"Understanding the Diary" is empty about dreams, is it useful?

These days, everyone takes turns criticizing me, what is the criticism?

Say I'm becoming more and more like a businessman.

Merchant in Shandong is a derogatory term...

This means that the article I wrote seemed to have drilled into the eyes of money. Last night I went home for dinner, and my dad criticized me like this, thinking that I lacked positive energy and knew money all day.

Lu Xiaomi also commented on me in this way, thinking that I had changed, that I was angry with the lack of books, and that I had become a businessman with a desire for profit.

I told her: "A college student wrote to Lu Xun and asked what we should strive for? Lu Xun's reply was: First fight for freedom of speech, and then I will tell you what a college student should strive for. ”

Lu Xiaomi asked, "What do you mean?" ”

I said, "For a man, is it supposed to pursue a career?" Or pursue your dreams? Or the pursuit of erudition? Or is it the pursuit of self-cultivation? It should be said that we must first win economic independence before we can fight for others, otherwise it is all empty talk. ”

Lu Xiaomi said she did not understand, she thought I had gone astray.

I said: "People have a characteristic, always regard themselves as a special case, they want to make money is self-motivated, others want to make money is lustful." Cheating yourself is because of true feelings, and others cheating is a slut. I always think that other people's husbands will cheat, and my own husbands will never. ”

She said: "I don't think it matters if you have more money or less money. ”

I asked: "It doesn't matter if you have more money or less money, what do you do when you invest 100,000 yuan in Sanshun?" ”

She said: "That was a few years ago impulsive, at that time just wanted to start a business, but I did not understand, just three Shun said that he wanted to open a computer repair company, I gave 100,000 yuan, initially said let me occupy the shares, and later said that it was borrowed." ”

I said, "Isn't this 100,000 yuan the same as floating in the water?" You ask yourself, have you made money all these years? As long as you want to do business, there is only one result, that is, your hard-earned salary is given to others as profits. ”

She said: "Sanshun's money, I don't want to think about it for a long time, and when you say this, it stimulates me again." ”

I said, "On the surface, you said you didn't care, but in fact, this is the pain in your heart, and you hope that Sanshun will take the initiative to return it to you." Do you think Sanshun has taken the initiative to contact you over the years? Does he really run out of money? No, he has eaten you thoroughly, you are a soft egg, anyone can pinch. Do you know how you feel to me? It's too easy to get the money out of your pocket, and if I use a little trick, I can cheat you out of all your savings and make you willing, you're too emotional. ”

She said: "Possibly. ”

I said, "You have to think about it in reverse, how much does this 100,000 yuan weigh on you?" Is it equivalent to your two-year salary, which is equivalent to giving two years of youth to Sanshun, are you really willing? Now you are thinking about signing books all day, thinking about selling fruit, nothing more than making three thousand and five thousand a month, why don't you think about getting your 100,000 yuan back? That is originally your money, you don't fight for it yourself, and others can't help you. Do you feel shy? Excuse me? ”

She said, "Yes." ”

I said, "Now let's simulate a scenario, you asked me to borrow 100,000 yuan, it's been four or five years, if you have me in your heart and like me, will you pay me back?" Even if you can't afford it, will you give me a little bit every year? ”

She said, "Yes." ”

I asked, "Do you think Sanshun still loves you?" ”

She said: "This matter has nothing to do with love, you don't understand, it is that I admire him." ”

I said, "I'm not provoking you, he has no feelings for you, he's eating you, you have to be sober now, because your money doesn't just belong to you, it belongs to your family, and you have to be responsible for your family." To put it another way, my daughter-in-law lent money to a man, and the amount was very large, I was in the dark, and my daughter-in-law did not want to come back, do you think I am sad? As the lover of the daughter-in-law, she was deceived the most. ”

She said: "I'm awake now, but I can't open my mouth. ”

I asked, "If you call him, will he still answer?" ”

She said: "I don't know, there has been no contact for two or three years. ”

I said, "This money no longer belongs to you, because after borrowing money for a long time, you feel that you belong to yourself, and no one wants to take it out." You're going to have a chance to talk to him, it doesn't matter if you don't have any money, write a note for you, and from a legal point of view, you two don't have any debts right now. ”

She said, "I'm embarrassed. ”

I said, "Out of responsibility for the family, you should make a decision on this matter, choose one of the two." Or, trying to come back, even if it's a white stripe back, is a success. Or, give up completely, thinking that this money is lost. But whether you choose one or two, you must get a three-way answer in person, otherwise even if you say that you are dead-hearted, it is a lie, because you are not dead-hearted at all, and you are still delusional about this money. ”

In the end, Sanshun did not answer her phone, but instead set her phone to refuse.

