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As the saying goes, "young couples, old companions". When you are young, two people together always stumble, quarrel, and even sometimes feel more comfortable with each other. However, as we get older, we will gradually find that the person around us is more amiable and cute.
When we walk on the road and see an old couple holding hands, it is inevitable that we will show an envious expression.
During the epidemic, the grandparents who wrote love letters to each other every day did not know how many people were impressed. How many people have wet the eyes of the old man who has been standing in front of his wife's hospital bed and sleeping at night to prevent his wife from waking up and needing to wake up?
The more we experience the feelings witnessed by time, the easier it is to touch people's hearts, because we understand in our hearts that it is easy to love each other and difficult to keep each other.
If you want to hold the hand of the son and grow old with the son, in addition to the feelings of each other to stand the test of time, the physical quality of the two people is an important determining factor. The party who leaves due to illness will have a lot of reluctance and unwillingness, and the one who remains will bear great pain and suffering.
When people reach old age, once their wives are gone, no matter how sad they are, don't do the following stupid things.
Don't be too sad and damage your body
Many couples are older, the better the feelings, once the wife is gone, often fall into sad emotions can not extricate themselves.
As long as you see people you know well, you can't help but be sad, and even more will close your world, staying in the environment with your wife for a long time to remember and not want to communicate with people.
Falling into such a state for a long time will only increase the sadness and reluctance in the heart, and will also make the people around you more worried.
Emotions affect a person's physical health, and the vast majority of human diseases are closely related to emotions.
I have seen the message of netizens on the Internet, saying that their grandparents have a particularly good relationship, after the death of the grandmother due to illness, the grandfather is depressed, the original strong body is getting worse and worse, and after two years, he also passed away, and everyone thinks that the grandfather misses the grandmother too much.
My wife is the person who knows herself best in the world, and once she leaves, she will definitely bring us great blows and hurts. However, life is precious to everyone, and the departed wife definitely wants to see us live a healthy and happy life.
I once saw a program about a grandfather in his seventies who had been away for two years due to illness and missed his wife so much that he spent a lot of time outside playing chess, playing ball, traveling, and enriching his life as much as possible.
He said that he wanted to continue to live with his wife's love for the world, although it was difficult, but he wanted his wife to know that he was a brave person who would take more beauty that she did not see to heaven to share with her.
When the wife leaves, with the inner thoughts, it is indeed a manifestation of affection; but with the wife's expectations for the world, the courage to try to live is equally touching and admirable.
In the old age, when the wife goes before you, please do not fall into sadness and let the body be damaged, and work hard and bravely to continue to love life, which is the best interpretation of life.
Don't be too lonely and fill it with twilight love
When the wife leaves, many elderly people either actively or passively begin a new relationship. It's not necessarily looking forward to meeting your second spring, and the biggest reason may be that you are too lonely.
When there is a wife, there is always someone to support in life, and there are also people who can talk and chat on weekdays, and the days will not be too lonely. Once the wife is gone, even the smallest house will appear empty, and even the shortest days will become long. At this time, the heart may expect to have someone who can accompany you.
Especially men, most of them rely on the care of their wives to live, and without their wives, they may not even be able to solve three meals a day. Coupled with the fact that the children are too busy, their sense of powerlessness will be stronger, and they need a woman to take care of themselves. This also deduces the plot of some grandfathers being cheated of their pensions by nannies or blind dates.
The reality is this, when a great uncle wants to find a big aunt to take care of the rest of his life, the big mother may also be thinking about how much protection he can get.
The relationship between marriage and money cannot be broken, no matter how old they are. The older you get, the more the other person cares not only about your economic strength, but also about your physical condition.
After watching the elderly blind date program "The Fate Is Not Late", an aunt left a message on the Internet that the considerate care after the elderly must stem from decades of emotional foundation, and no one will be willing to pee for a person who has known each other for several years.
Of course, it is not that all twilight love is directed at reality, but the economic situation, social security contributions, physical health, and each other's three views have become the criteria for consideration, which seems to be more difficult than young people to find a partner.
Instead of settling the solution to loneliness on another person, it is better to open up your own world and find more fun and interests in life.
When you find something worth focusing on, loneliness will disappear.
It could be the favorite literature you found in your old college when you were young, or it could be the invention dream you've always wanted to achieve, or it could be picking up a paintbrush to draw, picking up a brush to write, or using a mobile phone and a camera to record the beauty of the world.
In fact, there are many things you can do, not only staying at home to find someone to accompany, as long as you have a healthy body, you have more choices.
In the old age, when the wife goes before you, please do not start a new relationship because of loneliness, what can solve loneliness is not that there is someone around to accompany you, but that you always have something to do, and you always have a concern.
Don't be too independent and don't need children
Now many elderly people's ideas are more avant-garde, and my in-laws once discussed with me their future pension methods. They said they planned to join other elderly people in the same community to help themselves and didn't want to live with us.
I respect their ideas for this matter, but when they are getting older and more inconvenient, I still hope that they can live with us and facilitate our care. Even if we don't live under the same roof, we must bring them as close as possible to us, at least to ensure that we can reach within half an hour.
On the one hand, the elderly do not want to cause trouble to their children, on the other hand, they do have their own living habits and are not willing to live with young people. Even some elderly people will choose to live in a nursing home after the death of their wives to reassure their children.
Regardless of the various negative information about nursing homes that we see on the Internet, even if everything in the nursing home can be arranged properly, the elderly must not be too independent and must always keep in touch with their children.
On the one hand, let them know your real situation, on the other hand, let them always maintain a sense of responsibility, rather than being a handshaker, thinking that as long as you bear the cost of the nursing home, you can.
The relationship between parents and children must be a parting that is gradually drifting apart, but there must always be a thread that pulls each other and can give at any time when help is needed.
Therefore, when your children are in difficulty and you give unconditional help, please also open your hearts to the help that your children will return to you in old age.
In the old age, when the wife goes before you, you can continue to live your life without relying on your children, but please do not go independent in the past, and give your children a chance to repay you.
The feelings that can accompany a lifetime are always enviable, and the people who can hold hands for a lifetime are always unwilling, but life is so impermanent that no human being can change.
However, as long as we have a healthy body and an open mind, no matter what kind of changes we are about to face, we can make ourselves live the most wonderful look.
If your wife goes first, no matter how sad you are, it is best not to do the following things:
Please do not harm your body, because the body is a person's greatest capital;
Please do not choose twilight love because of loneliness, because what can solve loneliness is not the company of another person, but the fullness of your heart;
Please do not be too independent and do not need children, the fate of parents and children is precious, and only by helping each other and giving to each other can we finally be completed.
Please store more preparations for the elderly when you are not old, and let yourself have more choices after you are old.
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