Although the phrase "holding the hand of the son, and the son with the old" was originally said to speak of the love between the soldiers, it has evolved to this day and has long been a famous love quote in people's hearts.
In fact, whether it is a high-ranking nobleman or an ordinary woman, they all want a happy marriage and their own wishful thinking.
There is a saying that "it is better to learn well than to marry well", with some feudal traditional ideas, but there is no doubt that if a woman has a good relationship, it is indeed a beautiful thing.
At the end of the Qing Dynasty, there was such a young lady with both moral integrity and ability, although the war situation at the end of the Qing Dynasty was chaotic, she still married a husband who was right at home.
In order to reproduce the heirs, she gave birth to 14 children in 16 years, and died early due to illness, and I really don't know whether this marriage is a blessing or a curse for her.
Lu Ying was born in Yangzhou, the land of Zhong Lingyuxiu in jiangnan, which was the Yangzhou where the Sui Emperor did not hesitate to build a large number of buildings to enjoy flowers.
Yangzhou has always been a gathering place for literati and inkers, and there are countless praises about the feng shui and human feelings of this place.
Lu Ying's family is not an ordinary ordinary person, but a famous local salt merchant's family, and his family is well-off.
Just like all the bridesmaids, Lu Ying has been reading poetry since childhood, her tutoring is strict, and her words and deeds reflect the etiquette and rules, and there can be no mistakes.
As Lu Ying grew up, her mother not only taught her female embroidery, but also took her to deal with the internal affairs of the family.
Because the mother knows that her daughter was born beautiful and dignified and knowledgeable, she will definitely become the head of the house and be respected in the future.
In fact, her mother's idea was only half guessed, Lu Ying did become the head of the house, but her life was not happy, and she was even blindsided.
In the education of the Lu family, the traditional female moral education is followed, teaching women to be virtuous and virtuous, with husband as the guideline.
Therefore, even Lu Ying, who has been pampered since childhood, her thinking is still the most original old-fashioned, and she feels that her husband is the sky.
At this time, the nobles of Hefei who were thousands of miles away, Lu Ying did not know that her future husband was waiting to marry her.
The Zhang family in Feixi, Hefei, is a century-old family, and zhang Shusheng, the ancestor of the Zhang family, was once appreciated by Li Hongzhang.
He held important positions in the imperial court, helped the imperial court to suppress peasant uprisings many times, and was a famous marshal of the Huai Army.
At this time, it is also the time when the reputation of the Zhang family is the most prominent, after all, the family has produced such a figure, and even the entire family has glory.
But the Zhang family then faced a big problem, which did not mean that grace was no longer or the emperor was reduced, but that the heirs were thin.
For a family to prosper for a long time, the most important thing is to continue to have excellent descendants emerge, and only relying on the merits of the ancestors can not support for too long.
But perhaps because of bad luck, none of the 5 sons of the Zhang family survived until the appearance of Zhang Wuling.
Zhang Wuling is the son of Mrs. Wufang of the Zhang family, and in the face of this hard-won son, the family is precious.
It is also for the glory of the whole family, the Fifth Fang of the Zhang Family passed Zhang Wuling to Mrs. Dafang and put him under her name as an adopted son.
In this way, even if the Zhang family had five mothers-in-law, they put all their energy on Zhang Wuling.
Although Zhang Wuling is the only male in the family, he is also favored by his mother in the family, but he has not developed a pompous personality.
He is humble and courteous, has a calm temperament, and treats the elders in the family very respectfully, which is very literati.
He himself did not like to engage in politics or business, but was very interested in girls' schools and charity, and the local people also had a good opinion of his style.
In 1906, the Zhang family's mother-in-law married Miss Lu of Yangzhou, that is, Lu Ying, for her son who was in the year of marriage.
Although Lu Ying was in the boudoir, she was quiet and decent, and the reputation of Zhishu Dali had long been spread.
Both families are aristocratic celebrities, and the wedding scene is also extremely grand, and it is not too much to describe Lu Ying's dowry with the red makeup in the book.
Lu Ying, who is married, has the love of her husband and the care of her mother-in-law, although she is thousands of miles away from home, her life is also quite comfortable.
But in the eyes of the mother-in-law, included in Lu Ying's thinking, it is the wife's duty to have children for her husband and to continue to have children.
What's more, the descendants of the Zhang family are thin, only Zhang Wuling is a single seedling, and Lu Ying also knows that the task on his body is heavy, so he does not dare to slacken off.
A year after marriage, Lu Ying gave birth to her first girl, named Zhang Yuanhe, which is not fast.
Although it is a girl, after all, it is only the first child, and the future is still long, so the mother-in-law is not too worried.
But what happened after that made them have to worry about it, for no other reason than him, after which Lu Ying gave birth to three daughters in succession.
At this time, Lu Ying had only been married for three years, but he had three children in succession, and it can be said that he did not even rest, and only wanted to pass on the family for his husband.
But when the people of the Zhang family saw these three daughters, they immediately gave Zhang Wuling a concubine, and they couldn't help but make Lu Ying sullen.
In the end, it was the husband who comforted him and proposed to discuss the matter of concubines for another year, that is, in this year, Lu Ying gave birth to a son.
The birth of the son can be said to make the Zhang family cheer, and even Lu Ying has been praised one after another, claiming that she is a good daughter-in-law of the Zhang family.
After that, Lu Ying gave birth to 10 children non-stop, which suddenly made the Zhang family more.
The two had 14 children in 16 years of marriage, and there was no time for recuperation in between, no matter how strong the body could not withstand such consumption, and misfortune finally came.
Lu Ying, who was only 36 years old, finally ran out of oil, collapsed on the delivery bed, and died of sepsis.
Although Lu Ying has given birth to a baby 14 times in succession, only 9 children have really survived, including five sons and four daughters, and the son who the Zhang family has been looking forward to passing on the lineage has not been glorious, but slightly mediocre under the doting of the family.
However, the four daughters who were once disdainful ended up in the end, known as the "Four Sisters of Hefei", and achieved a good job.
The four sisters inherited the beauty and wisdom of their mother, and it is said that whoever marries them will be happy for a lifetime.
And Lu Ying, the mother who suffered from childbirth, died in a hurry before she was 40 years old, and did not see the growth of her children.
In addition to its own causes, it is also related to Lu Ying's long-term loss of body and continuous fertility.
However, the reason why Lu Ying gave birth to such a child, in addition to wanting children, could not escape the confinement of feudal traditional ideas, which was really sad.
This is not Lu Ying's sadness alone, this is the sadness of an era, children should be the crystallization of marital happiness, but marriages without children can also be happy and happy, children should add icing on the cake for a happy marriage, rather than maintaining the bond of a marriage!
Fortunately, times have changed, and women now have the right to choose their own lives, no longer have to rely on men and become fertility machines.