This incident stimulated her, and her heart was cold.

She was a particularly weak person, and she did not dare to look for Sanshun, on the grounds that she could not find it...

I asked, "Suppose, he's your fiancé, and he runs away, do you think you can find him?" ”

She said, "Yes." ”

I said, "You're setting yourself a backslid, so you don't want to go." ”

She asked, "Why are you forcing me?" ”

I said, "I'm the role of a spectator, calm, rational. I can see the cause and end of this matter very clearly, I just feel sorry for you, I don't know if you can feel it, I think you lost 100,000 yuan in vain. In fact, I personally know very well that the 100,000 yuan is lost, if there is a glimmer of hope, it can only be your initiative, hard work, wholeheartedly to fight, at least will win a white note, but you are not willing to cooperate with me, you resist, and in the end I also feel tired. ”

She said: "I don't blame him for this, it's my own greed, it's my own want to start a business, I want to make money." ”

I said, "If you want to say that, then there's no way." ”

A woman who is too emotional is not suitable for business at all, because men eat her with a little trick.

A month ago, Lu Xiaomi said that he wanted to march into fruit.

I said, "You can't do this, if you really want to do it, you can do my upstream, help me find local specialties, and choose really delicious ones, such as Qingzhou persimmon cake." ”

She asked, "What if I could do it?" ”

I said, "I'll charge you 10 times the market price." ”

She really made a batch, the amount is very small, I kept my promise, gave her 10 times the price, this batch is still in her home, I did not want ...

Afterwards, I told her the quality, price, and channel of the persimmon cakeSimmon I entered, and I just wanted to prove one point: you are not suitable for business.

Because, she didn't pay attention to these parameters, and the cost of her purchase was higher than our retail price, how could she make money?

She didn't have the concept of cost.

Afterwards, she sent me a message, very emotional: I suddenly felt very conflicted, on the one hand, I took the money you gave, on the other hand, I did not dare to ask for my own money, I obviously should not take your money, but I took, I should obviously take my own money, but I did not have the courage.

A few days later, she helped me find cherries...

She gave me an offer and said it was someone else's.

I asked a series of parameters, and she didn't answer them. I said that my principle is very simple, that is, this batch of goods, I give the other party 5,000 yuan of profits, you ask if you can do it, can do it, can not do it, do not need to talk to me about the market price and the like, so the fairest, is that you calculate your overall cost, I add 5,000 yuan on top of this cost.

She said, "Yes. ”

I asked, "Did you do it?" ”

She asked, "How do you know?" ”

I said, "If you haven't done business, you have to ask me what kind of business you do." Did you send your money to the other party? ”

She said, "Hit. ”

I asked, "Did you see the sample?" Is it a public account or a private account? If the shipment is not given to you, do you have any vouchers? ”

She said, "Wouldn't you?" What I searched online should not be a scammer. ”

I said, "You are now stepping up to implement these problems, first get the money back, the moment the money leaves your pocket, it does not necessarily belong to you, you are like no firewall." You come in with a rotten cherry, a small one, what to do? In the end, I should be wronged? If I am not right, you will be. ”

She said: "I really didn't think about that. ”

I said, "Be bold, be careful, treat your customers with the idea that everyone is a good person." Treating business partners is different, presupposing that everyone is a bad person, which is why I don't take credit, because I presuppose the other person as a bad person. ”

"It seems that I really don't fit into business," she said. ”

I said: "Everyone has their own character shortcomings, since you know that you are such a weak person, you should avoid the shortcomings and do something that you are good at." Do you think you've thrown hundreds of thousands over the years? The savings of the two of you are almost tossed by you, right? Don't you really feel bad about the money? Not heartache is fake, the child goes to American summer camp, you

Why didn't you let me sign up? Isn't it painful for the 80,000 yuan registration fee? ”

I said, "Don't you toss it, you know what I think?" Whenever I watch you toss and turn, I want to pay you a salary, just hope that you don't jump up. ”

She asked, "Don't your two sisters want to make money?" ”

