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Last Friday, the assistant also told me that I hadn't written a hot spot in a long time.
I said that the hot spot now is all kinds of official announcements, falling in love - getting married - breaking up - divorced, there is really nothing new, and everyone is getting more and more decent, and there is nothing to write.
Unexpectedly, On Friday night, Li Lianglei sent a long article, and throughout the weekend, Wang Lihong's father issued a statement, and Li Lianglei asked Wang Lihong to apologize before 3 o'clock. Like many netizens, I deliberately waited until 3 o'clock, but unfortunately, Wang Lihong's apology was seven or eight hours late.
This melon is eaten by many people because it is not only an entertainment event, but also related to the current situation of women's marriages.
A full-time mother, three children in five years, not to say a bad word about her husband, tolerate his cheating, cold violence, PUA, intolerable and finally decided to tear up, and did not forget to say specifically: I am not for money, nor do I want your maintenance.
Wang Lihong and his father's reply is interesting, repeatedly emphasizing giving money.
Isn't it right to divorce and divide property within marriage, and why should one be repeatedly emphasized for not giving, and one should be repeatedly emphasized for giving?
It's not because money is too sensitive.
A woman who divorces but asks for the man's money will say that she worships gold and says that everything she does is for money.
If the money happens to be earned by the man, this woman is even more careful.
As for the value of procreation, it will be ignored, and others have a lot of arguments: women always have to have children, you marry whoever you marry, children are also yours, and they are not for others.
However, no matter who a man marries, he must work hard to earn money, and money is also earned for himself, not only for others.
Of course, it is useless to say that these are useless, in the current environment, everyone defaults to the fact that money is more important, so the person who can make money is also more important and has more say.
Why did Li Lianglei marry Wang Lihong, everything was dominated by Wang Lihong, and Wang Lihong's face was acted? It's not because it's Wang Lihong who makes money.
Li Lianglei and the children
Look at the way Qi Wei and Lee Seung-hyun get along, it is completely reversed, Lee Seung-hyun's years as a full-time grandfather, but carefully look at Qi Wei's face.
Of course, at present, the two pairs are not much comparable, just to illustrate the importance of making money.
When the whole society tacitly accepts that money is more important than childbearing than housework than everything else, that is, earning money is more important, people are products of the environment and the times, and no one can get rid of them.
Therefore, women should earn money well at all times, don't spend time and energy on children and housework, and if you are a full-time mother, you should also talk about money at the beginning.
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Judging from Li Lianglei's long article, she has not been exposed to her husband's money in the years she has been married to Wang Lihong.
The house is in Wang Lihong's name, the car is in the name of his mother-in-law, and the living expenses are also reluctant. Judging from this situation, it is estimated that Li Lianglei does not know how much money her husband has.
This is also the situation that many stay-at-home moms face.
Not just stay-at-home moms, many working women face the same problem. Readers often confide in me, saying that they don't know how much money my husband has, that my husband is unwilling to give living expenses, and so on.
Many people will finally comfort themselves: Forget it, I don't want his money either, let him go, I'm too lazy to take care of it.
Because talking about money is too troublesome and too hurtful feelings, if you are not careful, the talk will collapse.
There is an iron law: anyone who can't talk about money in marriage will divorce because of money, unless you really don't want a penny.
So I always say that you must talk about money well during marriage.
Whether you are a working woman or a housewife, you must understand the financial situation of the family and have half the control of the property.
There is no room for negotiation in this matter, it must be discussed, even if it is a quarrel. Anyway, even if you don't argue now, as long as you talk later, you will definitely argue.
Don't feel that the money is earned by the other party, you have no bottom, it is the joint property of the husband and wife, and the law supports you.
Don't be afraid of others saying that they worship gold, Li Lianglei is divorced without maintenance, the Wang family is not openly and secretly satirizing her worship of gold, or some netizens say that the price is not negotiated?
There is nothing to be ashamed of loving money, a gentleman loves money, has a way to get it, wants what he deserves, what is wrong.
Generally speaking, the money is in place, the marriage is really not so wronged, most of the grievances, are money trouble.
If the money is not good, it is best not to be a full-time mother, otherwise you will only be infinitely wronged yourself, the bottom line will fall again and again, and finally you may be out of the house.
Li Lianglei is aggrieved enough to seek perfection, and even endures cheating, the result? Others will only think that you rely on me to raise, patience is not the right thing to do, do not want to endure just roll!
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Netizens should be as curious as I am: Li Lianglei knows so much black material for Wang Lihong, why not take these and negotiate with each other to share the money?
It should have been talked about, but it wasn't talked about.
It is not that the other party is stupid and does not know how to spend money to buy peace, but the pattern of two people getting along for a long time, one person is infinitely tolerant, and endures until others have ignored her.
Others think that you are an insignificant person, and you can bear any grievances. Now you don't want to put up with it, you put on harsh words, the other party will only feel that you are just fighting a verbal battle and calling a few words.
negotiation? Do you deserve it too?
If a person puts up with everything, there will be such consequences.
After Li Lianglei sent the text, wang Lihong sent her a message, still this condescending, did not apologize, but ordered her to change her words, so that she can get a suite.
Presumably, such an order had been used many times, and it had been tried and tested, so even if things had already gotten big, he would still feel that he could save it with just a little compensation.
An absolutely strong person is disdainful of negotiating with the weak, and even less of apologizing.
Between husband and wife, there was originally no distinction between strong and weak, but the division of labor was different, but one person took another person as the sky, and everywhere accommodated him to take him as the mainstay, and the strength and weakness slowly formed.
If Li Lianglei is not so tolerant, not so that everything is based on the interests of her husband, perhaps, when divorced, she will not be so passive.
At least, the other party did not dare not give her property, at least, she could sit down and talk.
Therefore, every step of life can not be infinitely retreated, and later, you will find that there is no way to sit on an equal footing with the people around you, and you can only use the way of open tearing to force him to talk to you.
Li Lianglei is so married to a star with traffic, sending a long article can be on the hot search, what about ordinary people?
It's up to you.
Just when I finished writing this article, I saw that Wang Lihong's apology was on the hot search, and this time he finally apologized instead of an order, but with a low attitude.
Some netizens said that if they are afraid of not apologizing again, Li Lianglei will hammer harder.
Sure enough, one person couldn't bear to give in no matter what, and the other person became obedient.
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