When people reach middle age, it is the most difficult stage of life.
Some people think that life is like a mountain, and the young people at the bottom of the mountain always feel that they can't climb up and are a little discouraged; and the middle-aged people on the mountainside are in a difficult situation and don't know how to be good; the elderly on the top of the mountain, after all, face the results of being cold in the high places, and finally accompany them with loneliness.
When we are at the foot of the mountain, in fact, the problem is not big, at least we have the strength and energy. When you are at the top of the mountain, it is not a big problem, at least life has reached the final stage.
The only thing that is unbearable is the pain of "going through difficulties". If you want to move forward, you can look at the mountains and feel powerless. If you want to retreat, you can look at the valley and don't want to give up.
Life is the epitome of "contradiction". You need to fight with your heart all the time and finally make your own choices. Perhaps, life is a process of "grinding".
As the saying goes, how much suffering you can endure, how much blessing you can have.
Blessings and misfortunes are not separate, but interchangeable and interdependent. The thought of heaven and the thought of hell are entirely up to us to choose.
When people reach fifty, if these "signs" appear around them, that is the beginning of misfortune and should be avoided.
01
If you encounter the problem of unemployment, that is the beginning of misfortune.
We all know that money is the foundation of standing in the world, and how much money we have, what kind of life we can live. However, the source of money is "work" after all.
When it comes to "work", I believe that most middle-aged people shake their heads and sigh. In their view, the situation of workplace obsolescence is too serious to be confused.
Some people have worked hard for many years for the enterprise, and finally they can't escape the fate of being "dismissed".
Some people work hard for half a lifetime and dare not slacken off at all, but in the end they still lose to the "law of the middle-aged workplace".
Some people are talented and capable, but they still lose to time.
In the face of the problem of "unemployment", we must find a way to solve it. If you are unemployed for a long time, it is easy to lead to family conflicts and life contradictions, which is the beginning of misfortune after all.
02
If the relationship between husband and wife is not good, that is the beginning of uneasiness in old age.
There is such a sentence on the Internet, middle-aged couples kiss a mouthful, nightmares can do a few nights.
Is the relationship between middle-aged couples good or bad? On the whole, the feelings of the middle-aged couple group are the most shallow. It is not that there is no feeling between husband and wife, but after a long time, the feelings will fade.
In the past, when I was young and hot-blooded, the relationship between husband and wife was particularly good. Once young blood becomes the past, the so-called love passion is gone.
For the relationship between middle-aged couples, we must not care, but we must "pay attention". Because it is related to the happiness of the second half of our lives.
People with a good relationship between husband and wife, at least accompanied by their lovers, even if the road ahead is difficult, they can support each other to go on, and they will not be too lonely.
On the contrary, people with a very poor relationship between husband and wife may divorce in the middle of the way, and there is no one to accompany or hug each other in the second half of their lives. Is such a life really happy? It's worth thinking about.
Therefore, cherishing the feelings of husband and wife well is the right way.
03
If there is a psychological problem, then there will be a problem with the body.
When it comes to "physical health", then we cannot ignore "psychological problems". What is your psychology, then your health is how it is. After all, the mind and the body have a complementary relationship.
There are two middle-aged people, the former has a particularly negative mentality, thinking that the human world is particularly bad, the human world is hell, there is no hope for life, only disappointment in life. The latter's mentality is particularly good, even if it encounters misfortune, it comforts himself to persevere and leave himself a little hope.
After a few years, the former suffered from depression, and his physical condition was getting worse and worse, and his health problems were frequent. The latter, on the other hand, travels extensively, with a dashing freedom and a particularly high quality of life.
Where is the gap between people? In fact, it lies in the "mentality". If you can have a positive mindset, then you will distance yourself from others.
When people reach middle age, they must not be passive or lose hope. Even if the road ahead is difficult and difficult, you must tell yourself that since things have backfired, it must be arranged by heaven. Instead of acting negatively, laugh at life.
04
If you don't know how to "break away", you will be begging for help.
As society gradually became more complex and the world gradually became cumbersome, some people put forward a point of view called "breaking away from it." To put it bluntly, it is to do the "subtraction" of life.
However, modern people are accustomed to doing the "addition" of life, but not to the "subtraction" of life. A subtractive life has a characteristic, that is, it is simple and simple, content and happy.
Making too many friends is not necessarily a good thing, and may provoke villains. There are too many idle things, not necessarily a good thing, and may cause trouble. The so-called "right and wrong are only for more openings, and troubles are all because of strong heads" is this truth.
When people reach fifty, it is not that "the more the merrier" is not good, but behind the "many", there is often hidden misfortune. Just think, if there is a lot of "garbage", then we are not in the "garbage heap"?
Those who do not have a deep friendship with us, we may as well let them go and give both sides a freedom. For matters that have little to do with us, we may as well leave it alone and not take the responsibility into account.
There is only one principle for surviving in the jianghu, that is, to do your duty well, less trouble, then you can do it.
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