A wise man who understands human feelings
1. Cao Shan's political philosophy, which adheres to his predecessors and does nothing, and sets aside the specific historical reasons, is a great wisdom. Since the predecessors already had better regulations and major policies, why should they toss it again? Just do it. Today, when some new leaders take office, they must give prominence to "deeds," they must come up with their own set, and they must always come up with something in various ways, slogans, ideas, and actions, it seems that this is not the case, and they cannot show their own existence. Even if the ex did a good job, he must come to turn the river upside down and toss it badly. When some new officials took office, the "three fires" were reflected in the sky and burned hot around. But at the end of the term, those "new words" and "political achievements" will no longer be glorious and fade away. Then he will come up and toss his new play.
The world is moving forward, making a difference, and if you want to get something new, you can't say it's bad, but you just have to know the suffering of the people, and don't toss and turn in order to show your little wisdom and engage in political achievement competitions with others. Sometimes, respecting the existing achievements of the predecessor and ruling by "doing nothing" is more valuable than one's own "innovation".
Everything has to be based on the actual situation. "To give new poetry to say sadness" like hard work, not only unnecessary, but also labor and hurt the people. Sometimes, like Cao Shen, just do what the predecessors have set. Although keeping is as plain as water, sometimes it is a great wisdom, a great wisdom.
We can't expect every leader to be of a high standard. It doesn't matter if the leader "has no level", the important thing is not to show his "no level" to the society, if so, it is really "no level".
2. Although the title of lao li is not high and the official position is humble, his image is as straight as a mountain, and his work is extremely principled. Which should be managed, how to manage, the boundaries are clear, and there is no overstepping the line and interfering everywhere. Just imagine, things are complicated, each is its own government, each performs its own duties, and only by greatly mobilizing the initiative and enthusiasm of various functional departments can the administrative heads achieve orderly and effective operation, and just like Zhuge Liang, the minister of the Shu Kingdom in the Three Kingdoms, everything must be done personally, and the food can not be eaten for three or four liters, although it is serious and responsible, hard work, but a person's energy is limited, and in the end it cannot last long, and finally a tragic and magnificent result of "dying before being born before he dies, and the hero is full of tears" has fallen.
In modern society, modern management is promoted, and it advocates following rules and regulations and doing things according to systems and regulations. In this environment, leaders should learn to delegate, give employees full autonomy, create a good space for development, mobilize the enthusiasm and initiative of employees, and be able to do more with less, improve efficiency, and promote a virtuous cycle of management.
3. In ancient and modern China and abroad, all those who have achieved great things, in addition to objective conditions, subjectively most of them have certain excellent qualities, of which open-mindedness and generosity are an important one. The actions of Emperor Guangwu and Xiao Daocheng can be said to be models of open-mindedness and generosity. It is not surprising that a person will not have ideological deviations and behavioral mistakes, and it is not surprising that they tend to be inflamed or collude, and emperor Guangwu and others do not be angry with people because of a momentary incident, and adopt a policy of not blaming the past, so that those who have made mistakes can calm down and become people again.
In our work, we have seen that most leaders can be open-minded and generous, not only good at listening to the opinions of the masses, but also correctly treating different opinions and sharp criticisms, and doing things convincingly. However, there are also a few leaders who have the idea of being the only one who respects themselves; what they have said and the instructions they have issued are holy wills; they are not allowed to have different opinions among the masses, and they are grumpy about those who criticize and talk about themselves in person, and some even retaliate against comrades who have different opinions in their work; on the contrary, they are very appreciative of those who are good at patting themselves on the back and pleasing themselves. In the long run, it will not only affect its own image, but also will certainly affect the relationship between cadres and the masses and affect the development of work.
As the saying goes: be a man for a lifetime, be an official for a while. We say that it is normal for the masses to have different opinions in their work, and even if they are sharp or even one-sided opinions, as leaders, they should be selfless in their hearts, learn to accept all kinds of things, treat them correctly, change them if they have them, and encourage them if they do not; we must not be small and chicken intestines, and we must use our minds to calculate the opinions of others. Since you have become an official and shoulder heavy responsibilities, you must put your career first, strengthen your self-cultivation, and be selfless in your heart.
4. As the saying goes: "Big things become small, and small things become nothing." When contradictions and conflicts arise, the key to solving the problem is not to tit-for-tat and "fight with an eye", and truly intelligent people are good at alleviating contradictions, resolving conflicts, and making the two sides mutually beneficial and developing together, rather than fighting each other for a short time and fighting a fish to break the net.
5. Zhuge Liang skillfully used the strategy of "using Yi to control Yi". More importantly, when Zhuge Liang applied this strategy, he judged the hour and sized up the situation, was good at grasping the measure, and was just right. The hardest thing in the world is to measure up. There are too many things in the world, too few are not good, and the most critical thing is whether there is a measure.
