Author / Kyohiro Kokusho Figure / Source Network
Source: Jingbo Guoxue (ID: jingboguoxue)
Wang Yangming said: "There is nothing outside the heart, and there is no reason outside the heart." ”
The mind is the source of all "thoughts," and external things are determined by the observation of the mind. Both "things" and "reason" are derived from the realization of the human mind.
From this we can see that the beauty and ugliness of a person's mental outlook are actually based on people's minds. Therefore, what we think, what we say and do is closely related to our minds.
Then, a person who has virtue in his mouth, a moderate demeanor, and a light in his heart is the best "spiritual appearance" of a person.
There is virtue in the mouth
Mencius said: "The heart of compassion, the end of benevolence." “
Compassion is the beginning of benevolence. And "the mouther, the portal of the heart also." "Therefore, people with compassion tend to speak with virtue.
Master Mei Lanfang not only achieved great achievements in art, but also admired people for their dealings with the world. Throughout his life, he has been self-disciplined and benevolent, and has never said right and wrong behind his back.
There was once a tabloid reporter, in order to become famous, when Mei Lanfang's art was maturing and her career was in full swing, he deliberately sought opportunities to provoke and maliciously criticize Mr. Mei.
Seeing that Mr. Mei was repeatedly silent, the young reporter became more and more unscrupulous and insulted in the tabloids. At that time, many people were upset, but Mr. Mei in turn reassured everyone and ignored them. This farce eventually dissipated on its own.
Later, the tabloid reporter was poor and fell into poverty, and only then did he think of confessing to Mr. Mei. Mr. Mei didn't say anything and took out 200 yuan to fund him. The tabloid reporter fell to his knees at Mr. May's feet in shame, crying for forgiveness.
Mr. Mei not only has a good mouth, but also specially teaches his family that he must pay attention to "mouth morality" when he is a person.
Mr. Mei pays attention to oral morality and has high moral character. Later generations evaluated him as not only an artistic hero, but also a moral model.
The answer can also be found in his soft face and the artistic image he has created. What will be left to future generations will always be the order of grace, gentleness and kindness.
The ancients said: "The mouth can eat, can not speak, words are taboo." ”
The mouth can be used to eat, not to talk nonsense; not paying attention to one's own speech, it is easy to violate the taboos of others. Not only should you not talk about other people's things, but you should also try to say as little as possible about your own things.
Cultivating good mouth virtue is also the process of cultivating the mind; repairing the heart is to cultivate one's good appearance, the so-called phase is born from the heart; and good looks often bring good luck.
People with virtue often speak cautiously and keep their promises, and never believe in their words; people with moral character are usually very kind, and they can always stand on each other's perspective and position; people with moral character often praise people before people, and no matter whether people are right or wrong, they will not expose other people's scars and shortcomings.
They open their mouths like jade, and exhale like orchids; "Evil words are not spoken, and harsh words are not heard." "The most important thing is their good cultivation."
They treat people with leniency and gentleness; they are well versed in good words like spring, and evil words are the most hurtful; they are gentle as jade, and they can often make people feel like a spring breeze when they get along with them.
Behave modestly
Su Shi wrote in "Farewell to Dong Chuan": "The big cloth wrapped in a big cloth is wrapped in a career, and there is poetry and bookishness in his belly. “
The praise is his friend Dong Chuan, although he has been wearing coarse cloth and fir for many years, he has a transcendent and luxurious temperament because he is full of poetry and books.
Reading books can be sensible, so that people know etiquette and manners, and they can also cultivate their emotions and improve their behavior. Most of the people who are full of poetry and books are extraordinary in appearance and outstanding in temperament.
There is a very famous story in the Book of Filial Piety called "Zengzi Avoiding the Table".
Once, Confucius asked Zengzi, who was sitting next to him, "The former sage king had supreme virtues, subtle and mysterious theories, used to teach the people of the world, so that people could live in harmony, and there was no dissatisfaction between the king and his subordinates. ”
Upon hearing this, Zeng Zi understood that the teacher wanted to point out a profound and exquisite truth, and immediately got up from the seated mat, stood aside from the mat, and respectfully replied: "I am not smart enough, I do not know the mystery, and I also ask the teacher to teach." ”
In the face of the teacher's questions, Zeng Zi "avoided the seat and stood", which was not only a respect for the teacher, but also a kind of etiquette with a moderate demeanor.
Erudite and reasonable people can not only be full of economy and borrow ancient metaphors from the present, but also cultivate natural achievements, and have their own extraordinary temperament and grace.
Yes, but all those who are reasonable and disciplined, and who are in a good way, are mostly people who are full of learning and virtue. It is knowledge that gives people wisdom; it is knowledge that makes people temperamental; it is knowledge that is infiltrated with the fragrance of people's souls.
They are calm and modest, and they are gentle and gentle, and they are more elegant and elegant.
Because, the more books are read, the heart is naturally more accessible than ordinary people, and the truth can be understood more; the etiquette is known and the grace is more tolerant. Therefore, he is beautiful and gentle, and his demeanor is decent.
There is light in the heart
The Book of Rites says, "Those who have harmony will have pleasure, and those who have pleasure will have grace." ”
When children love their parents from the bottom of their hearts, they will be happy and obedient in their hearts; the joy and obedience in their hearts will certainly show harmony and happiness on their faces.
Extended to our daily life, it can be understood that people with good hearts are because they have love in their hearts; love in their hearts will shine; they are warm because of light; they are happy because they are warm.
When it comes to love and light, we can't help but mention Fan Li. Born in the Spring and Autumn Warring States, he was a famous philanthropist clearly recorded in the "Chronicle of History".
Fan Li was originally a Yue national, who helped the Yue king to restore the country, and after the achievement of the achievement, the rapids retreated bravely, and a leaf flat boat returned to the hidden rivers and lakes. He changed his name to Tao Zhugong and became a businessman from a great politician.
Because of his cleverness, he quickly succeeded in business. In nineteen years, he received three fortunes, but he took these three huge sums of money to help the poor. A great philanthropist who has been called "rich and virtuous".
Fan Li has great love in his heart, so he can scatter his family wealth several times to help others. It was also because of his good deeds that posterity revered him as the god of wealth, as a symbol of good luck, and built a shrine portrait for him, and the incense was eternal.
Looking at Tao Zhugong, the god of wealth, he was kind and kind-eyed and full of blessings. It's a good look.
It is love, let people have light and warmth in their hearts; it is love, let people stay away from the darkness, watch out for each other; it is love, let people in the long years, full of goodwill, warm as the spring.
A person with love in his heart, goodwill will unconsciously appear on his face, so the face is kind, gentle and kind.
A person with love in his heart, like the sun, can always bring his own aura, giving people light and warmth. People unconsciously produce a sense of closeness, and therefore, it will attract more people who chase the light.
There is love in the heart, which shines by love; warmth born from light; warmth and more affinity from warmth. In this way, you can have more friendship and well-being.
Conclusion
Lu Jiuyuan said, "Pack up your spirit and be the master." “
People must know how to bow down and introspect, and have the ability to converge their spirits inward, so that they can clarify their hearts. Then the mind has a master, and it can be the master of its own life.
The heart is the carving knife that dominates good and evil, beauty and ugliness. What shape your face is, your heart, is counted.
Therefore, a person's inner temperament is also a person's spiritual appearance; and how the spirit looks depends entirely on one's own mind.
With virtue in the mouth, a degree of demeanor, and a light in the heart, such a person can be as bright as spring in his heart and nourish the infinite beauty of spring light.
Borrow other people's methods and find yourself
Source: Guoxue Culture Hall