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Between friends, really can't talk about money?
In fact, this is a kind of inertial thinking, in life, there are always examples of collapsing feelings when talking about money, giving people the impression that feelings are feelings and must not involve interests.
But is there really a causal relationship between feelings and money?
Of course not, personally, I am currently starting a business with good friends, and the money I earn has to go through her hands, but I have never felt any uneasiness.
She always jokingly said to me, "Your boss, I work part-time." ”
I said, "The money I make has to go through you, and you're my boss." ”
Once this issue is mentioned, we will always let go, nothing more than not wanting to make the other party suffer.
Therefore, it is very comfortable to start a business with good friends, and there is no need to make conflicts of interest.
We all think that even if we earn less, we should not let our friends suffer.
Of course, some people will say that this is the beginning, and after making money, it is inevitable to be jealous of each other.
Perhaps, there will be countless possibilities in the future, why should we define it in advance?
I think that if two people trust each other from the beginning, this is a very rare basis for cooperation.
And only between real friends, there will be no quarrels over interests.
However, she and I would also quarrel because I wanted her to share some more money, and she was adamantly unwilling.
Money is money, feelings are feelings, this must be clearly distinguished.
If you want to talk about money, don't say something that hurts feelings; if you want to talk about feelings, don't think about using money to measure it.
Among friends, what is afraid is not to talk about money, but to be afraid of a person being blinded by money and not to disappoint the heart.
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A true friend would rather suffer losses.
Someone asked me this question: "Why is it that the better a friend is, the less you want to trouble her?" ”
I said, because the more I like it, the more I care, I don't want the other party to suffer a little loss, and in the same way, the more I care, the more I want to help the other party.
People are mutual, and some people are sincerely willing to help you, which is for your sake, afraid that you will not have a good life.
And you don't want to trouble each other, but also for the sake of each other, do not want to drag others down.
But if you switch roles, when your friends need help, you will only feel that even if you do more, you have to do your best.
Friends are people who would rather suffer losses themselves and try their best to help you.
As for money, seriously, if it is a friend you particularly care about, I believe you will not worry about the other party not paying it back.
Also, it will definitely be repaid, and it is not something that friends will do.
But if the other party is really in debt, or even a little guilty, it is clear that they are using you, then this friend should not be.
A sum of money, to see a person, to eat a loss, but it is also worth it.
From now on, you can change friends.
Friends can be changed, as long as you feel, the change is worth it.
Those who are not suitable, change it, do not need to feel sorry.
03
Money is just a tool to test people's hearts.
Does someone sell their feelings for money?
Of course there is, and there is no shortage of such examples in reality.
Some people betray their friends for money, and some people do more terrible things.
Feelings are something that most of the time has a price, and when the temptation is big enough, people will always do something to break the bottom line.
But no reasoning can be generalized.
We always have to admit that some people can insert knives into the ribs of friends, and some people regard face as more important than life.
Once when I went to Shanghai, when my friend had just found a job in Shanghai, he took out a month's salary and invited me to eat, drink and have fun.
This is actually what I learned later, the original life and entertainment of the magic city, the price is really high.
I asked him later, why bother?
He said, you come to me, I must make you happy, otherwise no one will be happy.
There are friends from afar, and they are very happy.
This sentence is really very appropriate to put here.
So this is a friend, no need to make a trade-off, no matter how much you pay, it is worth it.
Money, a lot of times, really isn't that important.
May the affection not be betrayed, and may the ending be worthy of paying.
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