The stories involved are purely fictional, and if there are similarities, it is really unfortunate.
Irrespective of It's that we look at the words written by others, Or someone else will look at the words we have written, In fact, it is the process of sharing life fragments with each other.
[1] Cupid and Psyche
I've always felt that stories like Cupid and Psyche should be one of the few loves with a happy ending in the Hiero myth that has been passed down through the generations.
Separation, separation, trust, misunderstanding, struggle, reunion... The elements of these love stories are complete, so that contemporary us are full of a complex emotional yearning for these legends.
Later generations of artists have created many artistic treasures, such as sculptures, murals, and oil paintings.
That year, there was an art exhibition in a distant city.
At the age when youth was fluttering, the teenager who still had all kinds of beautiful and unrealistic expectations for life always carried a filter on the distant and unknown, so he chose a day to set off.
That's where she and I met.
Just in front of the sculpture of Psyche & Cupid.
Just like the bridge section in all literary and artistic films, paying attention to each other because of the simultaneous admiration of the same work of art, finding similar age and similar interests because of the exchange of time, and having a kind of uneasiness without distractions because of the emotional gap between each other.
We will envy the final family of Psyche & Cupid, laugh about zeus and Hera's love and murder, and mourn the story of Apollo and Daphne.
However, this was her city, and it was my faraway.
She would say bitterly, wouldn't it be better if you were in the city too?
It's just a fairy tale, meet, meet, chat, go shopping, eat, and then, say goodbye.
There is no more reverie romance, and the final scene stops at kissing – ceremonial.
It's not so much love as it is about the lives of two lonely people with some overlap, like two straight lines in different directions, intersecting at some point and then moving farther and farther away from each other.
When parting, she said goodbye and I said goodbye.
We didn't leave any contact information, not because we didn't want to, but because we didn't want to have a thought.
Goodbye, just never again.
[2] It is all routine love and eternity
There is a song by Xiao Yaxuan, "His and Her Story", and the lyrics in it say this-
He said he loved her and he said he would guard her He gave her roses, and everything was so beautiful
His and her story could have been changed to a love TV series, but unfortunately because it is too unrestrained and bizarre, people always feel that this is performance art.
I even felt that [Marina Abramovich] was inspired to recreate it – of course, it turned out that I was wrong, but it was the other way around.
For this pair of "living treasures" in my real world, I really don't know how to sort out the love and hate between them, if I insist on making a simplified version, it is nothing more than the classic "two men and two women" structure in Korean dramas.
Male one loves female one, female one does not love male one, female two paste male one, female one found that female two love male one out of jealousy also began to have a good feeling for male one, but female two and male one love too deeply, female one in the lonely and empty time by the male two multiplied into the void, this male two is actually not a "player" but true love, in order to love male two is not only willing to give up the female one, but also help the female one to tear down the male one and the female two, finally, naturally it is the male one and the female one finally hand in hand.
Then, after graduation, we break up.
There is no reason for him - the door is not right.
She was my classmate, and he was just a friend of my classmate's friend.
She is the only daughter of a businessman, the family does fire equipment, the industry is not large, but the relationship network involved is extremely "unclear", in fact, with her family origin, basically taking the "door valve marriage", which is completely different from ordinary love. In her own words, it is "resource complementarity" - her later husband is the second son of a certain bureau.
In fact, with curiosity, I also asked her why her feelings are so "chaotic" - at least in the eyes of outsiders, she is also frank, "with her own nature", "at first I didn't like it and then I felt good", "I was limited to love with him, marriage is impossible, and it is not involved in the [SHANG] bed, how can I say chaos? ”
The point is that the depth is far beyond my comprehension of the innocence at the time.
[3] "How to stay single on the basis of mutual affection?" ”
I remember on the day of graduation, many excited boys around tore the draft book to pieces, and then threw it at the electric fan (there was still a ceiling fan at that time, and now the standard should be air conditioning), so that the "snowflakes" fell, and this passion could actually infect some of the girls who were usually quiet, and everyone tore, and for a time the "tearing" sound rose and fell, and the snow continued.
