Source: Eight Weekly, Author: Sister Orange
Once a woman doesn't want to "lie" to herself, the man is not far from "dying".
In this world, even the happiest marriages will have 200 thoughts of divorce and 50 thoughts of strangling each other in a lifetime.
What about unhappy marriages? (I know that one of you who is reading the text has even just suppressed this thought.) ）
When someone tells you that there is a wife who killed her husband, what is the first thing that comes to mind?
Is it the most poisonous woman's heart, snake and scorpion beauty?
Or is it why did this woman want to kill her husband, was she forced to be cornered and intolerable?
In real life, will most men be the first to react, while the vast majority of women and a small number of men are the second responder?
Recently, Liu Yuling participated in the American drama "Why Women Kill", with a Douban score of 9.3, 6k+ people participating in the rating, and a five-star ratio of 70.2%.
It tells the story of three women who eventually commit murder.
So why do they kill people?
01
A full-time housewife in the 60s, Beth. Ann, her dream since childhood is to take care of others, high school with her husband in love began to make sandwiches and sew buttons for her husband, after marriage is to take care of her husband wholeheartedly, just because her husband said that he hates to see unopened boxes everywhere (just moved into a new home), she quietly put all of them in the attic (only for her husband to see the boxes), take one down every day to empty, the result is a few more weeks.
But if you are too good to be unreserved, he can be bad without fear.
Beth's husband wants to drink coffee and never touches his mouth to only point his finger at the cup twice, he looks at his wife as if the automatic machine immediately got up to pour coffee with a proud face, and the neighbor accuses him of treating the maid instead of the wife;
When Beth picked up the confidence that had been blown by him, sat down at the piano again, and played the song that made her blood boil, he seemed to see that his wife did not revolve around him, and repeatedly yelled at his wife, the martini in my glass did not put olives, I could not find where, the bottle of olives could be seen as soon as the refrigerator was opened.
And when these things happened, he had been cheating on the waitress of the restaurant for a long time.
Beth to regain his attention, buy clothes to change hairstyles, nails and even read small yellow books for his KJ, he replied with a word I did not expect you to become fashionable and moving, you just make dinner every day.
One might argue that the origin of all this is more or less because Beth is a full-time housewife, has no family income, naturally cannot be treated equally, and must rely on pleasing her husband.
Comedy king Dave Chappell supports equal rights for men and women, but is confused about equality between men and women: women's rights ignore the differences between men and women, blindly emphasize equality, why not team up to participate in the NBA?
Lu Xun also said that when there are as many women and men as there are in prison, men and women will be equal. In other words, women and men bear the same pressure to survive and compete, and it is possible to be completely equal.
So, if the income in a family is basically or even entirely from women, what happens to them?
02
The second woman, Simone (played by Chinese star Liu Yuling), a socialite in the 80s, is golden, beautiful, bright and confident, with a super powerful aura, and lives in a big house.
With two unfortunate marriages, she thought that the third time she could finally marry for love, thinking that her husband who had been married for ten years was the husband who loved her the most, and then behind the gorgeous back, a chicken feather.
She didn't have a husband who she could only suffer in a broken apartment, hid that she was gay and cheated on marriage, and didn't know how many years she had been cheating. When Simone discovers a photo of his intimate affair with a man and decisively orders him to pack up and leave, he pretends to commit suicide by swallowing a whole bottle of sleeping pills.
When Simone and her daughter's family first met to discuss the wedding, they went to the men's bathroom to fight with Simone's male hairstylist.
After learning that Simone cheated on the small fresh meat, the villain immediately got the luck and forcibly moved back from the guest room back to the main room to sleep in the big bed, as for the wife, where do you love to sleep.
Simone seems to be the strongest one, but in fact she is the most intense. Only because she has expectations for her husband and lacks love in her heart.
Only because she is afraid of becoming the laughing stock of the circle of friends.
Yes, you read that right, in The United States at that time, if a woman was found to be a half-wife, it was the wife who was ridiculed and ridiculed and condemned, not the so-called husband.
03
In today's seemingly equal era of men and women, Taylor, an elite female lawyer in 2019, is still facing a dilemma that women still cannot escape.
She is bisexual, open marriage (physically husband and wife have their own play, spiritual still need to be loyal), on the outside is a standard strong woman, at home has full power, seems to have full control over life, but only when it collapses can she tell the truth: a person has a lot of pressure to pay off the mortgage, and has to carefully maintain her husband's self-esteem - "otherwise I will become a bad person." ”
Such a self-respecting husband is an addict, taking drugs to consume half of her savings, abusing drugs to the point of almost losing her life, it is difficult to quit drugs, but stay at home for two years without a job, saying that writing is actually just holding a computer to watch dramas every day.
Three stories, unchanged, universal and the most direct pain point in the hearts of women in the world is: it is too difficult to be a woman who can truly control her own destiny and sit on an equal footing with men.
Men who earn money to support their families are abounding on their wives (even domestic violence);
A woman who can earn money to support her family has to take care of her husband's inferiority complex (in the Heavenly Dynasty, her husband and mother-in-law also asked her to go home to take care of the children and take care of the housework).
When a woman is not so rich, these men take the shawl and only use themselves as knights to save the fallen princess, marry home and fool them like servants, and expect her to be grateful to Dade;
When a woman is rich enough, they trick and deceive, both squeezing benefits from her and looking down at her in their bones to mock her.
In short, these men did not regard women as equal exchanges of intelligence from the beginning.
Let's say that the translation of the name of this American drama, obviously the name of the family is Why women kill, I want to explore why women kill, and now the mainstream translation name is a deadly woman. Isn't this biased from the beginning of the name, as if to say, this is a story about several snake and scorpion beauties murdering their husbands, and it was the women who were terrible to cause things to happen?
This is the great invisible injustice.
No matter how progressive the times have been, advocating women's rights, and respecting LGBT, women still live so hard, no matter how strong they look on the outside, they will still struggle with themselves inside.
Don't think that the daily thought of killing a wife and a murderer is just a film and television work, and life is actually more terrifying.
In Japan, there is a website with the url "danna-shine.com", which translates to "husband to die .com". It is said that the site has thousands of active members in the forum, with more than 100,000 hits per month, and the contributors to this 100,000 traffic are almost all wives who hope that their husbands will die.
It seems that this website is just an opportunity for wives who are trapped in complicated family life and cold violence every day to vent their emotions, but things are far from simple.
The posting rules of the forum are very simple, wives only need to write down the name of their husbands, what excessive things they have done and imagine the way they have died, and they will get the follow-up of many housewives, which is undoubtedly a curse of crowdfunding.
Creepy is that some housewives claim that their husbands really died in that way after posting for a while, this post will soon become a hot post, and countless wives will ask for specific measures, just like the real-life version of the hit comic "Death Note".
Falling in love is easy, getting along is too hard.
Once the sea oath mountain alliance, you nong my nong lovers, do not go to this step, cherish the people around you, do not let the pressure of life and the financial constraints poison your feelings, really to the point of irreparability, not sure which day the website left a name, behind the cold fluttering like a mang, can not be spared all look at the eight characters hard or not.