I said, "They really don't want to, they just want to be officials, now they are all petty officials, very happy, occasionally I subsidize them, if they start a business, it is really unique, but they never thought about it, I don't want them to start a business, because there is no talent." 」 I also have no talent, I start a business is not called entrepreneurship, because it is all cash-out connections, Qingdao has people come to buy fruit, do you think it is really because our family fruit is good? No, it's just to give us face. ”

She asked: "The money you invested, the money you tossed, is it still less?" ”

I said, "Over the years, the money I have invested has indeed been thrown away, and the more so, the more I feel sorry for myself, the more I feel sorry for you." That's why I repeatedly persuaded my daughter-in-law, no matter how big the entrepreneur asked us to borrow money, we didn't borrow, no matter how good the project, we didn't mix, why? Because the money left our pockets, it wasn't ours. I can buy a Maserati for the tuition I paid, and if I ask for it, I can get it back, but I can't open my mouth, because I can't open my mouth, so I force you to open your mouth. What I can't do myself, ask you to do. ”

She asked, "Do you understand me?" ”

I said, "The other difference is that I've stood up, and that little bit of money doesn't matter to me, but unlike you, $100,000 is still a huge amount." ”

A few days ago, there was a sister who borrowed 1 million yuan to become an Internet proxy.

I tried to persuade him.

In the end, it's useless!

Women can't be persuaded, only she herself hurts may regret it, now regret it, let me help ask for money, why do I mean to open my mouth?

Isn't that tearing down a friend's desk?

At that time, I told her: "If it is really an opportunity, why may the agency in shandong fall into your hands?" Friends in the aperture robbed, why didn't everyone grab? Because it's not an opportunity, it's a trap, so why don't you believe it? ”

What are the results of office workers' entrepreneurship?

Gave away years of savings to someone else...

There are few exceptions!

Yesterday, I went to find a storefront, we opened a Hanting next to our house, I want to rent a store on the first floor, mainly selling souvenirs, why?

Because, we are a tourist city here, and the guests definitely want to bring some souvenirs back.

Because this street has not been developed, most of the façade houses have closed, and the locals do not know how powerful Hanting is, and some people conclude that they will not be able to open for a few days.

Why am I bullish?

Because, Hanting's passenger flow is not from the local, but from the network order, the opening day was full of cars, all over the country.

This street will definitely be moved, then you can rent these façade houses near Hanting.

I'm not subletting, I'm just for my own use.

A mutton restaurant was opened next to the Hanting.

This place belongs to a one-way street, the road is narrow, it is not good to park, there is a parking space in front of the mutton restaurant, I drove the car over, the boss greeted each other with a hot face, we are not embarrassed to refuse, go to drink a bowl of mutton soup, just as a parking fee.

In the shop, there was no one.

I asked, "How long has it been driving?" ”

He said: "Three months. ”

I asked, "How much is the rent?" ”

He said: "20,000 a year, two floors up and down. ”

I asked, "Where did you do it before?" ”

"This is the first time to start a business," he said. ”

I asked, "Ever studied a chef?" ”

He said: "No, I have killed sheep at home during the New Year's Festival, and everyone in the village says it is delicious." ”

I said, "You're too bold, so you dare to open a store?" ”

He said, "Take your time." ”

I asked, "How much can I make in a day?" ”

He said: "I earned 2,000 yuan on october 1. ”

I asked, "What about this month?" ”

"You may be losing money this month," he said. ”

I asked, "What did you do before?" ”

He said, "Welder, seven or eight years, enough, you know the west and the east, right?" I worked from Xinjiang to Shijiazhuang. ”

I asked, "How much can I make in a month?" ”

He said, "10,000 to 15,000." ”

I asked, "Isn't that better than opening a store?" ”

He said: "It's not the work of people, the roasting is terrible, the radiation is terrible, whether it is winter or summer, we all wear cowhide protective clothing, the sweat is really like rain, come back once a year, in the blink of an eye seven or eight years of youth is gone." ”

I said, "This place is not suitable for opening a restaurant, and parking is not convenient." ”

He said, "Get ready to find a new place, find someone who can kill sheep at the door." ”

I said, "If you move away at any time, give me a call, it's my business card, I want to come over and open a shop." ”

He said, "Okay. ”

I said, "There is no transfer fee for the house in this place, I can give you 2,000 yuan transfer fee." ”

He said, "I'll talk about it later." ”

I asked, "Is the whole profit or loss now?" ”

"There was no recoup of the cost," he said. ”