I heard that the boys who grew up shifted their enthusiasm for tearing books to stockings — but that's another story that can't be told.
Because I was on duty that day, I naturally would not be stupid to increase my workload, but just sighed and said, "More than ten years of hard reading in the cold window, just like this, I was sent into the folds of life by an exam." ”
I don't think she's going to feel that way—because it's the second time she's experienced it.
Maybe the young boy will have a stage to be more favorable to the older girl, the so-called "female freshman, holding the golden rooster", she is the most special one in the class.
There is always a confessional section in youth literature, but this kind of bridge section is sometimes very unrealistic in reality. The answer to the confession is naturally "study hard every day."
Of course, on the surface of each other, you are still good to me, and the relationship is not going forward or retreating.
A moment has been mixed with the society for some years, the classmates will naturally meet her at the dinner, the so-called "wine strong and courageous", with a slight alcohol strength, I asked her a little rashly such a question, "Did you like me back then?" ”
She smiled, "Hmm... You guess? ”
"Loved it."
She smiled, "Guess what? ”
Well, I already have the answer – if the two are happy, how can each other force themselves to stay single? Unless it's a comic.
To be precise, I already had the answer. It's only a few years after graduating from high school. Sometimes I think about it, she avoided a heart hurt, and let him have an answer for himself, which is also her gentle kindness.
In fact, the type of opposite sex that everyone likes will change with time, and speaking of which, in the face of her at that time, I have long lost the same vision that I once had - I have changed, she has changed.
That's all, not good, not bad.
[4] The Apocalypse of Love
After everyone experiences different ups and downs, reading the same text will have different inspirations, very deep, very shallow.
The more you listen to the stories around you, the more you see, the more you think, the more you think about love, the more you think it's just that.
We yearn for beauty, yearn for everything like a fairy tale perfect, but there are too many uncontrollable things in life and life, and there are too many unexpected encounters and confusions in the world.
Sometimes, I feel that the best state for two people to get along with, or to get along with everyone, is to be natural, and occasionally it can be so deliberate or two - the so-called "politeness".
If you talk deeply about emotions, then the best state of love is that two people have the happiness of two people, and one person has the wonderfulness of one person.
When the other party is there, enjoy the happiness that only companionship can bring; when the other party is not there, you can also enjoy the tranquility and beauty that can only be obtained by being alone, play your own unique light, and will not feel lonely and nervous because you are not together.
But is the need for companionship not independent, or is there a sense of insecurity behind clinging? Maybe it's just a wake-up call to some past mistakes or a desire to deepen the sense of connection. Is it essentially not independent to always want another person to accompany you to accomplish a lot of things?
Two people get along for a long time, what must not be needed is the union, it can only be intersection, and it is the deep intersection of the core area, such as world view, values, outlook on life, sexual outlook, etc., in addition to extremely important things, in principle, two people need to experience and bear it together, and most of the rest of the time, it should be self-restraint and self-improvement self-entertainment.
At this time, the other party will look forward to coexistence. It's like a dish, you love to eat it, let you eat it every day, you will also throw up, and occasionally let you eat a few bites, you will not be able to think. Don't be better than a new one!
The rhythm of life is comparable to love, and relaxation can be measured.
We have to face up to the reality that there is no perfect love in this world, and there is no other half that is exactly what you want. Sometimes, what we give is not necessarily what the other person wants; what we want is not what the other party is giving.
Quarrels or something, may have the ability to problem, may be a way problem, may also be a communication problem, in fact, do not have to be so entangled. These are only the most superficial parts of love, because when two people understand what kind of life they and each other want, the expectations of life, the judgment of the world, many concepts, and many views will gradually become consistent.
Dig deeper into the question behind it, or the core of the higher level, not just a simple "two loves", but whether the family behind the two people, the family (if any) can fit each other. This is also like the "door to door" mentioned by [her], the less ordinary the family, the more love and marriage are considered.
Do you say this is realistic or unrealistic?
I'll leave you with some room to think, and wrap up with the following paragraph!
Worrying without entanglement, affection without bondage. Companionship is the longest confession of affection, and keeping together is the warmest commitment.