Recently, everyone has been eating melon, saying that Wang Lihong is divorced, and asking me what I think of this matter as an emotional counselor. So in this issue, let's talk about it: for Wang Lihong's textual opinion.
I saw Wang Lihong sent such a text: Lianglei and my private life is very simple, very simple, so will not respond to any media, in these years of marriage, I have done too much deficiency, but also feel very sorry, now we have different ideas and plans for the future way of life, so decided to live separately, although we have applied, but we will always be a family, begging the outside world to give privacy and space, do not disturb the family, thank you for your concern.
I have two views on this incident of his, let's discuss it with you, of course, you can also talk about your views in the comment area later.
First, when I flipped through his Weibo, I found that he had been officially announcing that he had been in the past eight years, so there was a very important factor in the history of marriage in these eight years, that is, three children.
Some people say that it is normal to have three children in eight years, but for a celebrity couple, what does it mean to have three children in eight years? The process of having a child from pregnancy preparation to pregnancy, to childbirth, to confinement, and then to raising, is actually quite long. Then eight years and three children can be said to have basically occupied most of their time.
That is to say, after marriage, especially women, because men may have less sense of participation in the family, women may spend more time on this child or family in the past eight years, and they will ignore the management of feelings.
If it is an ordinary couple, it may be fine, because everyone is busy making a living and will not think about how to sublimate their feelings, but for a celebrity couple, they must value spiritual satisfaction more. Not taking time out to maintain their feelings may also be one of the reasons for their broken feelings.
Second, I saw this interesting passage here, Wang Lihong said: Although we have applied, we will always be a family. As this melon eater, or as a psychological counselor, the teacher really wants to complain, how can it be a family after this separation? Of course, perhaps what Wang Lihong wants to express is that we can still be good after separation, not that after separation, we will be enemies, this teacher can understand.
From this sentence, the teacher remembered that many men will say such a sentence when divorcing, or when they mention divorce with their wives: "Wife, although we are divorced now, I will be good to you in the future." At first glance, these words sound like a warm man saying that even if we leave, I will still be good to you.
But in fact, are these words self-deceptive? When most men say this, they have only two thoughts:
First: Keep you as a spare tire. We are divorced, but we can use it again in the future.
Second: covering up your own hurt. Because for the public's eyes, most divorces, the condemnation of men will be more, feel that he has the suspicion of abandoning his wife and son, so men will deceive themselves and use this sentence to appease each other, in fact, they are also appeasing themselves.
This is the teacher's interpretation of this passage. So now that they have been separated, bless them, as Wang Lihong himself said, to live the life they want. If you have a different interpretation of this passage, you can also discuss with the teacher below the comments, see you in the next issue.