We all know that having a smart and healthy "big fat kid" is almost the biggest wish in the hearts of every young parent.
However, as the pressure of life becomes increasing, in order to improve the quality of life, basically everyone in the family will go out to work.
As a result, many newborn babies have to face a difficult situation of no one to take care of.
It is in this situation that the sister-in-law is becoming more and more popular.
Especially in many big cities, almost all families will ask their sister-in-law to help take care of their children.
The rise of confinement does provide a good solution to the social problem of unattended babies.
However, after all, it is not their own children, is it really safe to let the sister-in-law help with the baby?
On this issue, Mr. Geng from Henan Province has the most right to speak.
What happened to him?
01
It happened a year ago.
Mr. Geng, whose family lives in Zhengzhou City, Henan Province, is a high-achieving student at a university in Henan Province, and is now Chinese New Year's Eve years old.
He is a regular employee of a local unit and has a good income.
Two years ago, Mr. Geng was introduced by a friend and met Ms. Ye, who also works locally, and after several months of interaction, the two "quasi-elderly youths" finally entered the palace of marriage hand in hand.
After marriage, Ms. Ye, who was completely unprepared, soon found out that she was actually pregnant.
This incident can also be regarded as a windfall for this warm little family.
After a few months, Ms. Ye's belly gradually grew, so she applied for maternity leave from the unit and raised the baby at home.
It was also at this time that Mr. Geng's mother took the initiative to ask miao to go to her son's new house to take care of her daughter-in-law.
"For a woman, having children is a lifelong event, and we must not let our daughters-in-law suffer a little grievance!" The mother-in-law said firmly.
After all, women understand women best, and mothers-in-law know better than anyone how painful it is to be pregnant.
However, ideals are beautiful, and reality is often very harsh.
In the third trimester of pregnancy, Ms. Ye became very lazy because she had a big belly, and housework could no longer help a little.
And Mr. Geng is forced by the pressure of life, and the socialization during this time has become extremely much, often leaving early and returning late.
As a result, the housework all fell on the mother-in-law.
In this regard, Mr. Geng's mother has no complaints, and will say to the two children every day:
"One of you two just takes care of work, the other just rests, and all the work at home is taken over to me!"
However, things soon went beyond the family's imagination.
Although the mother-in-law is full of enthusiasm, she is old and weak, and her energy is insufficient, and she has only spent the past two months.
Because of overwork, he fainted on the sofa in the living room.
At this point, Mr. Geng was anxious.
The wife has a big belly, not to mention, if the mother does something again, he may never be able to forgive himself.
The ambulance soon arrived, and fortunately, after the examination, it was learned that the mother did not have any major problems, but only because of overwork and lack of sleep for a while.
In the future, as long as you pay more attention to rest, you can be safe and sound.
For this accident, Mr. Geng's mother did not pay any attention to it, and when she returned home, she still had to do what to do, and the housework was still all inclusive.
However, although the mother did not care, Mr. Geng and his lover could not think so.
Although the wife and children are important, they cannot be indebted to the frail mother.
"After the baby is born, let's ask for a sister-in-law."
On a silent night, Ms. Ye said to her husband.
Moved to tears, Mr. Geng took his wife in his arms and said excitedly:
"Thank you for your understanding, wife, I love you."
Ms. Ye gently punched her husband and said to him:
"What are you talking about, she is also my mother, please sister-in-law, although it is not cheap, but we are both on the job, how to use enough."
After making up his mind, the two little ones' hearts that had been hanging for a long time finally let go, and soon fell asleep.
That night, the two had the same dream.
They dreamed that the child was finally born, eight pounds and three pairs, born white and fat, not to mention how likable it was.
Mr. Geng almost laughed out loud in his dreams, he was full of confidence in a better future, and likewise, full of expectations.
02
Pregnant in October, in a hospital in Zhengzhou City, the baby carried the hopes of the whole family and finally landed on the ground.
Although the little guy did not have eight pounds and three or two, he was also energetic enough, and the family's heart was also happy to blossom.
Under the recommendation of the hospital, Mr. Geng contacted a confinement center and found a sister-in-law with ten years of work experience on the same day.
The mother was finally able to catch her breath, Mr. Geng thought to himself.
Of course, for this matter, Mr. Geng's mother really has too much reluctance in her heart.
She was obviously not yet sixty years old, but now she was an "idle person".
Now, even the granddaughter can't see it.
Although she knew that her son was thinking about his own body, she still couldn't accept it in her heart for a while.
"However, since the child is already taken care of by my sister-in-law, I will take the time to clean up the home well!" The mother-in-law thought so in her heart.
A day later, Mr. Geng returned to work, and Ms. Ye also received sufficient rest after giving birth.
However, things soon went beyond their imagination.
