The day before yesterday when brushing Weibo, I saw Wang Lihong's announcement of the real hammer information that Li Lianglei and Li Lianglei had filed for divorce, this year there have been many news of celebrity divorce, some are not strange, whether celebrities or ordinary people, when the jokes of life make people, everyone is the same.
Therefore, instead of watching the gossip and private affairs of the famous people who eat melons, it is better to spend time caring for the people around you.
Today, I just want to talk to you about my good friends in college, an ordinary person like me, a hardcore fan of Wang Lihong for many years, a woman who cried because wang Lihong got married 8 years ago, and cried because of his divorce 8 years later.
Before going to college, the understanding of Wang Lihong was limited to listening to a few of his songs, and the first time he was intensively refreshed his information was in college, because I met my best friend, she was a super hardcore fan of Wang Lihong, the desk in the dormitory was pasted with his poster, and the computer was full of his songs, expressing his love for Wang Lihong all the time.
I remember once in an English speaking class, the theme is about idols and his influence on you, originally quiet and low-key, she took the initiative to raise her hand to speak, said a fluent English expression, that was the first time I learned about Wang Lihong from her mouth more completely, a self-motivated and gentle idol, is a little girl's heart of the spiritual energy star.
Later, she had a boyfriend in college, also a quiet Sven boy, who was particularly talented. She said that he was as sunny and warm as Wang Lihong, and later a few of our little sisters gave him a nickname called "Lihong".
I remember 8 years ago, when Wang Lihong announced her love and marriage, I was in the company's tea indirectly called her, she told me that she was sad and happy, and she actually cried when she saw Weibo. I comforted her and said, "The idols are all other people's in the end, don't you also have a 'Lihong' around you?" That's yours. “
Later, when I received her marriage invitation, I was very happy for her, many people said that the graduation season was the breakup season, but the two of them went from graduation to work, and finally entered the palace of marriage, many of which were not easy, and together they overcame the difficulties of long-distance relationships, family opposition and so on to come together.
When I went to their wedding, I was very excited, and I thought that "marrying true love" should be like this.
But last year, when she was in the alumni association, she told me: She is divorced! I was surprised and didn't know how to comfort her.
Later, she swallowed a sip of wine and said: "It is nothing, that is, the life is lightened by living feelings, and the family contradictions are all mixed together, and it is also a kind of relief to leave when you can't stand it." “
It was only later that I learned that because I had not had children for several years of marriage, my mother-in-law went from constant urging to swearing at everyone, and my husband avoided the chicken flying dog jump at home on the grounds of busy work every day, and finally she was disappointed too much and left.
Coincidentally, when I brushed Weibo last night, I was thinking of her, and I was hesitating whether to call her, because I hadn't chatted together for a long time, the phone rang at this time, she sobbed a little, she felt like she had cried, she said, when she saw that her idol when she was young was also divorced, there was an unspeakable sourness in her heart.
I probably know why she she shed tears, not just because of the divorce of her idol, but because she thought of herself, thought of the impermanence of the world, fate has not spared anyone, whether you are a celebrity or a commoner, fate is the same.
I took a look at Wang Lihong's Weibo and said, "I have done too much in my marriage over the years, and I feel sorry for it." Now we have different ideas and plans for the future way of life so we decided to live separately. ”
The reason for the divorce speculated by the Taiwan media is: the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The problem of Li Lianglei and her mother-in-law competing for property management rights, coupled with the various contradictions that have long existed and accumulated, has led to the result of divorce.
According to statistics, the national average divorce rate in 2020 is 39.33%, which means that every couple marries, and there will be four divorces at the same time. China's divorce rate has risen for 16 consecutive years. In this rising divorce rate, there are both celebrities and celebrities and ordinary people.
You see, in the vast world, people's sorrows and joys are not new. Whether you are a celebrity, a rich man, or an official, you will face all kinds of tests of fate, or the misfortune of marriage, the pain of life and death separation, complex and trivial family conflicts, disobedient children...
It is said that divorce must shed a layer of skin, although divorce is to stop the loss of relief and start over, but the marriage has reached the point of divorce, who is not already fragmented in the heart, saving enough disappointment and pain, has long shed a layer of skin, broken a true heart.
As Alexander Kruger said, "Unfortunately to a certain extent, you can't make love." ”
And suffering for all people is not offset by differences in money or status.
The little fans have cried bitterly, and Wang Lihong has also cried bitterly.
Even so, you always have to remember: divorce is for a better life.
After the divorce, her life is not like the counterattack in the plot of the novel, just like the ordinary life of ordinary people: a person to work, a person to eat and sleep, more time to spend with family, travel or alone. The life of ordinary people who are calm and simple is just like the life when they were single, but the mood is different, she said, very cherished and satisfied with the current life: simple and calm, no one bothers!
As long as you have a little better life, it will be better, and that's enough, isn't it?