People often say that ugly women are more strange, and people say that red faces are more troublesome, how long can a woman grow up to be without fault? Why does Mao Dun say that "ugly women do more evil"? The reader misunderstands that his original meaning is really not discrimination.
The Chinese people have an old problem that has not changed for thousands of years, that is, "judging people by their appearance." The reason why Lao Huang said that "judging people by their appearance" has a history of thousands of years is because the word itself has existed for more than a thousand years. Confucius, who had a sage of saints, had done the work of "judging people by appearance", and sima Qian's "Biography of the Disciples of Shi Ji Zhongni" in advance: "I take people by words, and I take people by my loss; I take people by appearance, and I lose my son Yu." ”
The story goes like this: Confucius's student Zi Yu was ugly in appearance, Confucius was very cold to him, he only left Confucius to go back to self-study, and later became a famous scholar. The student Zaiyu was very good-looking and eloquent, but was later criticized by Confucius for being inconsistent in words and deeds. The reason why Confucius was able to be praised as holy was because he could quickly realize his mistakes, so he once said with emotion: "You can't judge people by their appearance, nor can you measure others by their words." ”
Confucius knows that mistakes can be changed, so they can be sanctified, and ordinary people, but there is no wisdom of saints, the belief of "taking people by appearance" has not changed for thousands of years, for this reason, he has also summed up a lot of corresponding experiences, such as the saying "look at clothes from afar and respect people close to people", so it doesn't matter how you wear at home, acquaintances know your weight, but if you go out, you have to try to dress yourself up decently, so as to gain the respect of others.
Indeed, in an environment where people don't know each other, people don't find your inner goodness, but judge your worth only by what you wear. Such "unspoken rules" have a certain snobbish component, but there is no other more effective way. Not only the Chinese, but also the Western world, people also pay attention to their own image, so in formal social occasions, they only wear eight hundred dresses.
Not only clothing, but also people's appearance, will also be taken to talk about things, such as people often say "ugly women are more weird." I have a friend who once spat with me, saying that she was an ugly-looking woman, most of whom had a strange temper, loved to manipulate right and wrong, and loved to make things bad behind my back. Moreover, taking the facts of his company as an example, most of the ugly women in the unit are not easy to get along with and communicate, like to make things difficult, anyway, always love to do something strange to reflect their sense of existence.
"Ugly women do more evil" is a common saying that is often quoted in modern times, and it should be born from Mr. Mao Dun's "ugly people do more strange things". The phrase "ugly people do more evil" was first derived from Mao Dun's (Shen Yanbing) novel "Corrosion". Set in Chongqing from September 1940 to February 1941, Corrosion depicts the experience of a female agent, Zhao Huiming. In the form of a diary, the work shows the major historical events of that time from the side through Zhao Huiming's contradictory and complex psychological activities and accounts. Corrosion. There is a passage in the "September 15th": "'Ugly people do a lot of weirdness', not afraid of people seeing vomiting, you should also take a mirror and look at it yourself." ”
Ugly people are more weird, which means that ugly people often do some bizarre and strange things to embarrass others or win the attention of others. To be a jerk is to always hide behind and chew on the root of a person's tongue or do something unsightly dirty. Because Mao Dun's works were first written about female spies, the "ugly people" of "ugly people do more evil" were slowly used by people, so the evil language of "ugly women do more strange things" became popular.
Indeed, the actions of some ugly women in history are unreliable and even disgraceful, such as the empress of Sima Zheng, the emperor of Jinhui. Jia Nanfeng was the daughter of Jia Chong, a chancellor of the Western Jin Dynasty, and belonged to an ugly-looking family, and even her father-in-law Sima Yan said that she was "ugly and short and black". Because Sima Zheng's IQ is low, the result is that the ugly woman is in the limelight. Jia Nanfeng is not only ugly, but also sexually jealous, fierce and violent, and cruel and extreme in his treatment of "enemies".
According to the "Book of Jin" and "Zizhi Tongjian" and other canonical records, Jia Nanfeng, who had no appearance, was also male, and was very sexually abusive, in addition to having an affair with the Tai Doctor Ling Cheng, he often sent people to look for beautiful young men on the road and tortured and killed them. A small official was spared from being killed because of his handsomeness, but was thought to have stolen because of the sudden luxury of his clothes, and finally confessed that he had slept with Jia Nanfeng for several days and obtained these items. After listening to the little official's speech, everyone understood that this woman was Empress Jia Nanfeng, so they smiled and left.
