A wonderful childhood heals a lifetime.
Text/Jiang Xuefen
Editor/Fan Tingting
When Luo Yingfeng first became a "child companion mother", he went to some families without a mother and asked the children: "What about your mother?" ”
"My mother ran away", "my mother doesn't want me anymore", "my mother is divorced", the child will always answer very calmly.
Knowing many such children, Luo Yingfeng often sighed: "Children's perception of misfortune is dull, but this kind of pain will accompany them for a lifetime." ”
When he was a child, his parents had to go out to work, and Luo Yingfeng became a left-behind child. Because her home was too far from where she studied, it took 2 to 3 hours to walk, and she was fostered to attend elementary school at her aunt's house.
Last year, when she returned to her hometown, she coincidentally joined the "Child Companion Mother" project of the China Foundation for Poverty Alleviation, and became the "child companion mother" of more than 200 left-behind children, whose main job is to pay attention to their growth, accompany them, find problems and pass on information, and coordinate resources to solve problems.
She said: "I will be happy to take on a little bit of a role around them. ”
The following is Luo Yingfeng's self-statement:
In May 2020, I first heard the word "child mother", and my first reaction was, let me be a little girl to be a mother, I can't accept it!
After graduating from university, I worked as a translator in a foreign trade company, where I communicated with foreign clients and talked about cross-border trade. If it weren't for the epidemic, the company's business would have gone downhill, and I wouldn't have been unemployed and stayed home. Because I had nothing to do after returning to my hometown, I helped my brother and sister-in-law who worked in other places to take care of the two children.
My family is a relocation household for poverty alleviation in different places, and the person in charge of the street office often comes to visit us to inquire about our work and living conditions, and knowing that I am unemployed, I mentioned the child companion mother project. At first I was very resistant, but for the next two days, after reading the information about the project, the smiles of the left-behind dolls were impressive. I thought that it should not be difficult to see a child, and there was also a subsidy to maintain life, so I applied.
After the training, I went straight to work. In fact, this job is not simply to see the baby, the first day of work, I go to the community to visit. Before leaving, I also prepared questions, such as asking children how many grades to read, whether they have good friends, what songs and foods they like, etc. When I arrived, I found that many problems were not used. The first family visited had four children, probably all of whom were in elementary school age, whose mother had died and whose father had been bedridden for many years.
At that time, I was very distressed about these children, and asked them how to cook rice, who would take care of their father, and the little girl who was eight or nine years old replied, "Everyone cooks their own rice and eats, and takes care of the sick father together."
Looking at the little girl, I remembered my own childhood. When I was very young, my parents farmed at home, and when they were 7 years old, they went out to work and only came back for the New Year. Later, I was fostered to a relative's house, and the biggest wish of those years was that my parents could be with me.
It is said that a good childhood heals a lifetime, and an unfortunate childhood heals with a lifetime. These children in front of them, living on low security, shoulder the burden of the family early, and hope that they can grow up in warm love and no loneliness.
In the next few days, I visited many left-behind families, and the left-behind dolls were 6 to 10 years old. Dealing with children, there is no mental burden, not like there are many rules and regulations when working in the company, more like making friends. Adults and children are equal, can't put on the look that I want to educate you, I will invite them to play together. For example, on Children's Day, when the Children's Companion Home holds an event, invites them to participate in the performance, etc., and will receive a warm response.
My community has about 1500 children aged 0 to 18. Particularly small babies are cared for by guardians, and older children are studying abroad, so there are about 200 left-behind children who need to be cared for on a daily basis. After a theme activity, you can contact 100 children. Before the event performance, I put on makeup for the children, took pictures after the performance, and became acquainted with them as soon as I came and went.
Some dolls are more introverted, and at first they didn't talk to me when they asked him questions, but now when they see me, they will greet me and call me "Sister Luo".
Being liked is a very happy thing.
The children did not know how I, the "child mother", was sent, nor did they know alibaba's public welfare baby and the China Foundation for Poverty Alleviation. Lively children will worry about my personal life, always ask me if I am married, but also to introduce me to the boyfriend, said that I like everyone in the children's home together.
Of course, the days of being a "child mother" are not all quiet years, and from time to time I have to face collapse.
Once two little friends got into a fight, and the fight was fierce, one hammering and the other wanting to take the guys. The other dolls came to me, and it took me and a few children a hard time to pull the two of them apart, one of them crying uncontrollably next to me, and the other saying that the other was the first to do it.
When they came up, they criticized them for definitely not working, and they all cried like this and couldn't listen to them. After calming their emotions, I figured out that the two of them were competing for bicycles to play, and they said that they would play for ten minutes each, and one said that they had ridden for a full time, and one said that they did not. Patiently reason with them, communicate when things happen, can not fight, they finally shake hands and make peace, agreed not to solve the problem violently in the future.
More intimate time with them. The world of children is very beautiful, you really treat them, they will feel. When it was almost the New Year, the children's companion home was delayed for a while, and after dark, several children insisted on sending me home. They feel that I usually protect them, and they want to protect me.
It's not hard to be accepted, be careful. There was a child who was always alone, and later found that he had poor hearing, did not speak many words, and rarely spoke. His mother has remarried, his father has been working outside for many years and has no time to take the children, usually his grandmother takes him. Due to congenital hearing impairment, the language system has not been exercised, and children are quite lonely.
I communicated with the Huishui County Disabled Persons' Federation and applied for a pair of hearing aids for this child. Now he would happily wave at me on the road and start chatting with people.
Every time I hear him speak, I feel warm in my heart.
I never thought that the child companion mother could also broadcast live with Li Jiaqi.
On the evening of November 4th, it was the prime time of live broadcasting, I actually did a 5-minute live broadcast with Li Jiaqi, this live broadcast was watched by more than 20 million people, tens of millions of people liked, everyone said that they liked the paintings of the children I held, and also praised "good" and "good", I was a little embarrassed.
There are actually a lot of people working on the project. The "Child Companion Mother" project was launched by the China Foundation for Poverty Alleviation at the end of 2015, and in 2018, this project became an Alibaba public welfare strategic cooperation project, and many caring online merchants participated in the public welfare baby, and the money they donated gave a lot of help to left-behind children.
In 2019, the "Child Companion Mother" project came to Huishui County, Qiannan Buyi and Miao Autonomous Prefecture, Guizhou Province, and now there are 5 child companion mothers in the county, serving 5 villages (communities).
I also pay attention to other child mothers, seeing that they often visit the house, love the children very well, take them to play African drums, play basketball, and hold badminton matches. Last year, I bought some holiday supplies and taught the children to make lanterns and window flowers, hoping to let them know more about Chinese culture.
The children were very enthusiastic, and after the event, they chased after me to ask where to buy the lanterns, and also revealed their little secrets: after saving money, they also bought a lantern and gave it to them when their parents came home for the New Year.
This year's double 11, public welfare baby has also been upgraded, I search for "public welfare baby" on the e-commerce platform, I will enter the public welfare activity page, and I can see my "love footprint", "cumulative contribution", "participation in projects" and other information. A few days ago, I also went to the press conference and saw the donation list of caring merchants.
Now the Child Companion Mother Project has found "mothers" for 525,000 rural children covering 7 provinces, 79 counties, 919 villages, and my "peers" are more.
Now when I buy things online, I often look at whether there is a "public welfare baby". Because for every time I buy a public welfare baby, (the merchant) will donate 0.02 yuan (a "public welfare baby" is set to 2 cents and above), and at the same time as the double 11 buys and buys, I can also pass on the love.
Children will always grow up, and I don't know what the future holds. But I want to continue to accompany and protect the left-behind children in the next few days.