Not eating too much is a kind of grasp; not exercising too much is a kind of self-knowledge; not being overwhelmed is a kind of stability; not clinging to it is a kind of rationality.
What is the "measure" of dealing with people? Good grasp, self-knowledge, stability, rationality, it should be such a measure. Confucius said: "Do as you please and do not exceed the rules", the meaning of which is to abide by the measure, and this realm undoubtedly belongs to the "civilization online".
Proportion is a force. People who are very good at exercising proportionality in life, in a sense, they are first and foremost a person who has conquered and sublimated himself, a person with high understanding and good concentration, which is not easy. Those who can practice this kind of "spontaneous work" well are the most powerful. Nine times out of ten, they can overcome their greed, shallowness, blindness, or arrogance.
Proportions are a kind of wisdom. In order to stand up and go far in the world, people cannot do without the influence of certain philosophical ideas, cultural heritage, scientific knowledge and historical experience, and use this to promote themselves to "measure up." These are wisdom, and wisdom cannot be hidden. Unless you have a bad moral character, this kind of measured wisdom will always show itself. This is also the deeper reason why well-educated people have a "degree" in everything.
6. Diligent thinking makes people deep and profound, and good at analysis makes people rational and wise. In this era of rampant materialism and impetuous people's hearts, we must sink our hearts, think more, ask more questions, study diligently, think well, and make a rough and refined of the complex social phenomena, to fake and preserve the truth, from this and the other, from the appearance and the inside of the hope to hear and cut, let our mentality sink, let our pen be heavy, let our pictures be real, and leave a profound and true historical material for future generations! From this, our leading cadres should be more practical, down-to-earth, and realistic, and less superficial, flashy, and empty words; others should also not look at life with false eyes and look at life coldly, so that they will be less deceived by falsehoods, less fooled by empty words, and less partially obscured. In this way, we can truly perceive unity, not to make or less mistakes made by blind people touching elephants, and it must be known that flowers always have a time to fall, and the essence is the most real.
7. For those who were forced to become thieves due to famine, in fact, they did not want to become thieves, they also wanted to live a normal life, Gong Sui saw this, understood the suffering of these people, and issued a government decree: as long as the person who takes the hoe is a good citizen, and the person who takes the weapon is a thief. This is tantamount to announcing that all previous events will not be investigated, and as long as you can pick up farm tools again, you are a good citizen.
In life, there are many complex and difficult to solve problems, they seem troublesome, not easy to solve, in fact, as long as you can grasp the root and key of things, the right medicine, you can solve the problem smoothly at the fastest speed.
8. As the saying goes, gold has no feet, and no one is perfect. Everyone has their own weaknesses, but they also have their own strengths. Zhu Bo's way of employing people is wonderful in doing his best to do his best, so as to give full play to his strengths. We know that it's easy to do what we can, but it's not an easy task for others, especially your own subordinates, to do it.
9. "Showing falsehood and concealing the truth" is to use wisdom and strategy to very cleverly hide their true intentions, and to display false things and confuse each other with illusions, so as to stabilize the emotions of others, ensure that they act along their own thinking trajectory, and achieve the established goals. "Showing falsehood" is to investigate the situation that the other party urgently needs to solve, and then use the things that people often do not doubt to confuse the opponent, conditionally meet the needs of the other party temporarily on the surface, and use interests to lead them to the bait, so as to achieve the purpose of forcing them to obey. "Concealing the truth" is to "conceal" and "weaken" one's true purpose through those things that are open and that people are accustomed to. The process of "crossing the sea" is also very important, and if the other party recognizes it in the "crossing the sea", it will only be abandoned.
The use of this strategy is often to focus on the fact that in the process of observing and handling things, because people are accustomed to certain things, they unconsciously produce omissions and laxities, so that the opponent can take advantage of the false and show the truth, seize the opportunity, and win by surprise. Therefore, we pay attention to overcoming mindsets in the process of analyzing and solving problems.
10. In the political and diplomatic arena, people often apply this law to hide ulterior political goals in high-sounding political propositions, or to drown substantive diplomatic goals in very ordinary clichés.
Generally speaking, in the process of seeking people, the seeker is in an unpopular position. So, how can we eliminate barriers and communicate relationships? That is to create illusions, confuse opponents, make them produce paralyzing thoughts, so that they will not doubt some commonplace things, and then accumulate strength on their own side, seize the opportunity, and attack in one fell swoop to achieve the purpose of "crossing the sea". So that the opponent will willingly do things for you, so that the process of seeking people into a process of seeking common interests, this will certainly receive good results.
