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Do not expand on any disaster that occurs to you yourself.
Because the disasters on earth have never stopped since ancient times.
You say you're miserable, and I'll find out many more miserable encounters than you, and make you feel lucky.
Usually we only look at what we lose, not what we have.
This change of mindset would have been easy, but what happens to you?
How sincere a friend is when he borrows money, and when he asks for money, it's as if I owe him.
This has been happening since I was young, what happens after it happens?
Put it aside after it happens.
I've already lost money and will I lose my spirit?
This kind of friend should not continue to associate.
It is called leaving the land of death and reborn, starting from the most hopeless place.
We often learn some lessons after the event, the event is the cause, and the lesson learned is the result.
This lesson allows us to prevent the next catastrophe, which is to learn from cause and effect, to learn from failure.
Man's instinct is to increase his own experience by learning, and experience is to make better choices and avoid unnecessary disasters later, which is called learning from cause and effect.
I have a friend who was hit from behind by a car.
He was admitted to the hospital and figured out a truth, that is, from now on, he must walk on the left side of the road.
Because it is stipulated that pedestrians go to the right, the car drives to the right, and it is normal for the car to hit people from behind;
Conversely, if the car drives to the right and the pedestrian goes to the left, and the car comes to the fore, you can easily dodge away.
This is the lesson learned, we can't say that we were hit by a car on the street and never got on the street from now on, this lesson is too big, we can't accept it, we can only say that we will protect our own safety in the future.
Of course, there are also big causes and effects.
There was a high monk who was very simple in his reasoning, but very profound.
He said that if you are a bento seller, there are two principles:
First, don't sell bento more expensive than others;
Second, eat your own bento.
Many people who buy bento boxes do not eat their own bento boxes.
Many rural vegetable growers never give their children the vegetables they grow.
They go to more remote places and buy some insect-bitten vegetables that have not been used in pesticides to eat.
Pesticide-based dishes are sent to the city and given to those of us who are in the city to eat.
Therefore, we eat several kilograms of poisonous vegetables every year, and now we can't see it, and when we get old in the future, we will get sick, and we will have no debt and no owner, and you don't know who to look for.
So everyone should understand what their duty is to do, you do your duty well, the world will be more stable.
Practice seeing what happens to you from the eyes of others.
You have encountered a disaster, don't blame yourself, as if I have an accident, people all over the world are going to come to see me, this is too self-inflated.
Fundamentally, no one person in this world can help another.
Because life lies in the inner feelings, no matter what the outside, there may be someone who can help you, but who can help with the inner feelings and experiences?
It's as if participating in group activities is very happy, there is a spirit of communion, everyone struggles for a purpose, and it is very pleasant to be together.
But back inwardly, you still have to face your own problems alone.
Because everyone's life has a unique subject, even if the best friends, even if they are together every day, as long as they watch a different article, a different movie, life begins to be different.
In our lifetime, who can completely overlap with the lives of others?
impossible.
You can join a group, but that doesn't mean you're fully part of the group. Otherwise, where is your personality?
Confucius said that gentlemen are harmonious and different.
We live in the world, to be in harmony with everyone, like playing a symphony, each instrument makes a different sound, but together it can be very harmonious.
We live in an era of freedom, how to fully develop our own personality, face our own lives, this is a lot of pressure.
A writer mentioned that many modern people are escaping freedom.
Because freedom is for you to choose to be yourself, and if you choose, you are responsible for the consequences, which is a big thing that you don't necessarily have to bear.
Therefore, learning to see yourself from the perspective of others is to avoid self-inflation and solve your own problems.
Even if the problem is caused by others, it is you who feels, which is basically a new attitude to life.
If you can't learn to make your life independent, practice self-defense, and can't establish your own outlook on life values, you will always have something to rely on.
The life you rely on, on the surface, seems to be relatively relaxed, but in fact has no connotation, and once it is removed by the person or thing you rely on, your life is lost.
A person who strives hard, in the end is nothing more than retirement, old age, illness, leaving this world, and it is remarkable that there is a grand funeral.
So what do you get in this life?
If you have to end up flat, then the values of this life need to be adjusted.
You need to distinguish between three concepts:
What do I need?
What do I want?
What's important?
Our needs are actually very limited.
Three meals are needed and there needs to be a place to stay safely.
But wanting is infinite.
If advertising does not take advantage of people's desire psychology, it cannot be established at all.
The whole commercial society is driven by our desires, representing that people's desires are endless.
Sometimes we yearn for the pastoral life, as if returning to the primitive era, in close contact with nature, people do not have so many needs, live freely.
But human society cannot turn back, and that realm can never come back.
Therefore, you still have to face the present and face your own life.
When disaster strikes, there are four ways you can rearrange what happened to you.
In this way, you have the conditions to be invincible in this life, and you will not complain about others;
Of course, how the method is used depends on how you think and how you accept its implications.
Otherwise, as soon as there is a problem, I hope that others will comfort and encourage, although it is a normal performance of human nature, but this is not enough.