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Now the elderly in previous years will not rely on their children to pension, but arrange their own old age life, so at this time they will give themselves a nanny, that is, because more and more elderly people ask for nannies, so the development of the nanny industry is getting bigger and bigger.
In the past, basically women went to be nannies, never heard of men to do nannies, but now more and more men do nannies, because male nannies have advantages, although female nannies are very careful, but some things they can't do, such as the elderly who can't take care of themselves, where women can't do it, it's very difficult to take care of the elderly when they can't take care of themselves, so some old people can't take care of themselves when they will choose to ask a male nanny to come back to take care of themselves.
A 48-year-old Uncle Liu is a live-in nanny, his employer gave him 9,000 yuan a month, although the salary is very high, but he is not happy at all, and he is also very aggrieved, and then the employer promised to give him a salary increase, but he was very angry, said to the employer: "Even if you add 20,000 yuan I will not do it, because this job is too undignified", why do you say so, let's take a look at Uncle Liu's story together.
Uncle Liu is 48 years old
Uncle Liu is 48 years old, I never thought I would be a nanny, but now I have been a nanny for 3 or 4 years, in my nanny, I have never told people outside, because I feel very humiliated, if I say it, it will definitely be laughed at by others, to be honest, I don't want to be a nanny, but I have to force my family to need money, so I can only choose to be a nanny.
My family is in the countryside, my parents gave birth to a son and did not regenerate, so the responsibility of taking care of my parents fell on my head, when they were sick, my pressure was very large, when my parents were sick, it was necessary to spend a lot of money to go to the hospital at least more than 1,000 yuan, although at that time my wife helped me take care of my parents, wanted me to come out and concentrate on work, but the money I earned was not enough money for my parents to spend in the hospital, so I discussed with my wife and chose to be a nanny.
No one likes to be a nanny, being a nanny is so humiliating, if it is not the family has no money, I will not be able to go to the babysitter, at first my wife can not accept me to be a nanny, think I am a big man to be a babysitter is particularly humiliating, and she also said let her go out to talk to people about me when what to do? If you tell people that her husband is a nanny, then she is even more faceless, so she does not like me to be a nanny, but if I do not become a nanny, I have extra money to treat my parents, and what money to feed the family, since my wife at this time only cares about herself and ignores my feelings, she resolutely does not agree with me to be a nanny, she said that if I insist on doing it, she will divorce me.
I never thought that my wife would divorce me because I was a babysitter, I thought she just didn't like me to be a babysitter, and it was not true, but in the end she divorced me, she was also very serious, I thought that I was a nanny really made her so humiliated, but then the people in my village told me that I saw her dating a strange man outside, I was angry and hateful, but they were divorced, it didn't matter what they said, women like her don't want to.
Later, I did not choose other jobs, but always worked as a nanny, although I have suffered a lot when I was a nanny over the years, and I have also suffered a lot, but I did not give up, and I did not dare to resign, because my parents were still waiting for my money to treat the disease.
I have been divorced from my wife for so many years, I have never remarried, I have never thought of remarrying, I do not believe that there are women who will be good to me, and there will be no women like me in a family like me, with the money I have earned over the years as a nanny, my parents have also received better treatment, and slowly their bodies have also been stabilized, and they do not have to go to the hospital often, which is still worth rejoicing for me.
Although my parents' health has improved, but my pressure has never eased, because I still have a child, not yet married, I have to think about their future, especially my son, a family like me, I don't know if there will be girls willing to marry into this family, if I work harder, maybe I can buy a house outside for my son, so that there are girls willing to marry him, now girls are more realistic, no money will not live with you, My ex-wife also got along well with the men out there because I didn't have any money.
This year I gave an employer half a year to take care of, at first I thought he was very good to take care of, but in the end I found that he is particularly difficult to serve, he is 75 years old this year, and his body can not take care of himself, his legs are paralyzed, to be honest, when I did not come to his house to take care of him, I never thought of taking care of him, because in the nanny group he is already a black household, many nannies have been to his home to take care of him, but none of them are smiling and walking out. Basically, it was not forced by him to resign and not to do anything, and I thought in my heart that I could not go to his house to take care of it, but then he gave me a particularly tempting condition, he said to give me a salary of 9,000 yuan a month, and if I did a good job, he would give me a long time in the future, and because he said these words to let me stay.
