Barkin said: The meaning of life is to give, to give, not to receive, not to take.
Give flowers to others, and you will reap the goodness yourself.
Give knowledge to others, and you will also gain thinking.
Only by knowing how to give can life be rich and happy.
Learning to "give" is the most important compulsory course in our lives.
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Give understanding: it is the premise of everything
In "Zhuangzi On Earth", there is a story about horse lovers and horses.
Because he loves horses, he is very good to his horses,
He used a delicate bamboo basket to hold horse dung, and used a cherished large shell to use as a urinal pot for the horse, and there was no doubt about true love.
On this day, a mosquito gently landed on the horse's back.
The horse lover slapped the horse.
The horse raised its hind legs in pain and kicked at the horse lover.
The horse lover is very aggrieved, he is so good to the horse, why doesn't the horse appreciate it?
Zhuangzi said: "There is meaning, but love has death."
Everyone has their own emotions and will, and learning to understand others is the beginning of kindness.
If you don't know how to respect others, if you don't know how to think differently, no amount of effort is futile.
Parents do not impose their own likes and dislikes on their children, and bosses do not impose their own reasoning on subordinates.
Because you understand, you are compassionate; because you are different, you understand; you learn to understand, and you can live together.
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Giving face: Not giving face is the greatest rudeness
As the saying goes: face is a thing that is given to each other, you don't give it to me, I give it to you, you become a second skin face, I become a faceless skinless.
You give me face, I'll give you face.
Not embarrassing others, not embarrassing others, is a person's top emotional intelligence.
In the "Disciple Rules", it is said: "If people have shortness, they must not reveal it; if people have selfishness, they must not say it." ”
Speak with a sense of proportion, see through not to say broken, everyone is better on the face.
Others can laugh at themselves, but you can't go along with them.
Such people have emotional intelligence.
Seven points, leave three points for people.
Don't do anything, leave three points of life to people.
Everyone has a rainy day without an umbrella.
You silently hold an umbrella for others when it rains heavily, and if rain falls on you in the future, there will be an umbrella on your shoulder.
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Give trust: People who are naturally suspicious cannot have true friends
People's hearts change people's hearts, and you are true to me.
When people interact with each other, the most important thing is a sincere word.
Treat people sincerely and do not pretend, do not have to have a city government, do not have to test each other.
Usually socializing is tired enough, if you can't be sincere when you make friends, then what fun is there.
Zhuangzi said: "If you are not refined, you cannot be sincere, and you cannot move people." ”
Mutual trust between relatives can make the family and everything prosperous;
Friends trust each other in order to always maintain a good friendship;
Mutual trust between strangers can breed small surprises in life.
It is an honor to be trusted, and it is a great happiness to have trustworthy people around you.
When people reach middle age, there are old people on the top and small ones on the bottom, and they have more responsibilities and responsibilities.
A healthy relationship is the focus of running a good business for the rest of your life.
Don't waste time on those who are hypocritical, and be sincere friends with each other is more worthy of our cherishing.
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Give convenience: convenient with people, convenient for yourself
Psychologist Daniel said: "The degree of comfort you make people determines the height you can reach." ”
The famous Tang Dynasty generals Li Guangbi and Guo Ziyi were on a par with each other.
But in the early years, the relationship between the two was very bad.
Both were mid-level officers, eating at the same table, neither of them greeting each other, their eyes cold, ignoring each other.
Later, the emperor appointed Guo Ziyi as a marshal, and Li Guangbi was appointed under Guo Ziyi.
Li Guangbi was afraid of being half dead, afraid that Guo Ziyi would find an excuse to kill himself.
Unexpectedly, Guo Ziyi distributed his 10,000 elite soldiers to Li Guangbi and entrusted him with a heavy responsibility.
Lee Kwang-bi lived up to the trust. In the past seven years, he has fought countless hard battles and helped Guo Ziyi share the huge combat pressure.
It is precisely because of the addition of famous generals such as Li Guangbi that the Anshi Rebellion was put down.
Later, the imperial court recounted the merits, and Li Guangbi and Guo Ziyi were even sealed together, regardless of whether they were in the middle of the world.
In case of rain, umbrellas, there are bridges and bridges.
Building bridges with others is to pave the way for yourself, build more bridges for others, other people's roads are easy to walk, and their own life paths are naturally easy to walk.
Those who are always convenient with others in life will certainly be able to be taken care of by life at all times in the days to come.
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Give applause: Some people have never given a round of applause to anyone else in their lives
A foreigner traveling in Paris meets a street performer near the station, whose melodious piano sound attracts many pedestrians.
After playing a song, the people around them threw money into the money bank, and in the blink of an eye, the money was already filled with the jar. But there was no expression of joy on the seller's face.
"He's already made a lot of money, so why isn't he happy?" The tourist looked at the still melancholy face of the seller and asked doubtfully.
"Maybe he needs applause." Her friend said lightly.
The heart of the tourist was touched. She slowly raised her hand and applauded it. Sure enough, the seller's bleak and thin face slowly opened, and tears of gratitude overflowed from his eyes.
Yes, the final expectation in the hearts of the sellers is applause!
Money is nothing more than a gift from others because of pity for him, and applause is a praise and encouragement for his life experience, a truly selfless recognition from the heart.
People need understanding, they need respect, and they need applause.
We often hear praise from others, so why skimp on applause from others?
Learn to praise others, learn to applaud others, and you will find that the world will become more and more exciting.
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Humble: Humble gentleman, warm as jade
It is recorded in the "Records of History" that Lao Tzu once told Confucius: "Liang Jia is deeply hidden, and a gentleman is as foolish as a fool." ”
This means that a shrewd businessman knows very well how to hide his goods, and on the outside he looks as if he is empty;
A gentleman of high moral character knows very well the morality of the inside, and on the outside he seems to be stupid and dull.
This is the so-called "great wisdom and foolishness."
The combination of humility and Taoist foolishness and darkness can be said to be the great wisdom, great cultivation and great realm of life.
Modesty is the cultivation of the best ordinary mind, a great realm of returning to the basics and being light and not shining.
Never be complacent and arrogant, never think of yourself as superior, think of yourself as noble and despise others.
Humility and humility are the most correct position in life and the best destination.
The wisest way to live in the world is to remain humble and tolerant of others.
Only in this way can life win friends and win respect.
Ru Fengjun said:
Giving is a kind of character, giving is a kind of realm, giving is a kind of grace, giving is a kind of wisdom.
Give to those who deserve it, give for the right thing.
The mountain has a peak, the sea has another shore; a long way, there will eventually be a turn; the aftertaste is bitter, and there will eventually be sweetness.
The sweetness you give to others will eventually turn into hope and warmth, illuminating the way forward.