I asked, "It should be good to go abroad to work, you are a skilled worker, you can also immigrate." ”

He said: "Do you remember the headline of the news one year was to take the Chinese brothers home?" It was all my co-workers, 8 went, 7 died, were killed by terrorists in Sudan, one of them was also shot, but he just gritted his teeth and pretended to die and hid. ”

I said, "You've escaped." ”

He said: "I didn't get my passport out, otherwise I would have gone too." ”

I asked, "Has there been a lot less foot traffic lately?" ”

He said: "I went to Ginza at 9 p.m. the night before, and there was no one on the street, and there was no one in the supermarket. ”

I said, "Maybe it's cold." ”

He said: "It's not easy to do in a lamb shop right now. ”

I said: "You go to see the mutton shop in Juxian County, a shop has a daily turnover of 120,000, the meal has to queue up, and it is completely self-help, people only sell mutton, after cutting it, put it in the bowl for you, you go to scoop the soup yourself, the pot has such a big table, it is very shocking, friends in Jinan have come to drink mutton soup." ”

He said, "I've heard of it. ”

I said, "We also have a branch here, and in the East Outer Ring, you can go and learn." ”

He asked, "How do you think I'm doing?" ”

I said: "Home-style, at first glance, it is made by rural people themselves, there is too little meat, too many bones, too much soup." ”

"The cost is here," he said. ”

I said, "Why is that house in Juxian on fire?" Because how much meat you buy is in the bowl, you can see clearly. Foreign propaganda said that the sheep were bought from the mountains, in fact, those sheep are the sheep in the market, the boss told me, there is no difference in raw materials, that is, the level of boiling lamb is just a little higher. ”

He asked, "Which one else do you eat more distinctive?" ”

I said, "There is a lamb hot pot restaurant in the south of Anqiu Court, the door is very small, but the business is particularly hot, the lamb is all hand-cut, at least 100 kilometers away from us, right?" I specifically went to eat it twice and it was addictive. The meat was fresh, not a meat roll. ”

He said: "Most of the meat rolls are not lamb, I originally wanted to go to the lamb hot pot, I went to the market to ask, people will tell us the truth, cheap meat rolls do not have lamb, expensive inside part is lamb." ”

I said, "The two companies I'm talking about, people are making real things, it doesn't matter if the price is more expensive, Juxian is only 5 yuan more expensive than you." ”

He said: "5 yuan of meat, it is very different. ”

I asked, "How much does it cost to grill a leg of lamb?" ”

He said: "Fried delicious, indispensable to the cost of 15 yuan." ”

I asked, "How much does it cost?" ”

He said, "20? At most this price. ”

I said, "Have you eaten that roast leg of lamb on the snowy mountain?" Need to queue, 40 yuan a leg, I can eat four legs myself, things are so delicious, no one cares about the price. ”

"Next year, I'm ready to expand," he said. ”

I said, "Open a shop, there is a very beef B dish on the line, either the lamb soup is really delicious, or the leg of lamb is really delicious, why is the Sichuan restaurant next to you on fire?" It's because his duck head is delicious. ”

He said: "Catering is really hard to do. ”

I said, "Yes! ”

I was thinking, if I were him, I would be mixing in the field of welding and engineering, because this is my specialty, I hate welding does not matter, I can just direct and not do.

But I can't go into another unfamiliar realm, any seemingly simple realm where the water is deep.

Last year, a friend in Qingdao came to play with me, I took him to drink the local famous chicken soup, he was moved, feel that this chicken soup is too delicious, if you go to Qingdao to open a family, then it is worth it?

One ask, the franchise fee is very cheap, 20,000 5.

The more he analyzed, the more he felt that it was an opportunity, and the head of the story with me was the Tao, the three elements of successful catering: taste, location, and positioning.

He had inspected it twice and was ready to pay the franchise fee.

I said, "I'll take you to their second and third stores, and you'll see, the business won't work." ”

He asked, "Why?" ”

I said, "You've overlooked one of the core elements of entrepreneurship, which is people!" Who is the boss is key. When I went to a shop, the boss and the hostess personally received, you look at their kind of laughter, it is a smile with a sense of respect, I just came because I liked the smile of the hostess. But what about the owners of the second and third stores? Dragons and tigers give people a feeling of impropriety. ”

He said: "I think I will be a very good boss. ”

I said: "Anyway, this matter you have to consider well, I mean not against you to join, but to make you rational, do not think that joining will be able to make money, Jinan's yellow stewed chicken engaged in a lot of fire, but the real money of the store is very few, the brand side to make money is a real thing." ”

Don't easily enter unfamiliar territory, every industry has invisible rules, and it takes a price to find out these rules, either time or tuition, and it is a small probability event to be self-taught.

