Man is a very strange creature, always knowing to cherish it after losing it.
Just like the recent outbreak of the epidemic in various places has begun to emerge, people who originally did not like to go out began to think about going out, but because of the epidemic prevention and control, they could only watch travel bloggers online to "relieve their hunger".
A few days ago, I saw a travel blogger named "Miss Layla" on the Internet, because the name was somewhat familiar, so I went to check it out.
It turned out that she was one of the parties to the "Chen He's derailment" incident that caused a sensation on the whole network 6 years ago and caused heated discussion, Chen He's ex-wife Xu Jing.
I still remember that after the incident, Xu Jing cut off the entanglement with Chen He and began to travel around, but she did not expect that she not only became a travel blogger, but also became the co-founder of the homestay and the artistic director of the design company.
The years don't seem to have left many traces on her, and people can't help but wonder, what has she experienced over the years?
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The entanglement between Xu Jing and Chen He began as a teenager.
The two were junior high school classmates who entered marriage in 2013 after a 13-year love run.
Chen He became popular because he played the role of Zeng Xiaoxian in "Love Apartment" at that time, and he took the opportunity to create a "good man" for himself.
In 2014, Chen He and Xu Jing participated in the variety show "True Love in the Road", which further strengthened his personality of "loving his wife and taking care of his family as a good man".
But in the entertainment industry, the easiest thing to turn over is the human design.
At the beginning of 2015, Chen He was filmed kissing actor Zhang Zixuan, and that night he posted a divorce agreement with Xu Jing, and the good man's personality collapsed instantly.
Even Zhang Zixuan was branded with "Little Three", and he couldn't wash it off!
At that time, public opinion was all about Chen He and Zhang Zixuan, and sympathy for Xu Jing.
Perhaps because the entertainment industry is much more tolerant of male stars.
After the incident, Chen He not only did not quit the circle, but also quickly washed his white by relying on "Running Man", and later hitched a ride on Jia Ling's free ride, becoming the second male in the 5 billion box office movie "Hello Li Huanying".
He also jointly established Fujian Xianhezhuang Catering Investment Management Co., Ltd. with the host Zhu Zhen and singer Ye Yiqian, and in just 2 years, more than 700 "Xianhezhuang" hot pot franchise stores were opened, becoming a "catering predator".
Nowadays, it has caught up with the wave of live broadcasting with goods and become a hot star anchor on the Internet.
Zhang Zixuan, on the other hand, basically quit the actor industry because of the insult of "Xiao San", and became a full-time wife after marrying Chen He, and by the way, updated the daily life of "Mrs. Kuo" on the Little Red Book, and sucked a lot of powder.
Today, the unblessed couple has 2 daughters and looks happy.
Xu Jing, another party in the incident, disappeared from people's vision for a long time.
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In the divorce agreement published by Chen He, it is written that the divorce date of the two is 2014.
Love runs for 13 years, but a year after marriage, it decided to divorce, and many people are upset for Xu Jingming.
But Xu Jing only sent a Weibo after the matter was exposed:
"Fourteen years can make you know more about one more person?" Knowing that I have been wronged, I must also insist, I know that I must let go even if I endure heartache, I understand that I still can't see him helpless after separation, he is just a fragile child, but he is my relative, please don't attack him. ”
Then I grabbed my camera, packed my bags, and set off on a journey as a travel blogger.
In the 6 years after the divorce, she traveled to more than forty countries, saw different scenery, and met different people.
Later, a like-minded boyfriend appeared next to her, and netizens called him Mr. T.
Together, the two built a homestay in the Canadian countryside, removing the planks of the old house and installing it on the new house.
Before Zhang Zixuan posted Chen He's brand-name shoes on the Internet, someone commented below that if there was no her, these were Xu Jing's.
But let Xu Jing live Zhang Zixuan's current life, but not necessarily happy.
A life of luxury is tempting, but some people are born to soar in the sky, not to be entrenched.
In fact, 6 years after the controversy caused by the hot search, Chen He, Zhang Zixuan, and Xu Jing all got what they wanted.
And the events of that year are more like a gift from Heaven, giving everyone the opportunity to pursue the life they want.
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In fact, the separation of Xu Jing and Chen He already had signs.
Xu Jing is a very modern girl, who has the dream of traveling around the world, and once said that she wanted to go to all parts of the world to see.
Chen He is a somewhat traditional man, usually does not like to go out, after work away from home, need a partner to take care of the family in the rear.
The different attitudes towards marriage and family life, coupled with the nature of Chen He's work, the feelings gradually faded in the gathering of less and more, and the two gradually drifted apart.
It is said that marriage is like a shoe, and only you know whether it fits or not.
A person who likes to wade through mountains and rivers is doomed not to wear high heels to complete this life.
When he met and fell in love with Chen He, Xu Jing was still young and did not understand what he really liked.
When she really enters the marriage, this intimate relationship becomes a mirror that reflects what she really wants in her heart.
She could not stay at home and teach her husband and children as her husband hoped, and became the wife of the big star Chen He.
So after understanding the irreconcilability of contradictions in marriage, choose to separate, so that both can find true happiness.
Society has developed to this day, everyone has the opportunity to choose the life they want, marriage is no longer a necessity, divorced women are no longer losers in life.
Marriage is just a way of life.
If the parties in the marriage, the circles are different, the lifestyle is not compatible, and the emotional exchange is not equal.
That letting go is a relief for both parties.
Writing this doesn't mean trying to persuade someone to divorce, though.
Just hope that everyone can get better in the marriage and reap happiness, instead of torturing each other and consuming life.
Just like Xu Jing's attitude towards life:
I should like myself more than anyone else in the world.
So, learn to let go of past requests and be kind to yourself!