Gallery of Masters | Lu Zhifei, a native of Changshu, Jiangsu Province, is an outstanding painter and outstanding art educator in modern and contemporary China.
Learn to give in and be tolerant in the name of love.
The family is the best shelter in life, and the warmth of the family often determines the degree of happiness of a person's life.
Only by understanding each other can we live a peaceful and beautiful life; and only by working together can we cope with the ups and downs of life.
The best way for a family to get along is: small things are not disputed, big things are not responsible, things are carried together, and things are not turned over.
As the saying goes, teeth and tongues will bump and bump, and it is inevitable to live together and quarrel.
If everything is to be contested, and the length is short, any small matter may set off a contradiction and dispute.
A happy family is not without contradictions, but with the wisdom of not competing.
There is a saying that the so-called good relationship comes from one person's tolerance and accommodation, and the other person's adaptation.
Always remember that in a family, relatives are more important than reason, tolerance is more important than transformation, and feelings are more important than calculations.
In the face of the small things in life, know how to take a step back, and the days can get better and better.
Gallery of Masters | Lu Weifei
When things can not be calmly solved, only to blame each other, this way of communication, in psychology is called "alienated communication style".
When a person is emotionally on the head, the deeply hidden concern is likely to become a blurted out rebuke.
What is the right solution?
Someone once said something like this:
"In times of greatest helplessness and weakness, in times of greatest frustration and despair, there is a family member who lifts your chin, straightens your spine, commands you to be strong, and accompanies you around to bear your fate together. At that time, in addition to love, the feelings between you also had the righteousness of taking care of each other, the tacit understanding of not abandoning, and the unforgettable kindness. ”
There are inevitable bumps in life, and reactions in the face of problems are the touchstone of a relationship.
When the mistake has occurred and the consequences have been caused, blindly venting emotions and blaming the other party is not only irreparable for losses, but also easy to intensify the contradiction and make the other party more annoyed.
Ten thousand sentences of "all blame you" are not as good as a sentence of "I accompany you".
Embracing each other with open arms, warming each other, and encouraging each other to get out of the predicament is the most rational choice.
You know, there is never the most correct reason in this world, only the most real feelings.
A writer once said, "Home is a small boat that carries us through so many years." ”
In life, there are always unexpected accidents.
The meaning of home is to build a safe haven for us when the wind and rain come.
Cheering each other up together, hugging each other for warmth, sharing blessings and misfortunes, no matter how big the difficulties become, the most difficult desperate situations have turned around.
Old accounts, like "case bottoms", are mentioned from time to time, like sprinkling salt on wounds again and again.
No matter how good the feelings are, they can't withstand such an "attack.".
Even the gentleest lover will become vicious after repeated repetition of old things.
In fact, the trick for two people to be together for a long time is not to turn over old accounts. What about turning it over? It's just one that's more upset and one who's more irritated.
Turning over old accounts can't solve any problem, but every time you turn over, there is one more crack in your feelings.
Sometimes, we always leave politeness to outsiders, bring temper to family, share kindness with others, and blame all to lovers.
You know, the family is not a battlefield, and the family is not the enemy.
May we learn to give in and tolerate in the name of love.
Don't worry about small things, don't blame big things, carry difficult things together, and put things down after they have passed.
Only in this way can the family be run warmly and prosperously.
Light up "watching", home is a place of love, not a place of reason. May we learn to give in and tolerate in the name of love.
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Anchor | Wu Weiling
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