11. Quiet can give birth to concentration, will be able to produce wisdom, contribute to the success of academic career; quiet to cultivate the body, recognize themselves, so as to improve themselves; to obtain a kind of inner happiness, how can we achieve "quiet"? Self-denial and retribution, throwing away too many selfish desires and distractions; recognizing the law, doing things to get rid of the impetuous psychology of "becoming famous as soon as possible" and strengthening the belief that water can only be achieved naturally. At the same time, life must be quiet and dynamic, and the combination of movement and static. Taking a step back, Jing is not simply passive and dead, not like an ancient well, not "the stream is silent, one after another open and fall." "For individuals, tranquility is self-cultivation; for the nation, tranquility can strengthen the country."
12. It is a great wisdom to retreat into progress. Leaders, in particular, can benefit greatly if they are used well in this regard. As the leader of a team, the attention of the public, at least within the team, will certainly be higher than that of the average person. And some people may not know much about the situation and like to draw random conclusions, and even sometimes there will be some false accusations added to the head, at this time you go to defend it will make people feel that you have a ghost in your heart, even if you are finally clarified, it is very likely to give others a bad impression, not to mention that sometimes you will inadvertently make some mistakes.
Don't say anything about what you don't have, things will eventually come to light one day, then you can't get more respect? If there is any small mistake, it is not a big deal, people will think that you have a noble personality, and it is easier to get everyone's understanding by having the courage to admit your mistakes, and where can a bright and honest person go wrong even if he is wrong?
Fighting is like controlling water, avoiding the front of a strong enemy, just like channeling the flow of water; attacking a weak enemy to its weakness is like building an embankment to block the flow. Doing business and being a person pursues the quality of water, maintains a peaceful mentality, takes retreat as progress, brakes with static, shows strength with weakness, and seeks change by dragging.
13. When the key to seeking advantage and avoiding harm is to act brightly and honestly, do not give others the opportunity to frame and slander themselves. Guo Ziyi has been an official for decades, well aware of the sinister officialdom, although he has been the king of the county, but it is inevitable that there are people who have made enemies with himself waiting for opportunities, and the best way to avoid the dark arrow is not to open the door to others, indicating that he has nothing to look at. This method seems to have wronged yourself, but it is actually the best way to save yourself.
In modern society, the relationship between people is more complicated, and friction with others is inevitable, how to avoid retaliation from others? Guo Ziyi's method is worth learning. The more tightly you wrap yourself up, the more others do not understand him, and all kinds of rumors will take advantage of the opportunity, otherwise, make your behavior transparent, and all suspicions and rumors will be self-defeating.
14. As the saying goes: big things become small, and small things become nothing. Since ancient times, no matter what the identity of the two parties to the contradiction and dispute, the most direct and effective way to resolve contradictions and disputes in the private sector is mediation.
Step back from the sea and the sky. "Throwing a tantrum over small things, looking back and thinking about why... Others are angry with me, and no one is there for me to get sick... If I am angry with who is as desired, and it hurts and laborious..." This song "Mo Qi" will be memorized when he was very young, but now there seems to be more and more people who love to be angry, and losing his temper with others is even regarded as a manifestation of personality, in fact, think carefully about where there are so many things in life that are worth getting angry about?
What exactly is a personality? When a contradiction arises, the most important thing is to solve it instead of getting angry or angry or intensifying it, and many times when you are out of your anger you have to solve them because yelling can't solve anything. Therefore, calming down and facing the problem is the best way. Find something to do in a down-to-earth manner, maintain a calm mind, encounter troubles and tell yourself "Don't be angry", life is actually very beautiful.
15. Big things become small, small things become small things, in fact, there are many things in life that are not necessarily so true. As long as everyone gives way to each other, then many conflicts and crimes will not happen, and it will not cause so many tragedies in life. Just like Wu Lu and Ye Nanyan in the story, they have made big things small and successfully saved thousands of families and thousands of people.
In life, don't worry about others, when you want to argue with others, first calm your emotions, don't be so impulsive. If you can't control it for a while, don't take the initiative to admit your mistakes with the other party because you love face afterwards, take the initiative to reconcile with the other party, friends are better than enemies, one more friend has one more way.
16. Fan Xiyang wanted to indulge in the past, wanted to advance and retreat, did not bluff, did not comment on right and wrong, but used roundabout tactics to guide the officials to go forward with him, relaxed the vigilance and fear mentality of the officials, and in the silence and silence, let everyone enter the "trap" that Fan Xiyang had premeditated, and achieved the goal.
To ask for someone to do things, we must make full use of people's curiosity, do not rush to cut into the theme when asking for help, but talk about the problems that the other party is most interested in, like a morning glory to lead his interest, so that he unconsciously falls into the trap you have pre-arranged, so as to achieve the purpose of doing things.
17. The penal law can only be decided by the State as to whether to exempt or punish, and how can the executed person himself arbitrarily propose a change in the sentence? Although the death penalty is more serious than the battle sentence. In doing so, Song Zhenzong not only maintained the dignity of the law, but also saved the life of a soldier who had committed a mistake. This reminds those in power that when enforcing the law, they should be extra cautious, because beheading is not cutting leeks after all, and human heads can no longer grow on the ground.