Author/Pond Fish
This is the question that a girl asked me: If the person who asked me half a life came back, could I continue?
She hesitated because she asked a person who came over and the answer she told was: No, because he will continue to take your remaining half life.
Hearing this, she was frightened. She struggled to crawl out of her past emotions, no longer as angry as before, and regained her confidence in love. But this time, he came back. His return to her was like a thunderclap exploding on the flat ground, and with the momentum of the fire, it quickly raised a different expectation in her already withered heart.
But she also knew that if she went back and repeated the same mistakes, she might not be able to bear the consequences.
On the other hand, if she doesn't turn back, she can't accept other people at all. When he was in her mind, she was always unconsciously comparing, and then felt that no one was inferior to him. Although her friends around her scoffed at this, they did not understand what kind of obsession was hidden behind her affection.
In fact, when she asked this question, I knew that she would probably turn back, otherwise she wouldn't be so entangled, just a turn around, if she could really do it with a wave of the sleeve, without taking away a cloud, she wouldn't go around asking.
At this point, from the standpoint of an outsider, I must think that this is unnecessary.
Because outsiders look at a thing with a completely rational and objective mentality, they will not be mixed with any emotions and thoughts of individuals. But love is never discussed in this way, love is sometimes unreasonable, it is knowing that there are tigers in the mountains that are biased towards the tiger mountain line, it is I who love you, although I understand that you have bad points.
Sometimes, love is love, and falling in love with the great truths in the future is just a wind in the ears.
As for her, can she turn back?
What I want to say is that in fact, depending on the situation, there is basically no standard answer to any kind of phenomenon in love. Because everyone faces different realities and different personalities, naturally when the same choice is made, the final result will be different.
Whether you can turn back, first of all, you have to think about two questions.
First, you have to think about what is the reason for the separation of the two of you, and is this factor now addressed?
If the objective problem that led to the separation of the two of you still exists, then no matter how many times you look back, it will be the same result.
I think of a girl whose boyfriend's mother did not agree with them being together, who had no ability to persuade her mother and who had no ability to start a family on his own with the help of his parents. In the dilemma, his initial choice of method has been to stabilize his girlfriend and beg her not to break up, but he himself has not tried to solve this problem.
Therefore, if they are in this situation, it is also a foreseeable result to go back.
At the same time, I think of another girl who was separated from her ex, reunited, and has gone all the way to the hall of marriage, and now the children are two years old. She and her boyfriend were able to get back together because the reason they were separated in the first place was that the two of them were more stubborn, they were young at the time, they didn't know how to give in to each other, and although they loved each other, they also tortured each other.
Later, when they met again, they all matured a lot, remembered the past, and even felt the stubbornness of that time, a kind of childish childishness.
They quickly got back together, and they were unusually compatible, rarely quarreling, and both of them inexplicably felt that they were really a match made in heaven.
Second, you have to ask yourself, if you continue to be with this person, can you completely put aside the past and choose to start again?
Two people have been together, and then they have separated, and there must have been something big and small in between, and these things will be like an invisible barrier between you when you meet again.
At this time, can you put down the past estrangement, really with a calm heart, to face the reunion of two people and all the next time to get along.
Some people can, because they have not done anything involving principles and bottom lines, nor have they done anything to hurt each other, and naturally they will not really go to their hearts.
But for others, it may not be possible.
For example, a girl said that the ex she once loved to the bone, and then came back to her, she was still in love, but still did not look back. Because in the days when they were separated, the boy found another person, and later he still felt that she was good, so he chose to turn back to her.
Naturally, she couldn't accept him like this.
"If there is no third person involved between us, I can try to forgive whatever he does, but once a third person intervenes, it is impossible," she said. ”
There is another girl, she faces the redemption of her ex, although she wants to go back, she still refuses to get back. It's just because when they were separated, they were very unhappy.
She said: "I still think of him speaking ill of me, and I am afraid, even though he is now obedient to me." But I'm still afraid. I didn't dare to look back, I was afraid to see him like that again. In this way, it is better to keep that beautiful him in his heart all the time. The people and things of the past have passed. ”
Whether you can turn back, you should have a scale in your own heart, instead of listening to what outsiders say, outsiders' answers may not necessarily apply to you.
Of course, there are still some people, maybe they understand everything and know that this relationship cannot be turned back, but they still turn back. I used to think that such people were too stupid, but later I realized after experiencing feelings that they were not purely stupid, but brave. Sometimes, it is like this, afraid of their own regrets, so they have to do their best, once they miss, it is forever, thinking of it will feel heartache, so they give each other another chance.
If you still can't get what you want, at least you don't regret it when you think about it later.
From another point of view, truly loving someone is also a kind of happiness.
This is your own feeling, and you can only be responsible for it in the future. No matter what choice you make, you follow your own heart, people live a lifetime, just a few decades, if you blindly use reason to do things, life will always seem boring. Just don't regret it.
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