In real life, in many cases, rejection is an embarrassing thing. But throughout the ages, there have been many things related to rejection, which can be called classics, and let us experience the wisdom of rejection.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", when Lin Daiyu faced Lady Xing's "bitter stay" for dinner, she smiled back and said, "My aunt cherished the gift of food, and she should not have resigned, but she still had to go to see her second uncle, afraid that she would not be ashamed to receive the gift, and it was not impossible to receive it again another day." I hope my aunt will forgive me. Lin Daiyu first thanked her aunt for "giving rice", and then found out the reason for seeing her second uncle, and also said that she would "receive it again" another day. This appropriate and appropriate remark made Madame Xing very comfortable listening to it, took the initiative to cancel the meal, and laughed and said, "This is true."
This very decent remark not only achieved the purpose of refusing to eat, but also expressed gratitude and respect for Lady Xing, which can be described as a great joy for everyone.
The Tang Dynasty poet Zhang Zhi has a poem "Festival of Women's Grievances", which is very interesting. "Junzhi concubines have husbands, give concubines double pearls, feel the lingering meaning of the king, tied in the red luozhi." The concubines' high-rise buildings are raised, and the good people hold the Mingguang Li; the Zhijun's heart is like the sun and the moon, and the husband vows to live and die together. Jun Mingzhu wept bitterly, hating not meeting when they were not married! ”
How does this intelligent woman deal with the harassment of men? She first accepted the double pearl and tied it to her little red silk jacket, and then calmly said, You like me, I will keep this love in mind, but I can't betray the family under any circumstances. After that, I untied the double pearl and handed it to the man with tears in my eyes, saying, I only hate that I didn't meet such a good person as you when I was not married! Women with a set of "gentle tai chi hands", both to solve the problem well, but also not to embarrass the other party.
Zhou Xuansu was a painter in the early Ming Dynasty, Zhu Yuanzhang asked him to draw a "Map of the World's Rivers and Mountains", Zhou Xuansu secretly cried bitterly, thinking that the great Rivers and Mountains, how to express it with only one painting? Besides, even if it can be painted, if it is not in line with the emperor's wishes, I am afraid that I will have to move my head. If you don't obey the emperor's orders, the result will be even more terrible.
Therefore, he went forward to apologize and said, "The minister has not traveled all over Kyushu, and he does not dare to follow the commandments." He boldly implored His Majesty to activate the imperial pen, first sketch the sketch, and then revise and polish one or two before drawing the "Map of the World's Rivers and Mountains". Zhu Yuanzhang felt that what he said was reasonable, so he personally drew a sketch, and Zhou Xuansu looked at the sketch and began to play: "Your Majesty's country and mountains have been decided, how can there be any changes!"
Zhou Xuansu's horse ass was taken into place, both complimenting the excellence of his paintings and flattering the stability of his country. Although Zhu Yuanzhang knew that he was playing slippery, he listened to his heart and was used, not only did not blame him, but also rewarded him heavily.
The road of life is long, good at rejection is an art of survival, with humor and wisdom to deal with, not only do not hurt others, but also make their lives more relaxed, comfortable and free.