Xiao Yang feels that the popular film and television culture's interpretation of friendship between women has fallen into a kind of stylized routine.
Women no longer seem to have simple feelings that reflect each other's hearts.
When it comes to female friendship, it is either tearing up for men, or all kinds of comparisons and showing off to show off their superior status.
I've always had a certain belief in friendships between women. It has nothing to do with love and strife, like a lily blooming in the valley, pure white fragrance, swaying and swaying.
When it comes to "Gone with the Wind", everyone is amazed by the heroine Scarlett's love line and the strength and courage she showed in the sudden change of the situation. She was like what her name meant. Red, shining in the crowd, full of vitality, a unique representative of female power.
The phrase "Afterall, tomorrow is another day" (after all, tomorrow is another day) has become a motto for many people who are in desperate situations but hope not to die.
But the lamb was here, wanting to talk about Scarlett's few friendships. and Melanie.
At this point, many people who have seen the original work of "Gone with the Wind" will refute me, are they not love enemies? Even if there is friendship, it is superficial and hypocritical.
People who hold the above views may have stereotypes about the relationship between people. They are considered fixed and rigid, strictly limited by some rules.
The lamb believes that the relationship between people is not only changing and fluid, but also has a variety of possibilities: it may be rusted by people with bad quality, or it may be warmed by a true heart, and it has a variety of rich forms.
You may not like it at first, but after digging deeper, you will find that his personality and the facts of his life are likable; some people are full of surprise as soon as they appear, but after a long time together, they find that it is in vain.
Scarlett and Melanie are ostensibly love rivals, but in essence best friends. Johansson Scarlett only understood this in Melanie's dying hospital bed, perhaps at first Scarlett harbored hostility and resentment towards Melanie, but after experiencing the cruelty of war and the pressure of life together, their friendship has gradually sublimated.
Melanie is such a great woman, no matter how willful Scarlett is, she is always on her side, believing in her and supporting her. It's even a bit blind to the reader.
She is the representative of the typical Southern spirit, a firm force in the chaotic society in which the old order collapsed and the new order had not yet been fully formed.
If Scarlett relies on the "wild brute force" in her character to fight against the suffering of life, then Melanie uses her noble character to guard the spiritual position.
How did Margaret Mitchell deal with these two women with such different personalities and in a state of subtle hostility?
01, the same love goal - Ashley
What kind of man is Ashley, who wins the favor of two women at the same time? He was a typical southern gentleman, with his own unique aesthetic taste for music, painting, and books, and indulged in an idealistic lifestyle.
He also confronts his duty to go directly to war (with a more negative attitude), but his heart always longs for a quiet and comfortable pastoral life, and he chooses an escapist posture to cope with the rapidly changing and turbulent living environment.
He is like an exquisite souvenir of the past, storing memories belonging to that era, but not in line with the function of reality.
He actually admired women who were as attractive as Scarlett, as if they had endless enthusiasm.
But he has a clear understanding of his emotional belonging and purpose in life, and he knows that Melanie is his fellow traveler. For now and later in life, he has firmly chosen Melanie and rejected Scarlett again and again.
He said to Scarlett, "To be a happy couple, it's not going to work for people like us who are different." What you need is all a man has, and if you don't get that, you'll be miserable. But I can't give you all of me, I can't give you the whole of me to anyone, and I won't want you all, and then you'll hate the books I read and the music I love. ”
He knew Scarlett better than Scarlett knew herself.
He knew that Scarlett had an indestructible character, able to protect herself and the people around her in critical moments, and of course, he was also aware of Scarlett's feelings for him ("infatuated" to him, to be precise), so, in between the wars, he entrusted Melanie to Scarlett.
He became a circle center, connecting the fates of the two women.
What does Ashley mean to Scarlett?
It is equivalent to a lollipop dreamed of by a child; equivalent to the pearl necklace that a young girl longs for; equivalent to a distant unrealistic dream.
Precisely because it is unattainable, it has eternal allure.
Scarlett is not good at deep thinking, she does not understand the people around her, she does not understand herself, she cannot penetrate her inner emotions, and she does not know the nature of this infatuation.
But because of this infatuation, she was "forced" to bravely take on the responsibility of taking care of Melanie.
02. Honor and disgrace in the fires of war
Overnight, the war devastated what was once a beautiful home.
