"The order of the parents, the words of the matchmaker." Feudal arranged marriage is the vice of the feudal system, in ancient times the marriage of two people was treated as a transaction, there was no emotional basis between husband and wife, and life was as lifeless as a marionette.
During the Chinese period, the feudal dynasty was passed down for more than 2,000 years, and it was also the system in the feudal dynasty - arranged marriages also existed for thousands of years, which can be described as deeply rooted. Even after the establishment of the Republic of China after the Xinhai Revolution, President Sun Yat-sen announced the abolition of feudal superstition and feudalism, but the phenomenon of arranged marriages was still very common in the society at that time.
During the Republic of China period, there was a big girl, she was born superior, her father was in a high position of power, but she could not hide the fate of feudal arranged marriages. She was born in the giants, but she was also depressed in the giants, and eventually a generation of beautiful people unfortunately fell. She is Li Shaofang, the daughter of Li Yuanhong.
Political marriage interests come first
After the founding of the Republic of China, Yuan Shikai soon stole the fruits of victory. At this time, Yuan Shikai's position was unstable, and in order to stabilize the new regime, Yuan Shikai needed a strong support. At this time, Yuan Shikai looked at the time, and only Vice President Li Yuanhong could make an alliance.
But no matter how good the partnership is, it is not as reliable as the relationship between the sons and daughters, as the saying goes, it is good to always tie the Qin and Jin, and the family is as close as a family. In order to consolidate his political position at that time, Yuan Shikai chose a political marriage. Therefore, Yuan Shikai took the initiative to propose to Li Yuanhong that he wanted to climb a family with him, hoping that his son could marry Li Yuanhong's daughter.
At that time, Yuan Shikai could be described as a power tilted against the opposition, and one person was dominant. Faced with Yuan Shikai's power and coercion, Li Yuanhong had no choice but to agree to this political marriage. Yuan Shikai told Li Yuanhong that he hoped that Li Yuanhong could choose one of his fifth and ninth sons as his future son-in-law.
The two sons chosen by Yuan Shikai were both born of concubines, and it was very appropriate for them to be used for political marriage in Yuan Shikai's eyes. Li Yuanhong knew Yuan Shikai's ideas, but under the pressure of Yuan Shikai, he had to accept this proposal and sacrificed his daughter for his political future.
Li Yuanhong, who returned home, mentioned to his wife Wu Jingjun that he wanted to marry his daughter to Yuan Kejiu, the ninth son of Yuan Shikai, and Wu Jingjun was naturally reluctant to hear this news, but she also knew that Yuan Shikai was her husband's boss at this time, and if she did not marry her daughter to him, it would naturally lead to family misfortune.
Coupled with the fact that the Yuan family is now in the sky, the daughter should be rich and noble for a lifetime when she marries. Finally, after much deliberation, Li Yuanhong and his wife decided to marry their daughter Li Shaofang to Yuan Kejiu, Yuan Shikai's son. At this time, Li Shaofang was just eight years old, and her marriage had been decided by her parents privately.
The struggle to resist was fruitless
Li Shaofang was pampered from an early age, and China at that time was at the peak of the spread of new ideas, so Li Shaofang was educated in new ideas from an early age. Li Shaofang, who has been educated by new ideas, is not only very avant-garde, she is even very disgusted with old ideas and feudal bad habits.
In Li Shaofang's view, the basis of marriage should be love. When the young Li Shaofang was still dreaming about her future, she did not know that her father had already arranged an arranged marriage with no emotional basis for her.
Later, Li Shaofang grew up, and she gradually learned that she had a doll kiss on her, which made Li Shaofang feel very distressed. For her future husband, he had never seen any emotionless, how could he spend his life with such a stranger, in Li Shaofang's view, it was simply ridiculous.
This political marriage slowly plunged the young Li Shaofang into depression, and Li Yuanhong actually loved his daughter very much. Faced with his daughter's sullenness, Li Yuanhong sent his daughter to school to study, hoping to make her daughter happy, but the good times were not long, and Li Shaofang chose to drop out of school.
At this time, Li Shaofang felt more and more that she could not give in to such a decision, and she could not sacrifice her life in such a meaningless political marriage. She begged her father many times, and even let her sister persuade her father, hoping that his father could go to the Yuan family to break the marriage contract.
At that time, Yuan Shikai had died, and the Yuan family had long since lost its former glory. However, in Li Yuanhong's old thinking, he decided that what he said could never be repentant, and he could not let others say that he worshiped high and low, so Li Yuanhong resolutely did not agree to the dissolution of the marriage contract.
Faced with her father's determination, Li Shaofang had to look for other breakthroughs. At this time, she thought of her fiancé, Yuan Kejiu, and wanted him to take the initiative to dissolve the marriage contract.
Li Shaofang began to pretend to be crazy and stupid, often quarreling and fighting with his family, and later often talking to himself, and over time there were rumors that "Miss Li family is crazy", not only that Li Shaofang himself also went to create momentum, so that the rumors became more and more exaggerated.
But what she did not expect was that when her fiancé Yuan Kejiu heard the news, he still insisted on marrying him and released words: "Even if it is mentally ill, I will marry." In the face of the attitude of Yuan Kejiu and his father Li Yuanhong, Li Shaofang gradually lost hope.
A generation of beauties has finally fallen
Li Shaofang struggled with this absurd political marriage for four years, but in the end there was no way to win her own freedom and marital autonomy. Four years later, Li Shaofang married Yuan Kejiu.
Because there is no emotional basis between the two, in this marriage, the two are often cold and relative, and the life after marriage is very unhappy. In particular, Li Shaofang became more and more depressed, and even had some mental problems.
Yuan Kejiu also knew that Li Shaofang did not like or even dislike himself, so he only treated Li Shaofang with a cold face. In order to escape such a cold marriage, Yuan Kejiu chose to immerse himself in his favorite things all day and ignore his nominal wife, Li Shaofang.
In the face of Yuan Kejiu's coldness, the irony of the Yuan family, and the dissatisfaction and depression in her heart, Li Shaofang is in an extremely lonely, depressed, and even hopeless environment every day, and Li Shaofang's mental state is getting worse and worse.
Not only that, Yuan Kejiu even did not return at night later, and Li Shaofang was the only one who was alone in the long night in the great home. In the face of her husband's estrangement and indifference, her hopelessness in life gradually crushed Li Shaofang's spiritual defenses.
Later, Li Shaofang really suffered from mental illness and began to become withdrawn, immersed in her own world all day and unwilling to communicate with the outside world. Yuan Kejiu looked at his wife who was already crazy, he didn't have any feelings for her, marriage was just a need for interests, and he was already tired of such a wife.
After Li Shaofang went crazy, Yuan Kejiu sent her to a mental hospital for treatment, so Li Shaofang spent her unfortunate life in a mental hospital, and a generation of beautiful people eventually fell in arranged marriages.
brief summary:
As the daughter of the president, Li Shaofang has been buried in this political marriage all her life, how tragic. Although Li Shaofang chose to struggle, in the era at that time, even as the daughter of the president, she could not escape the shackles of feudal arranged marriage, which was Li Shaofang's sadness and the sadness of most women in that era.
In contemporary society, we must have the same spirit of daring to rebel against fate as Li Shaofang, and Li Shaofang's failure is the reason for the times, but in the new era, we should have the fighting spirit of my life by my own destiny. May we all take the dream as a horse and live up to Shaohua!