In the TV series "Where is My Home", Han Rusu is a typical virtuous wife and mother. On the outside, he is a teacher at a certain college and has a decent job; he is filial to his in-laws and considerate of his family.
But such a virtuous woman, suddenly one day, her husband Qin Yue cheated.
Qin Yue's brother asked his brother: Sister-in-law is so good, why is she still cheating? What did Qin Yue say, he said:
"Han Rusu is good everywhere, but it's too good, but it's not as interesting as her."
We often say that love and giving are directly proportional, and if you want to get love, you must first learn to give.
But we often overlook that many times, it is not that the more you give, the more you get, on the contrary, some of the efforts are not only not rewarded, but also counterproductive.
In love and marriage, especially in love, people who love a lot often shed tears first, and many people who care about them tend to have lower heads.
You know, if you pay too much unilaterally, the balance of feelings will one day be out of balance; some things, the more you do, the less the other party loves you.
Hong Huang said that the misfortune of Chinese women is all virtuous.
Women are too diligent and take care of all the housework, and men will become lazier and lazier; women are too virtuous, and the elderly and children outside the home are worried about themselves, and men will gradually become hands-off treasurers. In short, if a woman does everything, over time the man will only feel that he should take it for granted.
When women are overwhelmed by housework and trivialities, when men never experience a sense of giving, women will become more and more tired, and men will slowly dislike women's triviality and greasiness, and even boring.
It is a good thing that women are diligent and thrifty, but many women often have a common disease after marriage, that is, they are willing to give their parents to their husbands and children, but they are not willing to give themselves.
The cosmetics you used to like are not used, keep it for your children to buy gifts; don't buy the clothes you want, save it and buy a pair of shoes for your husband... Women always think that they have more time at home, and they can make it up.
It was made up, and there was no refinement, and it became a yellow-faced woman in the eyes of a man.
If you care about a person, you can't help but pay attention to his every move, but if you care too much about a person, you will suffer from gain and loss, and any wind and grass will make you suspicious.
If a woman puts all her efforts on a man, she will be extremely insecure in her feelings, but the "I love you" that is exchanged for constant assurance and commitment is often the least guaranteed thing.
No one likes to be tied down, even in the name of love, and men are even more so. You care too much, care too much, want too much, it will only make men feel more and more suffocated and want to escape.
In the hit drama "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun was a high-achieving student at a prestigious university and was once an independent woman.
After getting married, because she relied too much on Chen Junsheng, too dependent on the fortress of love and marriage, did not work or smell things outside the window, she was gradually cultivated into the kind of "Chinese woman" that Shi Kang once described as crippled: her face was good, the birds were dependent on people, and she was always a star and adored for men.
Once a woman is too dependent on men and loses her independent ability and confidence, she will slowly open up the gap with the man who was equal to the original, and they will no longer be a person at a high level, and even slowly lose the common language, thus being burned out and bored.
Some people make mistakes in love, and some people make stupidity.
People who make fools always think that concessions and humility can be exchanged for cherishing and cherishing, but often in exchange for the other party's mistakes, hurts, and abandonment.
Women's too humble tolerance will never make men appreciate your generosity, but will make them more and more inches to test your bottom line.
If a woman is becoming more and more humble in a relationship, then she should understand that the other person in love is no longer suitable for her. Because, how can the person who loves you give you low to the dust?
Children who can cry have candy to eat, and sensible women have no one to hurt.
Sensible people are kind and soft-hearted people, they are very afraid of troublesome others, obviously want someone to care but never force it, obviously want someone to share but never ask for it.
Sensible women always swallow their grievances, and then silently play the role of empathy, she understands the meaning of many people's words, but many people never understand her desire to say and stop.
Slowly, even the closest people around her will rightfully think: she doesn't matter, she doesn't matter, she can understand, she can understand, she will forgive... Hurting a sensible woman is too low cost.
In a relationship, every woman places hope in the other half, hoping that her love can be exchanged for deep love and affection.
But no matter how much you love a man, I hope you never love too much and do too much.
Need to know that love is a matter of two people, one person gives too much will be unbalanced, to let each other participate, to pay, to feel, to operate, so that it can be long-lasting.