Some time ago, there were readers who left a message, let me write my own good habits, just another ten days on the New Year, review and summarize.
Today I will share with you 10 habits that I find particularly beneficial.
1 Questioning habits
I've been a curious baby since I was a kid, and until now, I still feel that there are a lot of things in my life that interest me. When I was a kid, I was like a walking 100,000 whys. Parents are often pestered to ask, why do caterpillars turn into butterflies? Why should man stand on earth instead of heaven? Why do people eat when they are alive? Why do people die? If you are going to die, why should you live? And so on and so on a lot of weird questions. Some are about the laws of life, some are about astronomical geography, and some may be about life and human nature. Some questions, parents will give me direct answers, but more, will give me tools or introduce more suitable teachers or books to help me solve my doubts.
When "breaking the casserole and asking the end" becomes a habit, understanding a thing must not only know its nature, but also know why it is so, and over time, the knowledge will be broader. Because, as small as a grain of rice, as large as a world, they will be inextricably linked, and the more deeply they investigate the cause, the more fun they can experience, which is also the fundamental motivation for my continuous enthusiasm.
Until now I have benefited from this habit of constant curiosity, of constantly asking questions, of wanting to understand all the laws, and asking questions is both my habit and my tool.
2 Reading habits
I write a lot of stories about my own reading in my public account, and if there is only one thing to recommend to children all over the world, it must be reading. When I was a child, my family was like a "book club where the sun never sets", my father was an early bird, who got up early every day to read books, and my mother was a night owl who liked to read at night. The study at home, which is used almost 24 hours a day, is the most utilized place in the home.
Under their influence, I had little interest in television or playing games, and reading became a natural and necessary thing in my life as eating and sleeping.
In middle and high school, I often spend a lot of time reading "idle books", which are not directly related to my grades, but it is precisely because of the accumulation of good reading from childhood that when I encounter many complex subjects in the senior grades, the "staying power" becomes more and more sufficient.
It is not how strong the learning ability is, but the early reading volume is rich and solid, and the contact between various disciplines has slowly helped me outline the "knowledge map" of the vein of knowledge in the brain. In this way, when the seniors are exposed to complex subjects such as political history and physics and chemistry, they are particularly handy in learning, and every time they learn, it seems to be reviewing the knowledge points they have learned. Even now, when the work is very stressful and busy, I still spend a lot of time reading professional books, miscellaneous books and even idle books, and I will feel that this is a good charge.
3 Sharing habits
You must have seen a lot of students, who are particularly good at studying on their own, but they are not willing to explain the problem to others. When I was a child, I belonged to the fact that as long as I learned a little thing, I was especially willing to share it with friends, parents and even teachers.
It's not that I want to show off or satisfy my own vanity, I just feel that I have a "sense of accomplishment" in the process of expressing what I have learned to others. You will feel the decoding and recoding of knowledge, and the understanding and memory will be more profound. At the same time, in the eyes of the people who are shared, they also feel their own value.
This casual sharing habit not only brings more good friends and more harmonious social relations, but also makes me truly feel the happiness of "forcing input" brought about by continuous output.
For example, in order to prepare a new class, or write a new article, in addition to the areas I am already familiar with, I will learn a lot of new related knowledge, read books, and seek teaching. It seems that I am "teaching others", but in fact, I am the happiest person to learn. Whether it is learning, writing a public account or starting a business now, sharing it may take a little time, but it will definitely bring you great gains, perhaps expression ability, output ability, logical understanding ability, problem-solving ability, etc., they will become the wealth that will benefit you for a lifetime. Cumulative, it is a good treasure trove.
4 Study habits
When I was a child, like many children, I was greedy for fun and did not like to write homework... Later, I spent half a day studying, half a day to engage in hobbies, and my parents took camps everywhere, playing and playing with the grades did not decline, but increased. (Not Versailles)
Later, I found out that playing is actually the best way to learn. Because if you want to insist on doing something, you must first love it. No one will like hard, boring, the pursuit of happiness is our instinct, then it is better to turn boring learning into their favorite "game" to stimulate their own internal driving force and curiosity. Because I want to play, so I want to learn, because I like to play, so I focus on learning, positive cycle up, learn well, play more steadily.
Until now, when learning some boring professional knowledge, I would design a game for myself, "such as punching in knowledge points" or "drawing knowledge maps". Use play to open up interest, and use interest to bring yourself into the entrance of flow concentration. You will be immersed in the ocean of knowledge and will not be able to extricate yourself.
5 Sincere communication habits
When I was in elementary school, my parents told me that one of the principles of learning and doing things was to be sincere with myself. This sincerity is not to throw things aside, but to see their shortcomings and advantages, and then adjust.
Be sure to know how much ability you have, what are the limitations, where you are stuck, where you need to ask others for help, and sincerely express yourself to others.
