Everyone's life may not be smooth sailing, there are "traces" and "downfalls".
We watch film and television dramas, or contact ourselves, a person relies on their own efforts, hard work, and finally "wins the world" - there is money, a career, and temporarily has a "squandered" capital, at this time this person is "floating", and he does not know when a lot of people who "praise" him have gathered.
Praise him for his ability, praise him for his courage, praise him for his boldness, praise him for his righteousness... This person is happy, and he regards these people as "friends."
Eating and drinking with these friends every day, socializing, not feeling that their professionalism is worn out a little with their "lights and wine", and they are "misled", investing in this, investing in that, and finally confused, they make money, and he spends the money and gets nothing.
This is when the "fall" comes. When he "falls", what he had before disappears, and these "friends" who follow him also disappear. Not even a word of concern and encouragement.
Therefore, when a person is down, he must always stay away from some such people, but these "three kinds of people" must take the initiative to approach.
1. People who are close to success
A person's success must have his own characteristics, such as having ideals, being able to endure hardships, withstanding loneliness, and withstanding "temptation".
People who are close to success are learning from him and thinking about why they are "down", and why do people always succeed?
There is an old saying: near Zhu is red, near ink is black, what does it mean, relying on cinnabar will turn red, relying on ink will become black. Yu means that contacting good people will also become better, and contacting bad people will also become bad.
Here's an easy-to-understand example:
For example, when we go to school, if we are often with classmates who do not love to study and do not study well, we will be affected by them, and our daily thoughts will only think of playing like them. The end result is academic waste.
And if you are with students who love learning, you can be infected by them, help each other learn from each other, and establish learning goals. The end result is academic success.
Therefore, when you are down, you must take the initiative to get close to the successful person and let him influence you with "successful thinking". If you change yourself, you will be able to get out of the "downfall".
2. Get close to people who can help you
Sometimes when we go to play with friends, we are reprimanded by our families: "I am with these fox friends again." ”
"Dog friend dog friend" is a derogatory term, in fact, you and I have it all around. They are all around you when you have interests, and when you need their help, you can't reach them.
These people usually eat and drink with you, "bragging", and in terms of communication, these friends are "useless" friends.
We make friends, that is, to make positive energy, sunny, positive people, they usually do not have time to drink with you to waste time, they use this time in learning, career.
And these people, although they usually have little contact with you, if you have "deep feelings" with you, you will definitely come to help you.
There is a saying that is very good: the friendship of gentlemen is as light as water, and the friendship between real friends is unprofitable and frank.
So, when we are down, we have to go close to such a person, and he can help us.
3. Get close to someone who loves you
Who cares most about you?
It's the people who love you, it's your family.
When you are developed, those who love you will be happy for you; you are downcast, and those who love you will not abandon you.
The person who loves you loves you is not your wealth, the various "halos" in you, the person who loves you loves you because you are "family", "husband", or "wife". You are part of this family.
You are depressed, the person who loves you can live in the "hut" with you, eat "coarse tea and light rice", family reunion, you are well, and the person who loves you asks is actually "simple".
So, when you are down, take the initiative to get close to the person who loves you. The person who loves you will give you a "harbor", will give you comfort, will give you encouragement, will give you the strength to "make a comeback".
This is something that no one else can give you.
At last:
There is a saying like this: stumbling is life, ups and downs are life!
A person "down", psychologically said to be frustrated, if the operation is not good psychology, it will be devastated.
First of all, we must have the psychology of "seeing openly", and then we must also reflect on our past, correct our mistakes, and finally go close to the three kinds of people in the text.
The downfall is only a moment.