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All this life, people are crossing themselves.
Reality tells you that having money can make ghosts grind, and it is difficult to move without money. The old man without money, life is very bitter, wherever he goes, he will attract people to dislike.
Eating and drinking, getting sick and hospitalized, visiting relatives and friends, everything needs money. Therefore, many people in middle age, will be ready for a deposit, as well as their own house and pension.
In traditional thinking, raising children and daughters can prevent old age. Especially in the countryside, every family wants to have a son. When he gets older, he can move to his son's house.
However, no matter how much money you make, you must be careful that you don't have a chance to spend it; no matter how good your children are, you must also look at people's faces. Spending your later years involves many factors that need to be considered comprehensively.
Find the following kinds of reliable strength, and then live a better life.
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First, rely on a good mindset.
Liang Qichao once said: "Young people are like heroes, and old people are like monks." ”
I thought that when people get old, they should adapt to the life of an ascetic.
One is that life, old age, illness and death are very bitter, the second is that loneliness and loneliness are very bitter, and the third is that life is confused and bitter. If you use your heart to feel, there are still many painful places.
Circumstances are born of the heart, and fate is created by oneself. Whether a person is bitter or not is actually a state of mind, which is related to actual life, but life is not the determining factor.
When I was a child, my family lived in the countryside, and the house was built on the mountain and lived by the water. I walked out the door, and my mother was worried that I would fall into the river; I went to the back hill, and my mother was worried that I would encounter snakes, insects, rats, and ants.
My father said that if you fall into the water, you can learn to swim, you can feel afraid when you encounter snakes, insects, rats and ants, and you will know how to avoid next time.
From then on, my mother stopped worrying and let me go anywhere.
Father's words tell us a truth: worrying is superfluous, and good fortune is good.
Perhaps, because his father had a good attitude, he still ate and drank in his old age, and he did not feel how hard life was. On the night before his death, he also drank a small glass of wine.
Birth, old age, illness and death are all natural laws, just like falling leaves return to the roots. Don't worry, being alive is happiness.
With a good mindset, you can live your full-spirited self.
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Second, by neighbors.
It seems that the people in the city have turned on the mode of "not socializing".
The solitary person is very powerful; give up the useless social interaction, and you are free... You really don't have to be seduced by these chicken soup for the soul.
When people are old, it is necessary to eat and drink socially. Since ancient times, there has been no wine and no table. Who can eat a few bites of food and be able to "deepen the impression"?
By eating together, traveling together, and dancing together, you can meet many friends, be together, and take care of each other.
As the saying goes, "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors." ”
No matter how nice your relatives are to you and how enthusiastic your friends are, they can't take care of you without living close to you. Especially when encountering an emergency, relatives and friends have to come from afar, which takes a while. This is a sign that the whip is beyond reach.
Learn to mingle with the neighbors, on weekdays, everyone does not have any conflict, you can also visit each other, and it will be easy to do things later.
Neighbors take the handle, will make the old people's life more stable; neighbors are pleasant to you, the surrounding living environment is much better.
No matter where you live, you must be at ease with the situation, and don't treat the people around you as enemies. It is fate that everyone lives together.
A community is actually a big family, although there are many times when there is a lot of noise, but it is not impossible to help each other. Remember the favor of others, but do not remember the hatred of others.
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Third, rely on the wife around you.
"Young couples come and go" is a clichéd problem.
No matter how many times couples have quarreled when they are young, as long as they are not divorced, they are the "best partner" when they are older. In this life, two people have created wealth and raised children. Most importantly, after surviving all the lows, the hard days did not force the feelings away.
There is a companion around, you can chat, when you are sick, someone to manage, and you have to rely on each other.
In fact, no matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, they also have to face the pain of "going first and then going". Couples who die on the same day in the same month of the same year are very rare. Those who go behind still have to face a lonely life.
People are old, if the wife takes a step first, then you have to face the twilight love correctly.
Meet the right person, you can fall in love and spend the rest of your life together. Of course, don't blindly look for a new partner. After all, the feelings of the halfway couple are not so strong, and some people are making money everywhere under the guise of love.
Don't turn twilight love into marriage at will. Respect the opinions of children and correctly handle family property. If you fall out with your children because you are in love, it is not a good thing.
Halfway couples can be reliable, provided that the character is good.
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Fourth, rely on the wisdom of old-age care.
In this life, live to learn from old age.
No matter how old you are, don't give up on progress. Only by keeping up with the development of the times can we enjoy the "wealth" of the times.
For example, the elderly, can not use the smart phone, there will be obstacles to travel. Buying things, showing your own trajectory, communicating with relatives and friends, and connecting around the world are inseparable from mobile phones. You are not willing to learn, you can only use the old machine, communicate with the world, there is an obstacle.
One of my cousins, who is seventy-two years old this year, still insists on practicing reading. My granddaughter is in junior high school, and many courses are not understood, and it is my cousin who is "answering questions".
The cousin said that he progressed with the younger generation and returned to his youth.
When people are old, they can live with quality by relying on wisdom.
Reading, writing, cultivating correct values, learning health knowledge, etc., the greater the progress, the more sunny life.
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Conclusion.
Yu Dan said: "Relying solely on the great abundance of material things cannot solve the problem of the mind." ”
Life and death have a destiny, and wealth is in heaven. No one can control the future, and no one can keep the past, but we always have to keep moving forward.
The older you get, the more you have to live a light life. Try to do something, but don't be demanding on the outcome.
"It is better to rely on who is better than on yourself", this is an attitude of life, not a reality. Don't stubbornly "walk alone", find the strength around you that you can rely on.
"Good shade under the tree", relying on others, you will live steadily, relying on others, you will live a valuable life.
In old age, people feel the beauty with their hearts and love others with their hearts, maybe this is the wealth.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.