1. No matter what you are looking for, family affection, friendship, or love, all your life, in fact, you are a person, very few people can really understand yourself like you, even if it is a relative, friend or lover, they can only help you understand yourself, your only life problem is to find yourself.
2. He who does not know how to love himself cannot love others. Sometimes, pity is not love, indulgence is not love, the right love is rigid and soft, praise and depreciation are present, it is harsh when lazy, hugs when crying, encouragement when cowardly, street lamps in the night. Love is the wind that makes the kite fly, it is the nectar in the desert, it is the tree planted in the Gobi Desert, it is the bird that flies in the storm, it is the kite line that you hold tightly in your hands and are willing to release, the right love will not make anyone miserable, it will only make your spirit and heart go farther and higher in any weather.
3. Sometimes the biggest hurt comes from the people closest to you, but you have to remember that you are good, and it is good to be yourself, don't resent, don't become what you hate, and the best response to the hurt is: Let the hurt end with me.
To let the hurt go to me is not to break my teeth and swallow in my stomach, but to have the ability to digest, understand, solve, and get out of this strange circle.
4. The only thing that can really effectively change yourself in life is a few decades or so, and cherish opportunities, especially when you are young, such as reading. Girls have to read even more.
5. Everyone's life is snowing, try to clean their own eaves, be considerate of other people's hardships, forgive the occasional indifference, no one is a superman who never tires. But if you can, you have to try to be a person who can warm people, and that's a good feeling.
6. Sometimes you can be selfish, you don't have to be strong, you can cry, you can vent your troubles by doing anything that others can't understand (don't break the law), and when you're well rested, remember to go again.
7. Many achievements, big achievements and small achievements, are harvested in pain, setbacks, and difficulties. It's normal that you can't grow up just by doing simple things.
8. Pay attention to health and live well. It's not easy to come to earth.
9. Don't back down when you're scared, I advise you to face the difficulties, if you're a little friend and you're beaten at school, be sure to beat me back on the spot, but fight back appropriately, don't be too heavy. Even if you can't beat it, the next time he beats you, he will think about it. If you don't fight back, he won't even think about it.
10. Believe, as long as you believe, many things will come to fruition, and believing is an ability. It's almost like patience.
11. If you are in love, if you are in love, nothing, you still talk about a lot of love, lost love many times, do not feel how lucky to talk about a relationship, back to the first "find yourself", if you talk once you see yourself the best, if you talk a hundred times you find it is also very good, love is not charity, when you find yourself more and more vague, lose yourself, don't talk about it, please find yourself, find yourself, understand yourself, when you really understand yourself, not just love, There are many things that you understand that people and things are best for you. When someone makes you know yourself more and more, love yourself, and look forward to the future, just like the "I see you" in "Avatar", being seen is true love. This button is like a sesame opening the door, being seen, you can see yourself, i see you, only i see myself. See yourself, many doubts are naturally solved, all the past ununderstood and lonely pain, like melting snow dissipated away, turned into water began to nourish all things.
12. Stay awake at all times, be objective when sober, always be your teacher, friend, lover, loved one, or even enemy, and say i am a good girl/boy to yourself every day. Looking back on your past, don't you deserve the title? You never give up on yourself, you fall and get up, even if you occasionally fall, but you are still clumsily seriously alive, you deal with your own wounds, lick your own scars, you have also brought some good to others, you are moving towards the unknown future every moment, you are so brave, strong, even if you have been timid and cowardly, but without those persistence and bravery you will not have the opportunity to read my words, and you will not even live until now, so, you are really great, tell yourself "i am a good girl/ boy."
13. Let go of nostalgia and let the past pass. The past you have vanished, now you are a new soul, if you care too much about the traces of the past, you are wasting the present, please let go of the past, let go of all the good and bad, let the past be the real past, don't blame the past others, don't blame the past self, we are all living for the first time, no one knows how life will become before life, please let the past pass, not only the present, the future is also, never look back on the past, unless you are now dying, dying old, doing nothing, To prevent Alzheimer's disease, you can indulge in memories.
14. In order to have memories when you are old and have nothing to do, and in order to have materials for memories, please try to live as hard as possible now! Have fun living, don't be lucky.
15. Maturity, when you do what you want to do, you may be embarrassed, even ugly, compared with those who are light and cloudy, you will think that I am really immature, why can't I do that? You'll even be marketed to learn the science of success and worship some successful people, thinking they're really mature. I want to tell you that you are not immature. Maturity is calmness, in the process of pursuing goals, do not care about other people's opinions, not swayed by big and small interests, do not give up because of any internal and external factors, calmly accept all results, calmly face all gains and losses, be frank to nothing that can tempt you, crush you, you only live for yourself, you face the embarrassment in the process of realizing yourself, you do not care about the eyes of others, you are not humble, you are not insulted.
16. The clouds are light and the wind is light, the left and right sources are nothing more than the elegance of the posture, and the success of learning is nothing more than playing through the rules of the society's golden rights and interests, but success and posture are not equal to maturity, and maturity should be the abundance of self-knowledge. Don't give up on the most important thing for the sake of grace! Life is too short, you only have one life. If you're 80 now, do you still care if others think you're graceful or bring something into the soil to accompany your soul? Boldly pursue everything, just be happy, even if so many other people's opinions. You have found yourself, recognized yourself, can help yourself make the right choice, can do your best in the process and calmly face the gains and losses, is mature, I said. When you are eighty years old, you will not regret it, you can brag vigorously in the pile of sisters and brothers, they must envy you for living so hard.
17. Many things are understood in a step-by-step manner, and one day you can connect them and realize something deeper. Maybe at first you can't see it is a ladder, you see the first floor today, tomorrow you see the third floor, the day after tomorrow you see the second floor, you wonder if it was misjudged, how to go back, until you see the fourth layer, then see the ninth layer, and then return to see the fifth floor, one day you have finally reached a small upper limit (the ceiling of your comprehensive ability), you will feel that everything is suddenly enlightened, and you begin to feel that "everything is the best arrangement" . Until then, you may have been confused, tangled, and torn.
Don't worry, one day you'll understand a lot of things. All the unstable perspectives, confusion, pain and entanglement you have may be just one or a few of the ladders.
Whether it is good times and bad, good or bad, in fact, there are different kinds of ladders, the more ladders you have, the more diverse you are, the more you understand the world, and what the world is is completely up to you (mentality). So pluralism is not a bad thing, the more you wanton life, the more you encounter favorable adversity (poor psychological endurance may collapse, do what you can).
Finally, Nagging again "no silicon step can not reach a thousand miles" and "a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step", do not despise the low-level experience. Then embrace your luck and suffering, life is about experience