Moreover, because of Emperor Hui's cowardice, Jia Nanfeng also chaotic government and harmed people, and was the culprit of the "Rebellion of the Eight Kings" in the Western Jin Dynasty, and later died at the hands of Sima Lun, the King of Zhao, and the subsequent Rebellion of the Eight Kings caused the famous Wuhu Chaos in history. Therefore, Jia Nanfeng has always been regarded as a typical negative figure in the harem chaos.
The reason why the "shortness" of "ugly women" attracts people's attention is that there are also psychological hints that play a role in the blame, because they do not pay much attention to their appearance, so their words and deeds will be infinitely magnified. If a good-looking woman does something strange, people's attention may not be focused on the "things" they do, and the attention will stay on their faces or figures.
Jia Nanfeng's "evil" is only about the individual, and has nothing to do with beauty and ugliness. In fact, ugly women are more likely to leave a virtuous name. For example, Zhong Wuyan, the empress dowager of King Xuan of Qi. Zhong Wuyan, also known as Zhong Lichun and Zhong Wuyan, shi said that she looked "broad-fronted and deep-eyed, with a knotted nose and throat, a hunchback and a fat neck, long fingers and big feet, hair like autumn grass, skin like lacquer, and wearing torn clothes." "She is nearly 40 years old and has not yet married, but she is talented, known for her great ambitions, and has the talent to govern the country, so she eventually became the empress of King Qi Xuan. For the advice of King Xuan of Qi, he demolished the gradual platform, dismissed the women's music, retired from the slander, went straight, selected soldiers and horses, shifu treasury, and Qi Guo Da'an.
There is also leaving a "case to raise eyebrows" to talk about Meng Guang, who is also an ugly woman with high sex. Meng Guang is a Han Dynasty person, her father is a famous rich man in the county, it is a rich second generation, but, all the old girls in their 30s, still can't marry, the main reason is two points, one is that the girl's vision is too high, the average person she can't see, the second is that the appearance is too low, take modern words, it is ugly, so, her father and mother look up to the family, people can't look at her. How ugly is Meng Guang? According to the Book of the Later Han Dynasty, "Fat and ugly and black, he lifted the stone mortar." "Fat and dark-skinned, with poor looks, but with great strength and the ability to lift stones." The stone mortar here is not a small ball art of pounding garlic, but a big guy who can scoop rice valley! It is such a woman, but full of fantasies about love, no matter how her parents toss, she has only one wish in her heart, that is, to marry Liang Hong, the handsome pot pot of the county.
Although Liang Hong was a bitter child, he was tireless in learning, erudite and virtuous. At that time, many powerful people felt that Liang Hong's future was unlimited, and they were eager to marry their daughters to him, but he refused, and he became an elderly youth.
Meng Guang, who was also a leftover woman, was forced to marry by his parents, so he said to his parents: "I want to marry someone as virtuous as Liang Boluan." Meng Guang's parents went to find Liang Hong, but they did not expect that Liang Hong would not marry a beautiful girl, and actually agreed to this marriage. Think about it, the marriage of Lang Cai's female appearance can only be envied for a while, and the combination with the ugly woman can make him live forever.
After marriage, Liang Hong and Meng Guang lived in seclusion in the Baling Mountains, relying on Liang Hong to work short-term work to scoop rice for others. It is said that their life after marriage is like this, every day when Liang Hong returns from work, Meng Guang will raise the plate containing the meal to the height of his eyebrows, serve him respectfully, and never dare to look up. This story is called raising eyebrows, and it is regarded as a model for future generations of couples, and Meng Guang has thus become an example of a wife.
Most of the thinking of the Chinese people is jumping, after the loss of ugly women, turn around and blush, behind many major events in history, there will be a "red face disaster". Xia Jie's queen sister Xi, Shang Yi's favorite concubine Daji, King Zhou You's favorite concubine, the spring and autumn period of the State of Xie's wife Xi Concubine, Chen Guo's grand master Xia Yushu's wife Xia Ji, Hancheng Emperor Liu Xiao's favorite concubines Zhao Feiyan and Zhao Hede, and Yang Guifei, who was buried in Ma Songpo, were all great beauties of yan, but after their deaths, they all carried the notoriety of "disaster to the country and defeated husbands".
What is the sin of beauty? The major affairs of the military state are all handled by men, and their deaths and the destruction of their country have nothing to do with the beauty? "Ugly women do more weird", "red face and more disaster water" or not, it seems to be a face discrimination, but it is actually sex discrimination. All this is nothing more than the inertia of the male power world to "throw the pot".
Therefore, people do not have to be too entangled, because the beauty and ugliness of people are in the heart, not in the face. Be true to yourself, laugh when you are happy, cry when you are unhappy, and let him "see strange or not" go no matter what other people's eyes look at!