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Last night, our mother group was lively again, and I climbed upstairs carefully to see that it was a mother who was complaining about her big sister. She said, "My sister mixes things with us every day, like a second mother-in-law." "For example, secretly telling her mother's husband that the money cannot be managed by the daughter-in-law, or it is more reassuring to hand it over to her mother for safekeeping." However, her eldest sister is like a "tigress" in her family, and the family's financial power is caught to death, and she does not know how to say that her sister-in-law is not at ease.
For example, the sister also knocked on the side all day to urge them to have a second child. Because the eldest is a daughter, my sister always said: "We must have a second child, we must have a son, but we can't let our old Li family die." And he said it in front of the child. Once, the daughter of the treasure mother asked, "Mom, what is the queen?" She didn't even know how to answer. She was very angry, her sister herself had the idea of preferring sons to daughters, she had fertility anxiety, but she came to meddle in the affairs of the two of them, did her old Li family have the imperial succession? Besides, she is married and still in charge of so many things in her mother's family. The key is not to let the sister-in-law manage the money, is the sister-in-law stupid? Let the white be a fertility robot?
Bao Ma's complaint resonated, which made people very helpless, because many Bao Mom said that they also had an "aunt" and "little sister" who loved to take care of their mother's family affairs, and even some were mixed and divorced.
Having children is a good thing and a responsibility, and young people who have a second child or not will weigh it up for themselves
In fact, with the opening of the three-child policy, many young people have successively given birth to second and third children, which is a good thing. After all, more children are contributing labor to society, children can also be companyd with each other, they can help each other when they grow up, and parents have one more child to retire when they are old, and they are also blessed.
However, having children is a good thing and a responsibility, and it is necessary to raise them well and give children a good living environment and educational environment. In addition, now advocating "home-school co-education", parents should cooperate with the school's education in an all-round way, pick up and drop off children every day, tutor homework, etc., all account for a lot of parents' energy, to be honest, many people are screaming and eating. Therefore, whether to have a second child or not, young people will weigh it up on their own, thinking that they will be born at the right time. Do not want to give birth, others no longer urge useless, urge to the end, can afford to raise, the birth of the people is just thankless.
Married women are less in charge of the family affairs of the mother, otherwise the parents are not in their own and then want to go back is easy to annoy people
In addition, like Bao Ma's complaining, the sister's mixing with the family affairs of the two families is really annoying. Girls who have been married can go back to their mother's house to find warmth and send warmth, but it is a bit unpopular to come back to pick up trouble and interfere in the family affairs of their mother. After all, they are all adults, and what happens between husband and wife could have been well solved, but once the sister is mixed, it may become a big thing. Therefore, some bao mom complained, almost mixed by the aunt or sister-in-law to divorce.
Besides, for married women, they all understand a truth: if they have parents, their mother's home is home; if their parents are not there, their mother's family will not be able to go back. If you are more fond of mixing with your mother's family, after your parents are gone, it will be more difficult to go back, and it will be easier to annoy your sister-in-law or sister-in-law. Therefore, it is better to get along happily, so that after a hundred years of parents, brothers and sisters can still be relatives rather than enemies.
When encountering a difficult "sister", Bao Mama cannot be too weak, and must learn to resolve it with hardness and wisdom
Finally, let's talk about the "sisters" who are overwhelmed by the mothers. Some people are mixed up by their aunts and after-marriage affairs, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not compatible, husband and wife are not harmonious, and some are even forced to divorce. In fact, in the face of such an aunt, the mothers cannot be too weak, and the more they swallow, the more she will have to advance. Bao Mom should be in a position, she is the hostess of the family, and she cannot think of herself as an "outsider". Moreover, the days are your own, do not allow others to point fingers.
Of course, the sister or sister-in-law is the sister of the husband after all, if you are directly rigid and directly afraid, it will also affect the feelings between them, which will make the husband embarrassed. Therefore, Bao Mama must learn to solve problems both hard and wisely, pretend to be soft and pretend to be affinity, who would not? As long as you are not ashamed, and you are sincere to your in-laws and husbands and sisters, even if you make trouble in the future, you will be justified.
Today's topic: Netizens, what do you think of this kind of "sister" who loves to meddle in her mother's family affairs?
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After becoming a mother, every day the mood is like riding a roller coaster. Just because of the child's naughtiness half dead, in the blink of an eye because of the child's warm words and moved to the end. To be a mother is to shuttle back and forth between anger and love... I hope to keep charging and be the "mother" that children want most in their hearts.
He has been engaged in children's book editing, children's famous book analysis, and has written interviews with entrepreneurs, pension directors, lawyers and other celebrities, and is now keen on parenting writing. Pay attention to [Lemon Fruit Parenting] Everyone learns together every day, makes progress together, warms each other, and shepherds babies on the clouds.
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