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The most precious thing in life is the kind of firmness that belongs to the self, no matter what others say and think, you insist that you are right and really live for yourself.
As the Nobel laureate in literature Mo Yan once said:
"Even if you can't see the future, even if you can't see hope, you still believe that you can't be wrong." The people you choose can't be wrong, and the life you choose can't be wrong. ”
This firmness comes from the confidence in the bones, but also from the strength of the heart.
If you can insist that you are right, if you can always be yourself, then you who follow your heart and live are very remarkable.
In a way, the really advanced and intelligent way of living is to abandon the outside world's views and truly follow your own inner wishes. If you can do the following things well, you can see that your heart has matured.
One: Read books and constantly enrich your heart
Many people add too much purpose and utilitarianity to the book, and reading is like a social business card for them, which can help them create a persona or become a talking point in their chat.
All they value is the matter of reading, but what they read, they don't care.
Some people are eager to make quick gains, just read two books of sociology, hope that they can see through the laws of this world, memorize two selected poems of Tang Dynasty, and hope that they can export chapters and literary brilliance.
Have you ever seen how moso bamboo grows?
For the first four years, the bamboo just popped out of the ground with a small tip, and when you look at it day by day, it doesn't seem to grow at all, and it's slow to 4 years and only grows 3 centimeters.
In fact, its roots and whiskers are already stretching underground, and it is eagerly absorbing and saving energy. Once the time comes, that's the day it raises its eyebrows.
From the fifth year onwards, bamboo grows at a rate of 30 centimeters every day, reaching 15 meters in just 6 weeks.
What looked like a wasteland for the first four years will become a lush bamboo forest after 6 weeks.
We read books, the same as planting moso bamboo. Read books, do not have utilitarian purposes, want to see the effect in a short period of time. That's not reading, that's exam preparation.
Reading is the process of self-precipitation and accumulation, you don't know which book will help you tomorrow, but you have to believe that every book you read will give you blessings and help you in life.
Two: Save money to make your future more secure
Zweig said: All the gifts of fate are secretly marked with prices. Smart people will polish their eyes and will not be blinded by the dazzling consumption trap.
In fact, a lot of consumption now belongs to consumption upgrades, and it is not necessary to consume. Consumption has been upgraded, can the services and enjoyment obtained be really upgraded? It can only be said that it is a subjective problem of self-evidence.
Some people feel that after the consumption upgrade, the brand premium purchased and the envious eyes of others are also a good shopping experience, but when you get the bill and the empty bank card at the end of the month, I hope you can still think like this.
There was once such news, which was extremely sad.
A lady in Nanjing, who began to save money from her college days, saved two apartments nine years after graduation.
This lady's surname is Wang, and she is not how difficult the family is, or what is difficult to say, she just has a strong inner, extremely low materialistic desire, and does not need to arm herself with external substances.
Ms. Wang's savings rate is as high as 90%, which means that if her monthly salary is 5,000 yuan, she will save 4,500 yuan, and her daily consumption is only 500 yuan.
She said bluntly in an interview:
"Every time my savings increase, it's a time when I'm building lifeboats for myself and my family. If I confiscated it, how long would I live, and the more I saved, the more secure I felt. ”
The world panicked, but for the sake of breaking silver, but this broken silver could relieve many sorrows in the world.
Money is not a panacea, maybe when you need it but you don't have it, then you know what is impossible. Saving money is not a number, but your own security and safety.
Three: Enjoy solitude, say goodbye to useless socializing, and silently focus on yourself
There is a well-known sentence in the Analects: "My Three Provinces and My Body: Seeking For Others and Not Being Faithful?" Friends and not convinced? Can't get used to it? ”
Among them, the three provinces and my body refer to the time when a person is alone, and if you think about your own behavior for a day, this is the earliest enjoyment of solitude in ancient times.
Modern people have become accustomed to lively socializing, noisy circles, and the time they can leave for themselves is too little and too little.
One person is afraid of loneliness, and two people are afraid of being disappointed, so many times, they are forced to carry out some ineffective social interactions, which seem to be fulfilling, but in fact, they are all internal friction.
When people live to a certain age, they must understand the importance of being alone, say goodbye to the useless social interactions that only consume themselves, and learn to be alone with themselves. Do something you want to do, meet some people you want to meet, and slowly you will find that life can be very meaningful.
People who really have a pattern, even the way of living is different, I hope that each of us can live a full and rich life.
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