"Eat bitterly, be a good person", everyone must go through the grind of suffering.
There are eight sufferings in life, the suffering of birth, the suffering of old age, the suffering of illness, the suffering of death, the suffering of love and separation, the suffering of resentment and hatred, the suffering of not being able to seek, and the suffering of the five yin and the blazing. As we grow older, so does the suffering, and the most bitter time is the suffering of middle age, both old and young, and they are like rats in the bellows - two ends are angry.
Yesterday, reader Xiao An sent Me WeChat: "Why love someone, so bitter? "Xiao Anjin is Chinese New Year's Eve two years old and has fallen in love twice, but neither has succeeded. The most recent love affair lasted for more than three years, and XiaoAn and his girlfriend both decided to buy a house in the city, and had borrowed more than three hundred thousand. Went to several real estate projects to see the house, but did not determine down. It was at this juncture that the girlfriend proposed to break up. The reason for the breakup is very simple, because the girlfriend can't forget her first love, and when she was at a classmate party, she got in touch with her first love, and then went to Shanghai with her first love.
I asked Xiao An, "You can't let go of her because you are not willing, you feel that you have lost money and lost too much." Xiao An said: "I have paid so much, but the result is that the bamboo basket is empty, and no one will be willing to change it." Am I looking for her to compensate for the loss of youth? ”
Everyone has times when they are unwilling, and the more unwilling they are, the more painful they feel. Missed the fate, lost the opportunity to study, could not seize the opportunity to start a business, in the unit can not mix an official and a half job... You think you're doing a good job, but your luck is not good, it's god doesn't have long eyes, and you often beat your chest because of it.
Life is too hard because your pattern is not big enough. The heart is one inch wide, the road is one inch wide, and if you enlarge the pattern, you can swallow all the suffering.
There is a proverb in the countryside: "No matter how big the pancake is, it is not as big as its pan." "Pain is a pancake, the pattern is a pot, and if you zoom in on the pattern, then the flapjack appears smaller."
When your pattern is large enough, the pain of life becomes an embellishment, just like on the green prairie, there is a sheep grazing, who is big and who is small, at a glance; around the sheep, there is green grass, and wildflowers, streams, and birds that fly freely, and when they look up, they are white clouds, and the wind is gentle.
The world is so beautiful, why don't you know how to enjoy it? People with too small a pattern often drill into a dead end, and they are not willing to quit, but going forward is only a dead end. In the dilemma, you become stuck, and the bitter taste gushes out of your heart.
When people reach middle age, they encounter love outside of marriage, and they are further unqualified and reluctant to take a step back. You feel that such suffering is painful. But one day, you will understand that love outside of marriage is not true love, just a short-lived love, and after many years, you suddenly find that plain and indifferent is true, and the people around you, accompanying you to old age, relying on each other, is true love. Many years later, you suddenly found that you were so stupid, but because of the people who were doomed to have no luck, they lived a very bitter life.
Smart people, save love outside of marriage, as the best memory. Retaining happiness is actually another kind of longevity, which is really obtained. When you have more pictures of happiness in your heart, you will not be overwhelmed by love and feel very painful.
One thing, you think about it every day, you can't think of it when you think about it, and you live like a "grumpy". Why a person is tired, in fact, can not open, can not see through, the situation of life is becoming more and more narrow, always can not open.
Some people say, "I can't think about it because you don't have enough wisdom." "In fact, when really smart people can't think about it, they simply don't think about it, so that those confused things become things that have nothing to do with themselves." Without thinking about it, the heart suddenly opened up, just like surviving a dark night and ushering in the dawn of the dawn.
The crossroads of life, one after the other, require you to judge which side to go. You hesitate, you always can't take a step, your heart will hang, very entangled, and it is a hard thing to think about.
Hesitant people, if they can deal with the problem immediately, then they will find that the road of life, thousands, is not necessarily right, but it is not necessarily all wrong, do not try, never know right or wrong. Brave steps, may not go very far, but again and again, will certainly go very far.
Our ancestors told us that "to suffer a loss is to be blessed." But you are always competing with others, competing for the high, not willing to suffer losses, you are very painful, and the blessing has slipped away quietly.
Friend Andy was calculated by colleagues in the unit, an annual report, manipulated by others, and some data were messed up. He was criticized by his superiors, and he was very angry, and he was furious in the office, trying to find out the person who was secretly making a mistake. For several days in a row, he was angry, but the villain behind him had never been found. In the end, he calmed down and corrected his mistake.
Yes, the mess of life, others will not help you to clean up, you still have to clean up by yourself. Why bother? Why oppose yourself?
Life is suffering, you should accept everything that cannot be changed, try to change what can be changed, and cannot force a certain result when suffering comes. If you can't accept it, then the more persistent you are, the more painful it is.
People who really have a big picture know how to "make fun in suffering." Someone said, "Suffering can feed a larger pattern of a person." "Suffering is a wealth, it is the nourishment of life, and if you absorb it, you will truly thrive."
Patterns limit your imagination, suffering breaks your imagination, and the two are opposites and complement each other. The real strong person is strong in the heart and the pattern is very large. The heart is broad, just like the sea, there can be a big pattern of "the sea and a hundred rivers"; if the heart is strong, it can withstand all the suffering, the soldiers will block, the water will cover the ground, there is no suffering in the world, only people who cannot see through.
Yu Dan said: "The key to growing up is to establish a life pattern for yourself. "The size of the pattern, but a thought, suddenly, an epiphany, tolerating the past of life, the pattern is big, life is not bitter."
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