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We will meet many people in this life, from strange to acquaintance is a rare fate, from familiar to gradually distant is also the cause and effect of fate.
People continue to change and improve in the long river of years, two people because of the common interests and hobbies intersect, but also may be because of each other's life trajectory and gradually drift apart.
The end of the relationship is a journey of life.
When a person gradually alienates from you, because the two people have established a certain emotional foundation, many people are difficult to easily give up the relationship, and even fall into the memory of the inextricable.
Once a person has invested feelings in a relationship, he must not be able to abandon the past like a machine format.
So, when we know that a person is drifting away from ourselves, how should we deal with the relationship?
Human interaction is a very delicate relationship, if you can't put an end to social interaction with the outside world, you must learn to properly deal with the problems between people. Only in this way can we gain something in social life, not add troubles to our own lives, and do not leave regrets in our lives.
The following three suggestions hope to help you.
01: Gain insight into the reasons for estrangement
People are emotional animals, and the good relationship between people is indispensable to manage with heart, and it also lies in whether the direction of each other's lives is synchronized.
In real life, if a person gradually alienates from you, it is advisable to carefully understand the root cause first, so as to make the most appropriate adjustments and choices.
The most common reason is that the two lack of interaction, the feelings from thick to thin, become strange.
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The feelings between people are not instantaneously returned to the original point, and in today's era of convenient information and communication, people do not need to communicate through the letters of the car and horse, and they can easily interact with each other by picking up a mobile phone.
The cost of human-to-human communication has decreased, yet the frequency of contact has not increased.
In real life, many people have hundreds of contacts in their WeChat address book, but there are very few people who really have intersecting emotional exchanges in a year.
For example, former classmates and colleagues, parents and relatives at home, and new friends are mostly just postcards in the address book.
If two people have less communication, their feelings are naturally easy to be estranged, and they lack the desire to share with each other, and over time they are no longer familiar with their respective living conditions.
If you want to continue the relationship and are not willing to give up each other's feelings easily, you must invest time and energy, pay more attention to each other's lives, and take the initiative to find common topics for each other.
02: Say goodbye properly, don't force it
Everyone's life will not be static, some people are not willing to be ordinary, continue to improve themselves, and strive to contact new things; some people yearn for a plain and stable life, focus on the three meals a day in front of them, and are not willing to step out of their comfort zone.
People have the right to choose the life they want, choose differently, and the way of life is naturally different.
If the life circles of the two are different, their respective points of concern in life are very different, and it is difficult to resonate.
In this life, we will meet all kinds of people, some of whom are just passers-by in our life journey, who are like-minded at a certain stage of life, and become different in the thousands of hammers and tribulations of life, so as to gradually drift apart.
These are extremely normal, and they are tantamount to a normal state of life.
Don't force everything, the more reluctant, the more it will destroy the beauty that you once had, but it is better to respect this ending, say goodbye properly, and then disappear into the sea of people.
As the Nobel laureate mo yan wrote in "Life and Death Fatigue":
"The world is like turning over a book, even if it is the past, people should look forward, not backward."
People meet and meet each other is a rare fate, we cherish the time we spend with each other, no matter whether the future can maintain this relationship for a long time, we can also harvest precious memories and meet the future with a better posture.
03: Live with your heart and let go of obsession
There are all kinds of tastes in life, such as people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
There are few things in this world that "pay" must have "return", especially in the process of getting along with people, you are sincere to a person, the other party may not be able to respond and cherish.
If two people really can't get along, and they have completely exhausted, then let go of their inner reluctance or unwillingness and bravely move forward.
You still have to look away and look down on some things, in order to live more soberly and more transparently.
The deeper the inner obsession, blindly clinging to the past, then not only can they not go back to the past, but even the memories they have will be destroyed.
People who are really smart and have a pattern often know how to let go, whether it is people or emotions, they will turn it into a driving force for life, so as to move forward better.
Writer Jiang Xiaoyun once said:
"In a lifetime, there are so many fates, some fates are a lifetime, some are only a short journey, even if they only walk together for a while, enjoying a scenery, it is also fate." Fate comes to cherish, and fate leaves, is for the sake of fate. ”
Fate comes, cherish; fate goes, let go, life has to give up to get.
I hope that each of us can let go of the past, let go of obsessions, and move forward easily.
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