Text/Wei Chen
We often hear people describe two people as having a good relationship, expressed as "good enough to wear a pair of pants" to express.
In fact, two people who are really in a good relationship will not wear a pair of pants, and those who have been good enough to wear a pair of pants often have a unsatisfactory relationship with each other.
Anything beautiful, after greed and infinite proximity, will gradually become abominable. Getting along with like-minded friends is a pleasure, but you also have to know how to hold the boundaries.
Many people think that it is not necessary to be too polite with friends. As a result, as familiarity changes, people gradually begin to ignore politeness and rules of communication.
In life, I am capable of managing myself, and I have nothing to do with others. No matter how good the relationship is, some things cannot be managed, especially the following three kinds of "idle things".
The other person's emotional affairs
No matter how good the relationship between friends can not be without distance, some things can help each other, and some things must be retreated away. For example, the feelings of friends.
From ancient times to the present, people have imagined love as a beautiful thing, but in fact, love is the biggest disaster in life.
Sweetness is only an outward manifestation, and in the relationship it is more of entanglement, pain, doubt and struggle.
Love has always been a very personal matter, even between friends, the conflict about emotions can only be heard, not meddling in it. When you express a negative opinion, you usually think that you are well-intentioned, but the other party does not necessarily appreciate it.
Remember, no matter at any time, do not easily dictate the feelings of friends, after all, the ancients have long said: "The son is not a fish, and the joy of knowing the fish is safe?" ”
Even if a friend encounters emotional confusion, you should keep as silent as possible when the other person confides.
After all, people tend to be insincere when they are impulsive, and if you compare some things to the truth and throw your point of view out, it will become the other party's heart disease.
Life is not long, the time is not long, it is not easy to deal with your own affairs, there is no need to involve other people's emotions.
At the same time, we must not rely on our own opinions to impose our own cognition on each other. After all, emotional things are like fish drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge, no matter how the other party chooses, can not interfere too much.
There are even times when you obviously feel that the way others get along with each other is not appropriate, and you should not interfere bluntly, because there are some things that we cannot take responsibility for.
Everyone should be responsible for their own life, the other person's feelings are, and so are your words and deeds.
Matters involving monetary interests
In interpersonal communication, if the distance is lost, it is doomed to cause a disaster.
As the saying goes, brothers settle accounts. Although talking about money hurts feelings, it hurts even more emotionally to be confused financially.
People are usually extra sensitive when they have something to do with monetary interests.
The people take food as the sky, a penny can also overwhelm the hero, in today's society, the economy has always been the support of life.
Walking in the world, food, clothing, shelter and transportation, are inseparable from money. No matter how good the relationship between two people is, they must abide by the principles in terms of money.
It's easy to screw up a relationship when there's something about money, whether it's lending money to a friend or borrowing money from a friend, think twice before you speak.
When borrowing other people's money, you must know how to be grateful, and do not have too high expectations for the money you borrow.
Tangled chores
Sanmao once said: "No matter how close friends are, they cannot be lost, they think they are familiar, and as a result, they are reflexively isolated." ”
As a person, we may not be able to put ourselves in the other person's shoes, but we must also understand that everything needs to be observed and thought from different angles.
You can only represent yourself forever, and friends should never involve themselves in each other's housework in order to be righteous.
As the old saying goes, a gentleman's friendship is as light as water. Good relationships must be simple, and only by being clear as water can we maintain the long-term stability of the relationship.
Housework is the most difficult to judge, and perhaps most people understand the truth of "no diamonds, no porcelain work".
But in the face of seemingly simple housework, it is inevitable that some people who think that the relationship is very iron will try to change each other's family disputes. We can only call this kind of behavior reckless.
Transparent people understand that they must not be too strong in doing things, and keeping weak has always been a rare force.
When a friend comes to you for comment because of the troubles of housework, you must not let your clear mind be disturbed by the other party's emotions.
You must understand that right and wrong are only for the sake of opening more mouths, and all troubles are caused by strong heads.
It is already difficult for a person to live his life well and handle his own household chores properly, so don't add problems to his already complicated life.
Responsible people, always have their own things to be busy, there is no time to take care of other people's business, about other people's housework, since you are not a party, there is a high probability that opening is improper speech.
It is not easy to do yourself well, don't think that you are very fair, and rush to be a peacemaker for others, this kind of operation will inevitably offend people.
Content source public number: Wei Chen [ID: weichenip]
About author: Wei Chen, freelance writer. He loves literature and has a certain understanding of poetry and literary works.
I hope that through words to bring you spiritual relaxation, may your life be more beautiful after encountering my words.