On the second day of the child's birth, it was already evening, and after Mr. Geng's family had eaten dinner, they sat on the sofa and watched TV.
This kind of leisurely time, they seem to have not enjoyed for a long time.
……
"Boo!" With a loud bang, the baby's cries instantly filled every corner of the room.
"Wow! wow! wow! ”
"Gee, what's wrong?" The family instantly panicked.
They clearly saw that this baby, who was born less than 48 hours ago, was actually thrown to the ground by the sister-in-law's head down!
That's it!
Mr. Geng quickly ran over and picked up the child.
The baby's cries have been hoarse, and a large blood bag has been bulging out of the baby's head!
Mr. Geng felt that his heart was in pain as if it were dripping blood!
The child's mother and grandmother also ran over, and the family circled around the baby.
Ms. Ye was most sad, indeed, she said that mother and son were connected, and seeing that the child who was born less than forty-eight hours ago was so seriously injured.
The young mother's inner defenses collapsed in an instant, and she cried tears.
"Don't get hysterical! Get your child to the hospital and get a comprehensive exam first! ”
The grandmother was the first to react and hurriedly said to her son.
"Yes, yes! Go to the hospital, go to the hospital! ”
The family of three quickly left the house with the newborn in their arms and drove to the hospital.
Mr. Geng's home is only a short twenty minutes away from the hospital, but walking on the road, they clearly feel that every minute on the road is suffering.
This was a feeling they had never felt in thirty years, and they realized at this time that the love of parents for their children could be so desperate and tear their hearts and lungs apart!
At this time, in the hearts of the couple, in addition to endless worries, there is also deep self-blame!
Good end, please what a sister-in-law!
If you start by looking at your own children, where does this happen?
And the self-blame in Grandma's heart is the most serious, she thinks that she is not in good health, if she does not faint one day,
Children will not go to the sister-in-law because of their heartache, and their granddaughter will not be thrown to the ground!
Babies are less than two days old, the brain development is not complete, once there is a three long and two short, how can they be good?
03
Because of the urgency of the situation, the results of the inspection came out quickly.
Every sentence on the report is shocking!
Diagnosis shows that the baby has intracranial hemorrhage!
Intracranial hemorrhage, which is what we often call cerebral hemorrhage!
This is a newborn born less than 48 hours old!
Although the amount of bleeding is not serious, but after all, the child's brain development is not complete, in the future, in case there is a three long and two short, but what can they do?
"What to do, what to do?" Since seeing the child fall, Ms. Ye's tears have not stopped.
At this time, she finally thought: Where is the sister-in-law?
Why didn't she follow?
Mr. Geng could not extricate himself in endless anger, so he immediately dialed the phone of his sister-in-law, but a blind voice came from the handset:
"Sorry, the phone you made is turned off..."
Mr. Geng's sword eyebrows furrowed, and he said angrily, "Is it difficult to run away?" ”
He immediately drove back to his home, but when he saw that the house was empty, where was the half-figure of his sister-in-law?
If you can run a monk, can you still run a temple? Mr. Geng immediately drove to the Yuezi Center.
However, the words spoken by the person in charge of the Yuezi Center made him even more angry, and he only listened to the person in charge say:
"Children wrestle, are unavoidable things, almost every day will happen, and when the crying is tired, it will naturally stop, there is no need to make a fuss."
The sister-in-law is busy day and night, if she is not too tired, this kind of thing will not happen. ”
Is that all there is to it? Naturally, Mr. Geng will not give up, but what people did not expect was that the Yuezi Center actually said:
"Didn't you just fall?" It's not a big deal, do you still want to stay in the hospital and not leave? ”
The attitude of the person in charge is absolutely unacceptable to Mr. Geng's family.
In desperation, Mr. Geng had to contact the local news media, who hoped to use the power of the media to help themselves get justice.
The reporter hoped to see the sister-in-law, but was told that she had been dismissed from the unit.
When confronted, the person in charge still said unforgivingly: "The child is not a big deal.
It was Mr. Geng's family who deliberately stayed in the hospital and did not leave. ”
Both sides have their own reasons and still argue endlessly.
A few hours later, under the mediation of the reporter, the person in charge finally lowered his head and apologized to Mr. Geng's family.
They also said that all the costs of treatment during the baby's hospitalization are borne by them.
The matter was finally initially resolved.
However, the baby's life is fragile after all, and the baby crash accident is fortunately not serious, otherwise, Mr. Geng's family may have to live in the abyss of pain for the rest of their lives.
Mr. Geng also used his real experience to tell everyone a fact, taking care of babies, we must always be vigilant, and we must not have the slightest paralysis!
Because even a small mistake can have very serious consequences.
As for whether you should ask for a sister-in-law, it seems that you still can't find a clear statement.
What do you think?