With Wang Lihong's apology: Here, a solemn apology to Mom and Dad Lianglei children. Now that you are divorced, it is pointless to argue about the past.
The "celebrity divorce" incident that caused a huge storm on the Internet seems to have come to an end.
Since Li Lianglei posted an article on Friday night accusing her ex-husband Wang Lihong of cheating in marriage, the characters around Wang Lihong have also come out one after another to refute the rumors, first of all, Wang's father's open handwriting, a simple summary: Li Lianglei rose to the throne by pregnancy; her son's married life is like hell, Li Lianglei planned for 2 years to write a long article of criticism; the son is not a scum.
After that, the younger sister Sun Yu, one of the heroines of the gossip, came forward to "debunk the rumors", but they were all hammered back one by one by Li Lianglei with rigorous, calm and detailed words.
After two days of silence, Wang Lihong did not resist the internet public opinion and finally came forward to apologize.
It's not uncommon for celebrities to tear each other apart after divorce and breakup, and after watching it every time, I feel a little sad.
The pillow people who once loved happiness and had children together were going to tear open the rift in their marriage one day and put right and wrong on the table for a bunch of outsiders to discuss.
Some people say that leaving aside Wang Lihong's moral mistakes, Li Lianglei's private affairs between husband and wife are not right on the Internet for netizens to judge, and her father's reputation is ruined, which is also a kind of harm to the child.
But I would like to say that as a wife who can endure her husband's constant cheating and cold violence, if she is not forced to a certain extent, she should not be willing to take out the little ruin of the husband and wife for everyone's entertainment, after all, once this matter is exposed, it is a matter of hurting the enemy a thousand and self-inflicted damage.
The essence of marriage is to restrain both parties and protect each other's rights and interests, and one person voluntarily accepts the bondage for another person and jointly assumes the responsibility of life.
Some people because of their own excellent conditions, so the portal, economic and social status have become his advantages in marriage, after marriage to put the wife in a humble position, extramarital feelings, economy, children do not have the right to dominate the wife, and even the wife is violently treated as soon as she interferes, this kind of marriage, sooner or later, will also face the end of disintegration.
And often the more such a marriage, the woman endures humiliation for many years, and in the end, the more she may end up with a clean house.
Including the "woman's real name report on the former mother-in-law" incident that made a lot of noise on the Internet a few days ago, the cause is also because the woman was abused by the in-laws after marriage, and even the divorce is a scam that has long been calculated, so that the woman inexplicably bears 3 million debts after divorce, probably after being forced to the end of the road, women have to use this kind of lose-lose way to give themselves a bad breath in their chests.
The women of these two divorce incidents have made the in-laws pay a heavy price, but at the beginning, they may have been weak and deceitful in the eyes of the man, and the soft persimmons that were arbitrarily pinched, and they also sincerely wanted to maintain a happy home.
And the reason why they put on their own fame to expose everything is also because of their long-suppressed dissatisfaction in marriage, which they used to endure for a complete family, and when she felt that she had nothing, she no longer had to fear anything.
These two divorce incidents, in fact, have also taught all the couples in marriage a lesson, telling us that we must guard these two downlines in marriage, otherwise it is difficult to ensure that the couple who were once closest will not lose both because of this.
01 Offline between husband and wife
Li Lianglei tearfully complained about Wang Lihong's various evil deeds in marriage in an instant on the Internet frying pan: marital infidelity, soliciting prostitutes, dating P, combating humiliation, cold violence, transferring assets, and chaotic relationships between men (men) and women.
This sunny-looking man, in marriage, really has no downline!
After the wife gave birth to the boy, she immediately filed for divorce, and Li Lianglei's value in this marriage seems to be only for the sake of passing on the generations and raising offspring.
In this marriage, which has been full of calculations from the beginning, Li Lianglei has given all her youth and half of her life's energy, while Wang Lihong has left her full of careful calculation and malice.
I think that if Wang Ruo is a little more affectionate, don't even have the minimum minimum limit for being a person, maybe this divorce storm will not end in this way.
As the saying goes: everything has a degree, too much is too late.
As adults, we should know what to do and what not to do, what is good for the family, and what is harmful to feelings.
Women are sometimes willing to endure humiliation in marriage, not necessarily she is weak and deceitful, most of them are not willing to give up the love of husband and wife, reading the love of the two people's past sweet love.
If you take this as her cowardice, you will hurt her and insult her without a bottom line, not even a basic moral line, and lay down all kinds of calculations to resist it, then the final outcome, you may not take much advantage, because most people will have the idea of "fish dead net breaking" when they are desperate.
The relationship between people, all pay attention to a love word, not to mention the intimate couple, if there is really no feeling together, you can let go of each other and seek happiness.
