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Two stories, one saying I'd rather be myself and the other saying I might as well have my own good, remind us:
You have to accept your own characteristics, maybe it is not perfect.
The "New Language of the World" describes the words and deeds of many literati and scholars in the Wei and Jin Dynasties.
There's an interesting story in it:
Huan Wen and Yin Hao have known each other since childhood, grew up together, and later entered politics separately, each with their own development. Huan Wen knew how to lead troops to fight, and soon rose to the rank of general, and his status and power surpassed yin Hao. At that time, in addition to pursuing specific achievements, well-known figures in society also attached great importance to everyone's evaluation, including a person's eloquence, demeanor, wisdom and so on. Huan Wen knew that his reputation was similar to that of Yin Hao, so he often had a mentality of winning, thinking: I Huan Wen have been stronger than you since I was a child, and now my status is higher than yours, how can I count the two of us as the same level? Once, Huan Wen asked Yin Hao, "Your brother is probably not good compared to me." Yin Hao replied, "I've been in contact with myself for a long time, and I'd rather be myself."
That's a great answer!
Why envy others?
I have my own personality and growth experience, whether my encounter is good or bad, mood and sorrow, it is what I am bearing and experiencing.
My life is unique, how can I exchange it for someone else?
When people affirm their own particularity, self-consciousness immediately emerges.
Face every detail in life, seriously consider decisions, and are willing to take responsibility for the consequences of their words and actions.
Therefore, instead of worshipping others, it is better to use this to stimulate potential, believe that I am born to be useful, and take every step down-to-earth.
The colorful world is shaped by many different people, so how can I be absent?
Another story is about two ministers during the Jin Ming Emperor, one is Xie Kun and the other is Yu Liang.
Emperor Ming of Jin asked Xie Kun, "How do you think you think compared to Yu Liang?" Xie Kun replied, "I can't compare with him in wearing a dress and serving in the imperial court and letting all the officials follow his example." However, when it comes to the ability to attach importance to the landscape, I think I am more than him."
We often say that the Zhongding Mountains and Forests have their own nature, and this is true.
Xie Kun's answer not only means that everyone has their own advantages, but also reminds us that we must first recognize our own interests and hobbies, and then have full self-confidence and choose a lifestyle that suits us.
At that time, there was a great painter named Gu Kaizhi, and the Xie Kun he painted were all in the background of the cliff stones.
Why?
Because Xie Kun's words in answer to Emperor Ming of Jin were widely circulated, they became the trademark of this person.
In fact, Xie Kun did not become a hermit in the mountains and forests, he once served as the Taishou of Yuzhang, and with the capture of the stone city by the general Wang Dun, he also urged Wang Dun not to rebel in order to maintain political stability.
Like Xie Kun, who can put aside personal gains and losses at a critical moment and reduce the disaster of a war, perhaps it is precisely because he has the beauty of the mountains and rivers in his heart, and there is another open world that can let him soar.
It also inspires us not to forget in our busy daily lives, where nature awaits us to appreciate.
The above two stories, one is to say that I would rather be myself, the other is to say that I might as well have my own good, both remind us:
Speaking of human imperfection, in fact, we can further analyze:
First, everyone is inherently imperfect.
Why?
Because people have a life, it will end in the end. Man is a creature, creation is limited, and there is no problem of perfection in everything that is limited.
You say that this is a handsome man and a beautiful woman, but the years make people old, and it is impossible for people to avoid the pressure of time. Ten or twenty years have passed in the blink of an eye, and who can keep it perfect?
So in essence, human life is constantly developing in the process of practice, and everything in the universe is changing.
Second, people are also imperfect in reality.
Everyone has their own strengths and the resources they have.
And time is limited, life to work hard, you can only choose a goal at a time. If you choose a lot of goals, the power is scattered, and you may end up with nothing.
At this time, we must remember a sentence of the French philosopher Descartes: "Do not let your desires exceed the scope of your ability."
Within the limits of your ability, any desire you have is easy to satisfy and achieve. However, once you exceed your own ability, you will be half the work. It's okay to be successful, but if nothing comes to fruition in the end, you'll waste your life.
We see a lot of people, just learn a line and complain about a line.
I always feel that if I develop in other ways, what should I do? It's like eating in a bowl and looking out of a bowl, that life is very hard.
Man is not perfect in nature, and in reality he has his own characteristics and limitations.
So, what to do in life? It's about being responsible for yourself.
In a word: try to choose what you love, love what you choose.
First of all, you have to choose what you love, of course, what you love may be people, it may be things, it may be something precious, you choose; after choosing, you must try to love what you choose.
The German philosopher Schopenhauer said: "Life is oscillated between desire and boredom."
Man must have desires to live, because I want to live, and this is the basic desire. And then, what am I going to get? What kind of achievements do I have? These are also desires, and if there is desire, there will be troubles and sufferings.
Once this desire is satisfied, it is followed by boredom and boring life.
Even if a person is very accomplished in middle age, he may still feel repetitive and boring. It's as if you want these things very much, you yearn for them very much before you get them; once you get them it feels like it's not good enough, and I can get something else.
Like this, there is a lot of exhortation in the words of philosophers.
Speaking of being responsible, if you understand your imperfections, you can set goals that are right for you in life.
This goal must begin with the outward pursuit of some value that everyone affirms.
However, you must slowly discover that to turn inward, that is, when you pursue external goals, you must also let your inner world, that is, personality, have a chance to grow and develop.
Being able to move from the outside to the inside, the older you get, the more you can notice the inner practice.
In this way, in addition to accepting your own imperfections, you can also appreciate your own imperfections.
There are no perfect people in this world, and if you understand this, you know that I know all about my strengths and weaknesses.
As Yin Hao said earlier, I have been dealing with myself for a long time, and the one I am most familiar with from childhood to adulthood is myself, and I would rather be myself.
Seeing that others have achievements, he struggled for a long time for the goal, and finally got his achievements, which should be! Why should I envy him?
Finally, we can have three points to sum up.
First, no one is perfect.
No one is perfect, so I accept my imperfections, which of course makes me happier.
Second, no one is indispensable in this world.
Who is less and who is more in this world actually has little impact. Being yourself is the most critical.
Third, I am born to be useful.
Since I live in the world, I must understand myself, give full play to my talents, and make myself at least live up to this life, so that it is very ideal.
Therefore, when we look at life from a philosophical point of view, we always have to have a holistic view.
To be able to understand that people are imperfect in nature, imperfect in reality, and try to be responsible for their own lives.