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In today's society, with people's dependence on the economy, advanced consumption, credit card expenditure and various APP loans have become a part of people's lives, so inadvertently, people's lives have become "dominated by others".
If you want to continue your life, you must fulfill all kinds of external requirements: to complete your own work tasks, to maintain all kinds of social relations that should or should not exist, to pay back all kinds of debts, and so on...
In such a "high-pressure" state, many people are tormented by mental illness, especially depression, and even have the idea of taking their own lives.
The news that individuals can easily end their lives because of various debts and even mishandling of various interpersonal relationships in their lives often enters our field of vision.
Is this choice reasonable? I'm afraid the answer is a matter of opinion. When many people face a certain situation, because their strength at that time is too limited, they can only choose to "go to the end of the road".
In fact, just like there is a Saying in China: "It is better to die than to live", when you want to end your life, you may wish to give yourself another chance.
The thinking behind the documentary
"The Last Lollipop" is a documentary written and directed by He Ku and released in Chinese mainland on August 17, 2018, which expresses the fate of chongqing's "lollipop army" in the tide of the times by telling the experiences and stories of several "lollipop troops" such as Lao Huang and Lao Gan.
People familiar with geography and culture know that China is vast and culturally diverse, and in Chongqing, a mountainous "mountain city", there is a special group of porters who are called "sticks" in the Sichuan-Chongqing dialect, and they rely on their own strength to carry the entire family and destiny almost on their shoulders.
However, with the development of society, people today seem to no longer need this group - today' handling and transportation have been highly improved, human handling seems to be a bit "sacrificial".
Since the director is not professional, the film will not be particularly professional in editing, mirroring and some light processing, and even the process of multi-line narrative will switch not particularly professional.
It is precisely because of the transfer of energy from these professional things to the sculpting of the content of the film itself, so that the director captures the details of almost every starring actor and even every expression very well, and finally can get a high score of 9.7 on Douban.
It is precisely because people's lives are not only artistic pictures that can be expressed under those professional lenses, but a sense of truth.
Almost every protagonist in "The Last Lollipop" encounters different hardships in the film: desperately earning money in order to cure diseases, making a down payment for the next generation, getting a wife for himself, fighting against his own inertia, and so on...
On the one hand, this film expresses the crisis faced by individuals in the torrent of change in the whole society when it is undergoing rapid changes by shooting the trivialities of a group's life; on the other hand, the film also tells us a simple truth: no matter what kind of dilemma you face, you must remember that "it is better to die than to live".
Poverty and choice
One might emphasize one sentence: "There are no poor, only those who don't work hard." ”
Such words in today's society may seem a bit like "poisonous chicken soup", but if we think carefully about some of them, we will find that whether life can achieve achievements, and even the development trend of life, depends to a large extent on personal choices.
Life is like a long journey, and there are only a few key decisions that can affect the final destination.
For students, the results of key tests, the choice of work, and the choice of marriage basically determine the standard of living for the rest of their lives.
This does not mean that there is no chance of repentance when these choices go wrong, of course, it can be constantly adjusted and corrected later, but it will not be smooth sailing.
In today's people's lives, it is actually very valuable to think.
When you are facing a situation of poverty, you may wish to recall the film "The Last Lollipop", in which the protagonists, such as Lao Huang, in order to face various unexpected expenses, had to change their life trajectory, and almost every change used up all their strength, and finally just lived a difficult life, a difficult life.
In fact, many people's lives are like this, every day for some "have to do" things and go to great lengths, but not everyone is just being a porter.
When you are woken up by the alarm clock every day and question with sleepiness why you have to face such a life, you can actually be relieved - this life has no choice, because you can not be defeated by poverty, so you can only work hard.
There are no losers in life, only the poor and the rich, and your poverty is destined for three points and blame yourself for seven points.
So how do you turn yourself into a way of life and stop running and working for your daily livelihood?
As Karl Marx said, change and development are constant themes, but if you want to achieve qualitative change, you should make efforts to make yourself from the accumulation of quantitative changes to the generation of qualitative changes.
In real life, the same is true, if you want to get rid of the powerlessness of the current life, you can either examine yourself and change your path, or you can fundamentally improve yourself and make yourself have a new value.
Henan in "The Last Lollipop" is a relatively inert person, many times he can get the opportunity to earn income through his own efforts, but he is playing cards, gambling or hanging out, and when he is strapped for cash, he can only choose to borrow money.
This teaches us to make the right choices at the right time, never to be attracted to the temptations in front of you, and to disrupt the rhythm of life. When you are always facing poverty, you should think about whether you are on the wrong path.
The so-called "qualitative change", in fact, in today's society, more means a kind of "gilding": whether it is the improvement of academic qualifications or the examination of some professional certificates, or simply ending the current work to fight for a better job, it is a way to trigger qualitative change.
Of course, before making these choices, it is necessary to play a game in the heart: what are the chances of really earning money after resigning or ending the current life.
There is no hope in life, and it is better to die than to live. Maintaining a clear head and a clear plan for your future in your life can often help you stay out of poverty.
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Author | Tommy
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参考资料：Vogel, D. L., & Wester, S. R. (2003). To seek help or not to seek help: The risks of self-disclosure. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 50(3), 351.