Time flies, the years are like shuttles, always think that the years are still long, but unconsciously reach the age of retirement.
Looking back on the past, there are thousands of thoughts, there are gains and losses, and the biggest feeling is that the past goes with the wind and does not have to look back. Standing at the beginning of looking forward to the future, some expectations, some trepidation, do not know how to move forward, and worry about leaving a few regrets.
In fact, whether a person can live this life well is related to the mentality.
When you have a good attitude, you can see hope in adversity, understand happiness in plainness, and do not be shocked by honor and disgrace, so that you can see flowers as flowers and scenery as scenery. On the contrary, if you have a bad mentality, it is not pleasing to the eyes to see anyone, and everything you see is obstructive, even if you see a gorgeous and colorful scenery, you will feel tasteless in your heart.
What kind of mentality a person has determines what kind of life he will live.
In the same way, life after retirement must not be compared with every previous stage of life, but should be treated differently. And if you want to have a good mentality, you must first abandon the bad mentality that exists in your heart, in order to make yourself better and better.
When you retire, remember to say goodbye to these mentalities in order to live comfortably.
1 Say goodbye to the mentality of being too calculating
Life goes up and down, there are gains and losses, and there are joys and sorrows. If you understand this truth, after retirement, you should let yourself say goodbye to the mentality of too calculating gains and losses, and not let yourself be sad and sad by the possession and loss overnight, and even make yourself unable to help yourself.
Caring about gains and losses is something that everyone often does, but too much calculation will not allow you to have a lot, but often will be burdened by gains and losses, do not know that gains and losses will never stop, your loss in this place, often in other places; at the moment you seem to have gained a lot, in fact, you are doomed to lose a lot on the other hand.
What seems to be gain is actually a loss; what seems to be a loss is actually gain.
When you retire, you should not continue to cling to these gains and losses, but should see through the true meaning behind it, that is, there is no real sense of gain and loss, only through what kind of mentality to look at gains and losses.
Only if you are not disturbed by gains and losses, can you live a safe and comfortable retirement time, and you will not be easily trapped in the world's gains and losses.
2 Say goodbye to the mentality of liking to complain
Liu Bowen said: "How can I be as good as I want, but I must be worthy of my heart." ”
Everything in this world cannot be satisfactory to everyone, but if you change your perspective or position, you can see the other side of things, you can find where you are not satisfied, so there is a complaint.
The person who loves to complain, looks at the world with a critical mentality in his eyes, feels that everything is obstructive, and feels unsatisfactory to see everything, even if he has done it perfectly enough, but he is still not satisfied, either blaming others or blaming himself, often letting himself live in the plight of pain and torture.
However, if you know that there is no absolute perfection in this world, you must know that you can do everything with all your heart, as long as you are worthy of your own efforts.
This is especially important, especially after retirement.
Say goodbye to the mentality of loving to complain, you will find more and more beautiful around you, and you will often inadvertently find the most beautiful side of the people or things around you, so that you will not let yourself be miserable because of pickiness, nor will you let yourself look at anything unpleasant and frequently sigh.
Be kind to yourself and never complain.
3 Say goodbye to the mentality of constantly blaming others
People who like to accuse always look down on everything with a lofty attitude, let themselves play the role of judges, judge the words and deeds of others, and then set off their own sense of superiority.
In real life, people who always like to blame others are often incompetent people, who like to brush their sense of existence by belittling others, and also prove their importance through such behavior.
However, the more this is the case, the more it will be disliked by everyone, and no one around will be willing to make deep friends with them, but hide away.
When you retire, you must say goodbye to the mentality of often blaming others, especially for lovers, children and people around you, to say goodbye to the mentality of loving to accuse, and to be more tolerant, understanding, and accepting is the right way to get along.
Everyone is not perfect, and accusations do not change the problem, but make the relationship between each other more and more tense. For the people they care about, they should be treated in an inclusive and accepting way, rather than having to make the other party a perfect person, the more so, instead of satisfying themselves, they will make the relationship between the two people fall apart.
To discover each other's advantages more, to look at each other's relationship through praise and praise, you will find that the relationship between two people will get better and better, rather than arguing about a small matter every day, so that each other is trapped in it and suffers.
4 Say goodbye to the habit of inferiority
Inferiority is an innate feature of everyone, especially when seeing people who are better than themselves, better than themselves, and have more than themselves, inferiority often comes unexpectedly, and the ensuing inner torture often makes themselves become the most humble grass, thinking that they are useless, and gradually develop a world-weary mentality.
As the saying goes: "People are better than people, and people are angry." ”
At any time, there must be people who are better than you and people who are not as good as you, which is the essence of reality. If you can't understand this and always look at your relationship with others with an unsatisfied, comparative mentality, then inferiority will always haunt you and linger.
Moderate inferiority makes you understand your own shortcomings, generate motivation, and will become better and better.
Endless inferiority will only make you fall into the quagmire of desire deeper and deeper, even if you are very good, you will be completely denied and considered useless.
After retirement, take good care of yourself, and be sure to say goodbye to the bad mentality of inferiority.
The requirements for self should not be too high, understand that it is good to know enough to be happy, there is no need to live in the expectations and eyes of others, and live your own simple life.
Moreover, the past has passed, do not always stare at the past failures and never forget, no one's life is a smooth road, the past will let it pass, can live well in the present, is really capable.
People have many starting points in this life, so after retirement is another starting point in life. Standing at a new starting point in life, what kind of mentality you have, what kind of ending you will have.
Therefore, starting today to throw away the bad mentality and embrace the good mentality, in order to let yourself meet a better self in the future world, you can also let yourself have the ability to see every good time in life, so that you can live up to the best time, which is the most meaningful pursuit along the way.
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