A long article by Li Lianglei is an accusation against Wang Lihong and an indictment of widowhood with a baby in marriage.
A family of five, for a long time only Li Lianglei alone at home with a baby, even if there is occasional time to take a walk, it is also holding her son in one hand, holding two daughters in the other, and three young children are inseparable from her.
Li Lianglei met Wang Lihong at the age of 16, married 11 years later, divorced after 8 years, she endured physical fatigue, endured psychological pressure and mental torture, and finally was swept out of the house.
Her best years were given to Wang Lihong. Except for the three children, all the property had nothing to do with her.
Li Lianglei's situation also unveiled the unforgettable past of stay-at-home mothers, which resonated with all women.
How marriage should be maintained, how husband and wife should get along, ask everyone's heart.
01.
Marriage is a responsibility.
Li Lianglei and Wang Lihong have been together for 11 years.
It can be seen that marrying her, Wang Lihong is also well thought out, believing that this girl who has both knowledge and beauty is worthy of herself, and also believes that this studious, gentle and sensible girl is his lifelong partner.
When he finally tasted the taste of wandering, wanted the dust to settle, and entered the marriage, Li Lianglei was undoubtedly the best candidate, at that moment, they were in love with each other and were willing to hold hands with each other for a lifetime.
Wang Lihong was born in a medical family, has a deep affection for brothers, and has loving parents.
The warm family atmosphere makes him hope that he has many children, the children's frolicking, the warmth of his wife, will make all the tiredness disappear at the moment of returning home.
For the sake of Wang Lihong, Li Lianglei worked hard and complained, regardless of her physical weakness, and gave birth to three children in a row.
What she did not expect was that after getting married, Wang Lihong often went out and disappeared for several months, and her home has always been supported by her alone.
Most of the time, Li Lianglei is alone in the preparation for pregnancy, pregnancy, breastfeeding, with a baby. Changes in the body, changes in emotions, pain in the heart, no one can comfort, no one can understand.
She has always wanted to have a loving family, a husband who knows the cold and the hot.
In fact, in addition to constantly giving birth to a baby, she cannot feel the love of her husband, the happiness of marriage, and the happiness of her family.
After 8 years, for the rest of her life, she will be alone with three children, slowly growing old in loneliness.
Li Lianglei is a graduate student, highly educated, capable, educated, and knowledgeable, but she gave up her job for Wang Lihong and became a full-time mother.
Although she sacrificed everything, her giving, no one paid attention to it; her patience, no one understood.
8 years of marriage, in exchange for being abandoned, is forced to leave humiliatingly.
The pain and tiredness of stay-at-home mothers cannot be experienced by anyone, and such results are even more unacceptable. Even if you work hard and give everything, you still can't get the satisfaction of the other party.
A truly loving person should have the minimum morality, have the most basic conscience, know his responsibilities, and at least be responsible for his own home and children.
In this way, we are qualified to stand in front of the public, promote love, and pass on love. Otherwise, it is to desecrate those songs, deceive the feelings of the public, and desecrate people's eyes.
A man, if he can't bear the most basic responsibilities, even if the surface is beautiful, it will be like a castle made of sand, and if you touch it, the human design will shatter.
02.
Marriage requires trust
After getting married, because there was no job and no income, Li Lianglei's status plummeted.
Many men will think that the full-time wife is actually at home to enjoy the blessings, but to do housework, with children, the wind can not blow, the rain can not be.
They should be grateful, they should be content, they should give unconditionally.
However, no one can appreciate how difficult it is for a young woman to clean a huge house every day, have three children, be a free nanny, work all year round, and rotate multiple roles 24 hours a day.
What kind of pressure to bear mentally, physically, emotionally, no salary, no pay, being snubbed, being disliked, and looking at people's faces when it comes to using money.
Due to the signing of the prenuptial agreement, when Li Lianglei faced divorce, she had nothing but three children.
All the property is in the name of Wang Lihong and his mother, li Lianglei is an outsider, from the moment of marriage, it is doomed to the tragic end.
In fact, Li Lianglei's family conditions are not bad, if she knew that marrying Wang Lihong was such an ending, after paying youth and labor, she was swept out of the house, she would never agree to his marriage proposal.
She worked hard at home to pass on the inheritance for him; he performed outside in a beautiful way, ambiguous with many women.
Tired, tired, like a handkerchief to end the marriage, the whole body retreated, unscathed, joyful to meet the next relationship, this abacus is really desperate.
Where a man's money is, his heart is.
After all, Wang Lihong still did not trust Li Lianglei, and from the moment he entered the marriage, he made plans for divorce.
Without trust, nothing can be said.
03.
Marriage is a game
This is the strangest reason I've ever heard of a divorce: If you meet a girl you like, you don't want her to be talked about and wronged.
When Wang Lihong said these words, he did not consider the feelings of living with him for 8 years and being his wife who worked as a cow and a horse.
I don't understand what kind of psychology and intelligence, personality and character will make him say such things that destroy the three views.
Shouldn't a husband maintain the family with his wife and accompany his children to grow up?
Shouldn't a husband put his heart on his wife and reject the ambiguity of other women?
When Wang Lihong got married, he was wary of his wife everywhere, and his feelings were mixed with hypocrisy.
In order not to be separated from the property in the divorce, he asked Li Lianglei to sign a prenuptial agreement.
And Li Lianglei has been giving in, in order to maintain feelings and family, even if Wang Lihong repeatedly broke through the bottom line, she will humbly stand, endure, hoping to exchange for a complete family, can live a lifetime.
And it is human nature to be inching forward, and the more you retreat, the more rampant he will be.
Never believe the phrase "I raise you", only when you are strong, you can have the courage to compete with him, and you have the ability to protect yourself.
If the disparity in strength is too great, the stronger side will do whatever it wants, not take you in the eyes, look down on you, and see you as air.
No matter how much you give, the man will not look in the eyes, still thinking that you are living under his wings, that he is giving, giving, giving.
Marriage is like a scale, the two parties are always in the game, pulling, and when the weights on both sides do not match, they will lose their balance like a seesaw.
The greater the disparity, the sooner the marriage ends.
04.
What does an unrelated couple rely on to sustain their lives?
Even if you talk about love, you also need confidence, and you need to constantly replenish energy in order to last a long time.
If you keep reaching out to your husband for money to spend, you'll be shorter in the first place. It will become very humble, and even if he loves you very much, the sense of superiority will not help but flow out.
Never be a housewife.
Women must not only improve themselves, have their own jobs and careers, but also grasp the financial power of the family when they get married, so that they can have the right to speak and decide in marriage and earn a place for themselves.
In order to have their own armor at the critical moment, even if they are divorced, they will not end up at the point of being manipulated.