Experience has taught me that this habit of sincere communication is especially needed in learning. Whether it is with teachers, parents, or our interactions with children, once we find the problem, we will face it truthfully. Don't be afraid of mistakes, and don't be afraid of not, because we learn to solve problems continuously and constantly improve ourselves, not for perfection.
You will find that in the communication interaction, it can also help us sort out all the knowledge points and improve them in a targeted manner.
Instead of deluding myself, "I'm just sloppy", or "Learning is just a natural brain, learning, and not half a cent related to hard work..." Over time, it will be more lazy and backward.
6 time management habits
People often marvel at how I was able to take three babies and start a business while studying graduate school. Old fans who pay attention to my dynamics may find that my day will often be very fulfilling, with a baby, N live classes, online and offline training camps, company meetings, writing, recording videos, and even squeeze out some time to get fit, read a book, and read and punch cards at night... It feels like 48 hours a day.
In fact, this is all due to my time management habits. Many things can actually be handled by using gaps and fragmentation time.
For example, writing, I will open the notepad on my mobile phone when I have "ideas" and record it in time;
For the environment there is no excessive requirements of the video, you can use the time in the car to record;
Conference calls can also be played while running;
Observe and study the latest interactive games while taking the baby (there are a lot of easy sharing with the baby in "Gameplay Parenting");
Fitness can be interjected during lunch breaks, reading time can be carried out while washing and makeup, and time can be fragmented.
Just like a bottle filled with stones first can also be filled with a lot of sand, do a good job of time management, use and arrange the fragment time, really will make your life "more comfortable" double.
Of course, the premise is "emotional management" and "life choices", and you know what you want to do, not a hasty decision
7 Habits of cooperation
We are a "person", but not a "person".
Because our life and work are outlined together with relatives, friends and colleagues. We are all "partners" in different areas of our lives.
I like to use partners to describe my family, seniors, close friends, nobles, very blunt truth - cooperation is better than going it alone.
In life, I cooperate with my parents, they are healthy, I am at ease; I cooperate with my lover to share his pressure and share my difficulties; I cooperate with my children to find a parenting style that suits the whole family and each baby; I work with colleagues to create together and realize dreams and values together.
Treat everyone as a life partner. Regardless of whether the other party has a dislike part, try to understand, accept, express their "cooperation point", and seek common ground while reserving differences to "solve problems". Long-term supportive relationships are more valuable than short-term achievements.
8 Review habits
I especially like to do the review. The review mentioned has two dimensions, one dimension is to review the achievements in the short term in a timely manner, such as a small summary, to help yourself understand which studies are good and which are not good during this time, who I need to communicate with, and which tutors I need to find to learn from the scriptures. Another review comes from encountering problems every time, especially things that are very troublesome. Go back and forth with your most important partners, including what I've said about myself, what others have said about me, and what I can do better. This review must not be critical, can not be a "broken jar broken" style of playing, straight, showing weakness, but this thing I did not do well, how can I do it can help myself better. In the long run, you will have a more positive evaluation of your life and work, rather than blindly self-criticism, comparing your shortcomings with the strengths of others. On the contrary, like TianJi horse racing, he will continue to create advantages with his own advantages and have a good avoidance of his own weaknesses. To add a small detail, family meetings and brainstorming are also good review ceremonies.
These years have particularly benefited from new habits
9 Exercise habits
Before I was 25, I never realized that sports were so important. When I start exercising, the whole person is in better shape, more emotionally active, less sick, and at the same time, time management and energy management will be better.
If I could have started exercising earlier, my body would have been better as a child, and my life might have more possibilities. (Really, too lazy haha when I was a kid, reflect on it.) ）
10 Help Habits
Why put the habit of asking for help last, because learning to ask for help for me is a big breakthrough in recent years.
I used to be "high and cold" and loved to help others solve problems, but I especially didn't like to ask for help for my own troubles. Afraid of trouble with others, but also afraid of appearing too weak... When encountering some major events, it is often customary to build their own cars behind closed doors.
Although I seem to be very enthusiastic and outgoing, I am not a person who particularly likes to spend time socially and does not like to show weakness to others, including my parents. So much so that when you encounter difficulties, stress and emotions are digested by yourself.
But when I was really particularly helpless, when I was spotted by friends and loved ones, who in turn comforted me----- I suddenly felt full of strength.
When you sincerely ask your family and friends for help, they will receive a signal of your trust, and sometimes even a little help will make you feel enlightened and empowered.
Whether it's in study, work, or time management, remember that you must ask for help.
And finally:
I came to ask for help:
This article is so long and long, written vomiting blood. Recently, you may also find that the content of the public account has spent more thought, and I have also seen more and more private messages and concerns from everyone.
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