Five thousand years of Chinese culture, five thousand years of splendid civilization.
China has achieved a long culture in the past five thousand years, and there are also some folk sayings in the field of civilization and etiquette that are widely circulated, among which one of the most oral sayings of the rural elderly is "women do not wrap their arms around their waists, and men do not touch their heads."
The man does not touch his head
There is a very big difference between ancient Chinese and modern society, that is, ancient China favored sons over women, and men were inferior to women, so the status of ancient men was much higher than that of ancient women. Ancient men's adulthood symbol ceremony is the "crown ceremony", "crown" is to be worn on the "head", so the "head" has a high status in the hearts of the ancients, this idiom "there is a head and a face", "standing on top of the sky", all because "head" represents the dignity and face of men, if the peers or juniors touch the man's head, it is not to give face.
On the contrary, if it is an elder, then it is enough, the ancients for
Their elders are very respectful, and it is a daily ritual to treat their elders with three prayers and nine kowtows, and to kowtow to ann.
Therefore, in the eyes of the ancients, the importance of the head can be imagined.
During the Eastern Han Dynasty, the servants of Princess Huyang, the sister of Emperor Guangwu Liu Xiu, were in a dog fight and kill innocents indiscriminately, Dong Xuan was the capital luoyang lingshi at that time, so in order to maintain the fairness and integrity of the law, Dong Xuan sentenced the servants who were shielded by the princess to death, Princess Huyang was very unconvinced, and complained to the emperor's brother, Liu Xiu arrested Dong Xuan to make him apologize to the princess, but Dong Xuanning did not bow his head when he died, emperor Guangwu ordered the surrounding servants to forcibly press Dong Xuan's head, Dong Xuan still straightened his back and refused to bow his head. The dignity and face of the head of an ancient man can be glimpsed from a "head".
Women are afraid to touch their waists
As mentioned earlier, in ancient Chinese society, men were inferior to women, and if this man's face was the most important for a man, then the virginity of this woman in ancient times was the most important thing for a woman.
Since the "male superiority and female inferiority", "three from the four virtues" of the ideological shackles on the ancient women, women's words and deeds have been greatly restricted, so for women, the body parts that symbolize chastity cannot be touched, touch is a manifestation of unchasteness, men have nothing, some ancient women if they are seen to let men cuddle, looking for short-sightedness to prove the innumerable of chastity.
In addition, if it is still a sensitive body part, the itchy flesh of the person is on the waist, and it is nothing to touch it yourself, and others who touch it are not laughing and laughing
The Western Han Dynasty Confucian scholar Liu Xiang has a book about the history of women's behavior in ancient China, "The Biography of Lienu", which tells the stories of 105 women, many of which tell the story of women who committed suicide by guarding chastity, and thus were praised by the world, and since then the story of chaste and martyr women has gradually become a common practice.
During the Qing Dynasty, a merchant surnamed Kang assigned his daughter to a son surnamed Zhang, and before he could cross the door, the man died, and the daughter hanged herself in the name of the daughter-in-law of the Zhang family in order to keep the festival, before passing through the door, because of the woman's suicide, the daughter-in-law of the Zhang family who did not pass through the door was praised and rewarded by the imperial court, and from then on it became a local rich family.
During the Daoguang years, the flood flooded a woman, a woman was trapped in the flood, a man saw that she was dying, he pulled her arm to save her, after being rescued, the woman broke an arm to prove her innocence and was rumored to be beautiful. Ancient women who even touched their arms had to observe the festival, let alone touch their waists? Although modern society is not as serious as in ancient times, due to the influence of long-term chastity thoughts, boys should not easily touch their waists when dealing with strange opposite sexes, and this behavior is also very frivolous.
epilogue
So why "men don't touch their heads, women don't touch their waists" You know?