Why am I against my daughter-in-law starting a business?

Because, every industry she tries to enter is a strange industry, and the investment is relatively large, such as cafes, clothing stores, and so on.

The night before, the mall annual meeting, almost all brand owners attended.

I am now completely tied up by the child, before 9 o'clock in the morning, after 4 o'clock in the afternoon, I belong to the child, but I want to go to the party, mixed in the people's territory, is the need to dedicate, usually in the article is quite bone-headed, in fact, I met those people, but also bowed their heads, I said not to drink, the leader let me drink, I will still take a glass of white wine, a look up, dry.

The KFC boss was also there.

She drank three bottles of red wine...

I said, "My son wants ice cream." ”

She said, "I'll arrange for someone to take it." ”

I asked, "Why did you drink so much?" ”

She said, "Happy! ”

She poured me a glass of red wine.

I said, "I don't mix wine, so I'll drink a glass of white, you guys, and I'll go home." ”

Took my son to KFC to grab an ice cream and walked home, thinking that they must be full of foreign affairs tonight, drinking too much, I drank two glasses, half a pound of liquor does not matter, I drink a pound of liquor is fine.

Back home, the KFC landlady asked on QQ: "Did you see Wu Zong and Xiao Huang in the corridor?" ”

I said, "See, hug each other, Xiao Huang drank too much." ”

She said, "Why is Xiao Huang like this?" Usually so honest. ”

I said, "Honest people do great things." ”

I'm different from them, they're surprisingly sensitive and resentful of these things, but I'm often caught up in them, and I seem to have been relieved a long time ago, and I don't have any close relationship with anyone in the mall.

Is there a chance?

Once, when sending Pingping home, at the turn, she unfastened her seat belt, and the car was dead...

I said, "Fasten your seatbelts." ”

Afterwards, Pingping sent me a message: I want to hug you.

I thought to myself, did she treat me like a cultural person?

I'm really in the stage of lust for profit now, and I see money more than that, and these things are my bombs. It doesn't matter who the leaders want, who they want to give face to. I was different, countless eyes staring at me.

Lu Xiaomi said: "Between the meetings of the newspaper today, everyone is still talking about you, saying that you are less literary and artistic, or you like white-faced students. ”

I said: "I say a word, don't despise me, my task now is to make money, other things can only be auxiliary, I need money, because money is the foundation and bridge for me to realize my dreams, what is the use of my dreams?" It's just a matter of thinking about it. ”

She said: "I don't despise, in fact, everyone wants money, but everyone doesn't say it, you say it, everyone despises you." ”

I said, "The sense of security and fulfillment that comes with having money is something I've never felt before." I hope that life has more possibilities, and it is not time, not space, but money that binds my life. I have a lot of dreams, but I need money to support it, do you really want me to become a poor student? ”

She asked, "Your current business experience is to send, right?" ”

I said: "Yes, Yilin Yiguo is made by a big sister, she has 1 million pounds of reserves, all of them are of the best grade, and all the high-end shopping malls are walking, such as Sunshine Department Store, Hisense Plaza and the like, these days are preparing to plan an event, free delivery." ”

She asked, "Why do you give it away for free?" ”

I said, "As long as it's really delicious, there will be repeat customers." It is not aimlessly free to send, but for self-media free delivery, such as cooperating with Wen yi and sending it to her fans. ”

She asked, "Is free delivery really powerful?" ”

I said: "I send books every day, a day is only four or five thousand costs, but the profit is at least 5 times, when the strawberries just came down, 198 yuan a box, a friend asked for 80 boxes at a time, because I sent her a book, her 80 boxes are used to return to high-end customers." ”

She said: "I kind of don't understand. ”

I asked, "I ask you a question, you don't have to answer me, when you receive my gift, are you happy?" Will it be sunburned? Is my impression in your mind a plus? If you think it's really good, will you go to my store to buy it? If a friend asks, will you volunteer to act as my salesman? I've sent out so many red scarves, what's the most feedback I get? Sleep around too! ”

She said: "I can't understand it for the time being. ”

I said, "360 defeated Jinshan and Ruixing, that is, he understood this, and gave it first!" ”