When I went to his house, I was mentally prepared, because my colleagues had told me about him, so when I was asked to be his nanny, I must be mentally prepared, otherwise I would definitely cry like them.
But after going to the employer's house, I found that he was really very difficult to serve, even if I did not have to be mentally prepared, it was useless, although he could not take care of himself physically, but he was particularly strong, and a look made you feel afraid.
Not only that, he also has a mouth that can speak of dead people, when I take care of him, I have never seen his mouth stop for a moment, every day there are endless words, and he does not use water, he is also very idle, every day when I do housework, he has to stare at me, and after doing housework he also has to check, just like a teacher checks homework, and when I cook him, he still has to let me taste it first, otherwise he will think that I will put poison to go in, want to poison him.
No matter how careful I was every day, no matter how well I did, he scolded him, his house was a kind of duplex building with stairs in it, every day he asked me to mop the floor with special floor cleaning liquid, and there could not be a little dust, otherwise he would scold me.
And I think he is a particularly unclean person, but there is a clean old man, every time I want to change his diapers when he does not want, he thinks that only children use things, he is an adult can not use this kind of thing, I told him, if he does not use it will wet the bed, and the smell will be very bad, when the time to wash it is more troublesome, but he said: "I invited you to come to take care of me, I want you to do what you do, where so many words, I said no package, no package, Even if I wet the bed, you have to help me change."
Employers have said so, I dare not mention it again, but he is really very excessive, he changed the washed clothes can not let me put the washing machine to wash, must be washed by hand, he also told me that washing with the washing machine will ruin his clothes, but also will cross color, at first I thought he was more frugal, so let me wash by hand, and later I learned that all this is his intention, he just does not want me to live well, specifically to find some hard work for me to do, he just thinks that he spent so much money to invite me back, it should not be so easy, So every day non-stop, torturing me, finding me something to do.
But even if I knew his intentions, what was the use? He was my employer, and I couldn't resist, and I had to rely on him to earn money to support my family, so every time he said something, I only had to obey, never refuted a word, no matter how hard he tried to make me, I wouldn't think about resigning.
Then once I went to the market to buy him some bones and came back to make soup for him to drink, I stayed up for three hours, and then I brought him over to feed him to drink, and when I fed him, he spilled the soup with one hand and just spilled it on my body, and he said I wanted to burn him, I was really angry and angry, I felt that the employer did not respect me at all, and I felt that I was living a particularly undignified life, I had already done everything according to him, but he still did it to me.
And every time his children come back, they will say that I bully him, do not give him food, and often scold him, every time his children hear this, they will immediately come to scold me, saying that I will make me look good again, I was really wronged at that time, he always bullied me, but he said that I abused him, I can't think of how there is such an old man, I can't speak reasonably, but no matter how much they insult me, I didn't think about resigning, but until one time, I couldn't bear it. I resigned decisively.
The last time his friend came to see him, people brought their wives with them, but his friend's wife may be unaccustomed to it, he kept covering his mouth, saying that the taste was a little big, he couldn't stand it, at that time he was particularly embarrassed after listening to this sentence, but he didn't get angry on the spot, I thought things had just passed, but after sending away his friend, he immediately got angry with me, and also picked up the teacup and threw it at me, and I just didn't come and flashed away, it hit my nose, and my nose immediately bleeded.
I almost fainted at the moment he smashed down, if I hadn't held on to something, maybe I would have fainted here, that is, this time, I couldn't stand it anymore, and then I scolded him, and when he hit me, he didn't say sorry to me, but also said that it was all my fault, he was so humiliated, I never had such a grievance, so I offered my resignation to him.
At this time, his son asked me to stay, said to give me a salary increase, plus 3,000, I said: "Even if you add 20,000 to me, I will not stay, your father is too precious, I can't afford to serve, I don't want to suffer this grievance again, working in your home has no dignity at all."
Conclusion
Although some employers are also good, but encounter some unreasonable employers, really make a special grievance, and the nanny is also a person, but also by their own hands to make money, as an employer should respect others, consider the feelings of others, only in this way, people will respect you, take care of you, but such employers are indeed very few, do not respect the nanny at all, and finally let him can not find the nanny who really takes care of him.