When everyone first enters marriage, they are full of beautiful hopes for the future. They look forward to their happy life in the future, a flat life of two people in one room and three meals and four seasons, but life is not always smooth.
There are many people who feel that their task has been completed after marriage, so they have a lot less respect for marriage, they feel that marriage is just to complete a task, as long as they are married, then there is no constraint on what they want to do. So there are not a few people who make mistakes after marriage.
Some people will find out after marriage that the person is completely different from what they imagined, so at this time there will be the idea of divorce.
However, divorce is not so easy. Especially after having children, it is inevitable to consider the feelings of children and even the maintenance of children when making divorce decisions. But in some marriages, children can't stop the marriage from dying.
Zhao Xinxin recently took her son and husband to divorce, and after the divorce, she realized the 5 lessons brought by divorce!
1. First lesson
Zhao Xinxin and her husband recently divorced, and the children belong to her.
When she proposed for divorce, the elderly on both sides advised her to endure for the sake of her children, but Zhao Xinxin felt that she could not bear it for a moment.
She and her husband met through blind dates, and the two people got married after not knowing each other for a long time, and experienced what it was like to have a popular "flash marriage" among young people.
After getting married, Zhao Xinxin quit her job and became a full-time wife at home.
At first, Zhao Xinxin's husband Han Zheng also felt that it was good to eat hot meals every day when he returned home, but as time went on, Zhao Xinxin did not contact society at home for a long time, so the common topics between the two people became less and less, and in the end, the two people just cared for each other and could not even say polite words.
This is not to count, because Zhao Xinxin has no income at home, all relying on her husband's salary to live. At the beginning, the Korean government would hand it over to Zhao Xinxin on time after paying his salary every month, and then ask Zhao Xinxin to withdraw it if he needed it.
But later, Han Xinxin felt that he had to ask Zhao Xinxin every time he was out to socialize, and his friends began to laugh at him, so he never gave his salary to Zhao Xinxin again, but only in the month, he gave Zhao Xinxin some expenses for buying vegetables at home, and even when Zhao Xinxin needed to use the money, he had to write out specific purposes to get money from the hands of The Korean government.
Later, after divorcing Zhao Xinxin, she understood that women must have their own jobs!
2. Second lesson
It is not empty that a man becomes bad when he has money, and since the political and financial freedom in South Korea, he has begun to steal outside.
Soon after, Cho Shin-shin discovers about Han Zheng's derailment, but Han Zheng cries and promises him that he will never do it again.
Looking at her husband who was crying and weeping, Zhao Xinxin's heart softened, and she forgave Korean politics. But what she didn't expect was that once a man had tasted the taste of stealing forbidden fruit, it would be difficult to stop. South Korean politics only honestly for a while before they could not withstand the temptation and derailed.
Later, Zhao Xinxin understood that he could never forgive a man who cheated.
3. The third lesson
After Zhao Xinxin and Han Zheng got married, the two of them moved out of the family, but in this way, they did not stop Han Zheng's father, who came to ask for money every day.
Han Jeong's father was a gambler. The longest place where he mixed up was the casino, although Han Zheng's parents had long been divorced, but Han Zheng still could not get rid of his father's shadow.
At first, Han Zheng's father only wanted one hundred and two hundred, and slowly the money he wanted became more and more, from twelve thousand to twelve thousand, and finally became more than one hundred thousand.
Although the Korean government sometimes refuses, whenever he refuses, the glass of his home will always be smashed into a few pieces. So later the South Korean politician became his father's cash machine.
After the divorce, Zhao Xinxin understood that before deciding to get married, she must understand each other's family.
4. The fourth lesson
After Zhao Xinxin and Han Zheng married, Han Zheng's company had an opportunity to go outside to train and study, and the company originally decided to let Han Zheng, who has more seniority, go out to study, but Han Zheng refused.
This opportunity to go out to study is very rare, it can be said that the people in the Korean political company have squeezed their heads and wanted this opportunity to fall on their heads. Because everyone in the company has spread the word, this business trip is the meaning of promotion.
As long as this business trip returns, then it will be promoted to the position of director. Simply put, this business trip was just a trip to gild the future director.
As soon as the news came out, everyone was very desperate to hope that it might fall on their heads, but the South Korean government felt that it did not matter. I don't know if it is the impact of mentality, this opportunity fell on him, but the Korean government felt that he had just married, did not want to go so far away on business, and the time for business trips was not short, so he refused this request, and naturally missed the opportunity for promotion. After the promotion of the director, he even expressed his gratitude to Han Zheng, thanking him for giving up the opportunity to himself.
Zhao Xinxin felt very sorry after knowing it, and couldn't help but complain to Han Zheng, but Han Zheng felt that it didn't matter, and it was enough to live step by step.
Later, after the divorce, Zhao Xinxin learned that this kind of unmotivated man could not marry.
5. The fifth lesson
Later, Zhao Xinxin became pregnant. Zhao Xinxin is very happy, because she likes children very much, and she has long fantasized about having a child of her own. So the arrival of this child made her very happy.
When she told the Korean government about this news, the Korean government was also very happy at first. However, because Zhao Xinxin's fetus is not stable, the doctor recommends that it is best for two people not to have sex.
After a long time, The Korean government could not help but have other thoughts. He cheated again.
The Korean politician who went abroad during his wife's pregnancy was still a little guilty about his wife. But Zhao Xinxin's temper has become very grumpy since she became pregnant. Sometimes I get angry about something very small. They may even lose their temper with South Korean politics because they want to eat something without eating it. This made the South Korean government very intolerable.
Later he found a lover outside. It was a very gentle girl, and every time Han Zheng got angry with his pregnant wife, he would go to his lover to complain. He also said that if his wife had not conceived his own child, he would have divorced her a long time ago.
There are no impermeable walls in the world, and the derailment of South Korean politics was soon discovered. When Zhao Xinxin saw the lipstick mark on her husband's shirt, she found it, but because she was still pregnant with a child, she put up with it for the sake of the child. Later, the child was born, and Zhao Xinxin finally couldn't stand the Korean government and proposed a divorce with him.
When Han Zheng wanted custody of her children, she was also rejected by Cho Shin Shin-shin because she was afraid that her son would be like Han Zheng in the future.
As the saying goes, "Happy marriages are always the same, but unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes." "Some people say that marriage is very simple, in fact, it is two people living together. But I would like to say that we must not enter into marriage because of the right fit, but because of love.
A person's life is too short, what does it mean to just live step by step? Be sure to experience a vigorous love in your short life, a marriage that loves each other. Even if the last two people are separated, then at least they will not leave regrets.
In marriage, whether it is a good marriage or a bad marriage, it can actually bring us some insights. In life, we can't all encounter good things, if everyone is lucky, then who will experience the unfortunate things in the world? Everything that happens must have its own truth, and it will certainly make you understand something.
If you don't understand it right now, then it doesn't matter, time will always bring the answer to you, so you just have to wait quietly.
If you bloom, the breeze will come.
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