Along with the collapse of the outer world, there is also Scarlett's inner order.
The home that protected her from growing up and provided her with abundant material and spiritual shelter was shattered.
Her mother is dead, her father is insane, Tara Manor is in ruins, and all the challenges she faces in the future are up to Scarlett herself.
She swore to the wasteland: "... In the future, even if I steal, rob, and kill people, I will let my family live a stable life...", Scarlett is indeed a woman who can do whatever it takes to some extent in order to survive, in order to raise money she can go to please Brad, she can blatantly rob her cousin's husband, and open a lumber factory as a businessman with interests, but we always hate her.
On the one hand, it is because it is not easy to survive in the cruel war, not to mention that Scarlett still has to guard so many family members and guard her beloved Tara Manor.
Scarlett, on the other hand, fulfilled her promise to Ashley throughout the process of taking care of Melanie, and although she was always selfish, her dedication to Melanie was also real. Melanie was a smart woman, and she could feel that.
When she first read the book, Scarlett helped the pregnant Melanie transfer and deliver the baby on the road to war, and brought the mother and son safely to Tara Manor. The mutual support between the two is far more touching than Scarlett's "love" for Ashley, and the friendship generated in practice is far more grounded and deeper than the illusory infatuation.
They even "teamed up" to kill a Yankee who had broken into Tara Manor. When Scarlett raised her gun in horror and killed the man, in a panic she looked back to see Melanie, who was also dragging her sword and undeveloped body out of the room. At that moment, Scarlett suddenly realized that although Melanie was weak, her mind was by no means weak, and she had the noble gentleman spirit brought to her by her family, and she could fight for glory and die.
03, the strong support in the rumors
From the beginning of Scarlett's feelings for Ashley to Melanie's awakening on her deathbed, the author has never described Melanie's attitude towards Scarlett positively, but every time she chooses to believe Scarlett in action, without a word of accusation and contempt.
The sixth sense of the average woman is more acute, not to mention Scarlett, a woman who has "coveted" her husband for half a lifetime, and her life and love are vigorous.
How could Melanie not have the slightest doubt?
Even the fierce-eyed Brad praised Melanie as "a truly great woman, a representative of the Southern spirit." ”
We don't know what Melanie really thinks, but Lamb speculates here, from how much she knows Ashley (her husband), that he is a person who lives in the past, a person who numbs himself by recalling the good times of the past, who dares not face the harsh reality, and knows that he is the spiritual pillar of her husband.
Then, Melanie is fully capable of penetrating Scarlett's inner world, knowing her stubbornness and bravery, knowing her indomitable perseverance, knowing their honor and commonality in the difficult years, knowing her loyal protection of her family, then, her thoughts about her husband are insignificant.
Although Brad stood in the position of love and felt that Scarlett was unforgivable. But Melanie is completely different, she trusts her husband, she is not bound by small love, she is a person with a big picture.
04, after Melanie's death, Scarlett suddenly woke up
The lamb feels that no matter how stupid people are, when faced with the great loss of life, they will have a new understanding and understanding of themselves and their own situation.
When Melanie was on the verge of death due to difficult childbirth, Scarlett prayed in her heart: "God, please, let her live, I will repay her well, I will be very good to her, very good." 」 I will never say a word to Ashley again in my life, as long as you can let her live well. ”
When she was about to lose Melanie, Scarlett realized how important Melanie was to her, that she was the only and most sincere friend in her life, and that no matter how much the outside world denigrated her, she always believed in and supported her. Without Melanie's support, she couldn't survive those difficult years.
Scarlett agreed to all of Melanie's deathbed requests, promising to help take care of her little one and Ashley. She said she wanted to raise Melanie's children well and send them to elite schools.
As for Ashley, after losing Melanie, his last spiritual pillar collapsed and became a lonely and vulnerable man, "Melanie is the only dream I have ever had, the only dream that has lived, breathed, and never disappeared in front of reality." Now all my strength disappeared with her. “
After Melanie left, looking at the man with only a shell left, Scarlett said, "You've always been such a fool, Ashley, how come you can't see that she's a million times better than me?" “
Scarlett gradually understood the essence of her feelings for Ashley, and when everything came to an end, all the fantasy addictions were shattered by reality, and the light of awareness began to illuminate the heart, Scarlett suddenly remembered Red's sly smile that showed her teeth.
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