Even if you have accumulated grievances for a long time, try to find a proper way to solve them, rather than squeezing the other party dry and using them, and then leaving no way for people to live.
02 Downline between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Liu Yinyue, the woman who reported her former mother-in-law, was because of the bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which led to the rupture of the husband and wife's feelings and divorce, Liu Yinyue was unwilling and hated her mother-in-law to the bone before reporting her former mother-in-law.
To say that destroying the feelings of husband and wife, leading to the final divorce of the two, Liu Yinyue may not hate her mother-in-law so much.
The key is that this mother-in-law is also bad and has no downline, first using the "fake divorce" to coax Liu Yinyue into a real divorce, and then letting her carry 3 million debts for no reason, so that she cannot repay the debt and become a dishonest person, so that she can effortlessly compete for the custody of the child.
The mother-in-law is strong, provoking the divorce of the husband and wife, and even if she leaves the house, the woman also scatters the dowry for this purpose, carries a huge debt, and finally even the child cannot compete.
This mother-in-law is really fierce and thorough, and the evil has no downline.
Dong Qing once said: If you are good enough to have no reservations, the other party will dare to be bad enough to be unscrupulous.
Perhaps, it was this girl who had been too good at marriage, and the mother-in-law would be so unscrupulous with her.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to understand for eternity, and it is probably more or less difficult to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in this world, and many marriages that were originally good, but because of the relationship between mother-in-law, they finally ended up with a wife and daughter-in-law.
If only the relationship between husband and wife is broken, it is good to get together and disperse, and the bad is bad, and many couples will be deadlocked due to the intervention of their mother-in-law when negotiating the distribution of family property and children.
Originally, there could be good business between the two husbands and wives, but because the mother-in-law did not want to cheapen the daughter-in-law, the house deposit and the child, and did not want to leave it for the daughter-in-law, she began to stir up and calculate all kinds of instigation and calculation, until the son was absolutely desperate, and really regarded the child's mother as an enemy to calculate, forcing the daughter-in-law to have to tear it up arbitrarily, and finally the good gathering and dispersion that was said to be good became a lose-lose situation.
I believe that couples who have a love foundation into marriage, even if the feelings are broken, no matter how stiff the relationship between husband and wife, there must still be a trace of love in a corner of their hearts, and the companionship of those years, the warmth that has forged ahead, there must be a moment that can soften each other's hearts.
If there is no malicious provocation and intervention of the mother-in-law, mutual respect and decent withdrawal should be the most desired ending for every divorced couple.
Some time ago, I read an article specifically interviewing those stories of those who after the divorce, the children were hidden by the in-laws, and the mother ran for many years to find the child without results.
Such stories are not uncommon in life, I have had such a case around me, a friend's relative, after the husband and wife divorced, the child was originally awarded to the mother, the mother-in-law hid the child privately, and the mother did not find it for decades.
The child was taken to hide by the grandmother from childhood, and developed the character of Hanging Er Lang Dang, who dropped out of school in his teens and mixed everywhere, and the father has been busy with his career and did not care about him, until the father was seriously ill in his fifties, and the son was afraid that the family property would be inherited by the stepmother, so he conspired with outsiders to calculate and conspire, cheated the house and sold the money and turned around and squandered it.
When the father was dying, he mentioned that the son regretted it: if the child had been brought to his mother, he might not have been abandoned.
As a mother-in-law, you can be dissatisfied with your daughter-in-law, and even because you don't like your daughter-in-law, you can maliciously break up your son's marriage, but at least there should be a downline, don't use your children as chips to meet your own selfish desires.
03 Conclusion
As the saying goes: be a person to leave a line, and see each other in the future!
Whether it is because of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the contradiction between husband and wife, most of the women with children are soft, but also the most rigid, in the face of unequal divorce terms, if you do not kill them all, without any downline to force them to the road, most of them will choose to swallow their anger in the face of their children.
Finally, I also hope that the girls, even if they get married and have children, must have their own careers and independent abilities, and do not casually pin their future on a man or his superior family situation, because you do not know which day in the future, the husband's heart will change, and the in-laws' heart for you has also changed.
As Li Lianglei wrote:
Many of the housewives around me do not have their own savings or income in their households, and usually the money earned by my husband will feel embarrassed, and I will look at my husband's face with money, and I will never dare to say that I want to take care of my parents. If women talk about money, they will be condemned by our society as a beggar or question whether they worship gold, but only the money of boys. Women who have long been family-oriented and have not worked outside the home are often overwhelmed if they have done nothing wrong but are forced to divorce because the man has no justification. Girls, still have to take precautions, to prepare for their own rain.
Take precautions and don't wait until you are forced to divorce before you wait for fate's arrangement.
I also hope that men and mothers-in-law, when facing divorce, do not think about the bottomless evil of the daughter-in-law, leave some decency for others, and also leave some decency for themselves.