
"Only Grandma really hurt me and thought about me, but she is getting older and her health is getting worse and worse, and I don't know what to do in the future!"
It's hard to forget her expression at the time, as if self-deprecating and lonely, on the face of an adolescent child, full of a sense of discord.
Three
Xu felt that I was still an object of communication, and she talked to me for a long time. She even revealed to me one of her [secrets].
She said that there was one thing that I had never told anyone except that my dorm mates knew.
She found herself sleepwalking.
Originally, she didn't know, but the dormitory classmates had seen her several times and told her that she knew.
When she told me about this incident, she looked scared and worried: "I don't know what to do, just thinking about it makes me very scared, afraid of doing something terrible without knowing it!" ”
She said: "I always feel that the future is gray, and then I will sleepwalk one day and jump off the building myself!" ”
After a long time, I went home and saw that there was no harmony in the home without her. Mom was busy cooking in the kitchen, Dad took the children to play games, laughter came out endlessly, she went out for a long time, no one went to look for her, as if there was no such person, I couldn't help but feel a strong pain for that still very childish face.
She said a lot to me, and the most common sentence she said was, "What should I do in the future?" Everything that lay in the future, as far as she was concerned, was full of confusion, worry, confusion and fear.
But what hurts me the most is that she has a father, a mother, and a grandmother. However, in her growth path, at such an important moment, her many worries, no one to relieve, can only tell me such a stranger who does not fit.
Four
Families have difficult scriptures, and outsiders do not understand the specific situation of other people's families, and it is difficult to judge them based on only three words and two words.
But this little girl's state at that time sounded the alarm bell to me again and again in the days to come, and when the child could not take on the responsibility of life before the child became an adult, their worries and troubles were no less than those of adults, and the support, encouragement and help of the family were still important at this moment.
Always pay attention to their status, always ready to give support and assistance, be their strong backing, this is the greatest meaning of family existence!
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