What kind of woman is a good family woman? "Ci Hai" is explained as: a woman of innocent and simple people.
Now many people think that a good family woman means that a woman has received a good family education at home, is very cultivated, and has good virtues.
Many people say that the so-called women of good families are still the same as before, and they cannot be separated from their origins.
First, you can't put a green hat on your husband. Second, virtuous, able to run the family. Third, the husband and son.
Women in a good family should have three or four virtues, they should have a husband and a child, they should have no freedom of marriage, they should obey the orders of their parents and the words of a matchmaker.
If women want to break free from the shackles of fate, that is, they do not keep the way of women, and it is this kind of thinking that is at work, which leads to the tragic fate of many women in good families.
In fact, in any case, with the development of the times, the title of good family woman has been eliminated, which is the moral kidnapping of women under patriarchy.
Why is there no criterion for judging men? In the past, men could have three wives and four concubines, and women had to be reduced to fertility machines from one end to the other. In the final analysis, it is a specific title under the poison of patriarchy under feudal etiquette.
There is a movie called "Good Family Women", which describes the sad fate of women under feudal etiquette, but the heroine in the movie finally found true love, she caught up with the good times, the new society, and became the beneficiary of socialist women's liberation.
The 18-year-old apricot fairy looks beautiful like a flower, but she is carried by a flower palanquin to her in-laws' house as a child bride, and her young husband Shao Wei has just turned 8 years old, and she is dependent on her widowed mother Wuniang.
The mother-in-law Wuniang is also a bitter person, she married her husband at the age of 18, after the round house on the day of the new marriage, the husband left home, until the son Shaowei was 5 years old, he did not come back, and soon after he died of illness, the fifth lady alone pulled Shaowei up with hard work.
The people in the mountains rely on farming to make a living, but the two women, Wuniang and Xingxian, work the farm, and relatives of wuniang's family often come to help.
The opening handle is young and strong, the age is similar to that of the apricot fairy, and for a long time, looking at the busy opening handle every day, the apricot fairy always has a faint smile on his face, and there is an indescribable happiness in his heart.
That night, when WuNiang heard that the bandits were coming, Xingxian wrapped her arms around Shao Wei and hid on the bed in fear, and Wuniang took out a lot of wooden sticks to hold the gate firmer, so as to avoid this scourge.
The next day, the third sister-in-law came to tell the fifth lady that the bandits would come again, so the fifth lady quickly shouted to open the handle and raise the fence to prevent the bandits from entering the door.
Although the life of the child bride is hard, Xingxian still feels very happy, because the in-laws are good to her, and the little husband is young, and he will not embarrass her, treating her as a sister, although there are bandits who often make trouble, but the life is still passable.
Peers always have a common language, apricot fairy and open handle often contact, gradually the two people have mutual affection, secretly get better, open handle work is also particularly hard, as if there is no end to the strength.
One day, the open handle stuffed a red cloth for the apricot fairy, and the apricot fairy put it on the bed, because he was in a hurry to deliver food to the open handle, he forgot to put away the red cloth bag.
Shao Wei saw the red cloth bag, opened it curiously, and found that it was a ring inside, so he secretly hid it, and when he returned home, Xingxian couldn't find the ring and looked uneasy.
At night, Shao Wei thought that the apricot fairy was asleep, and quietly put the ring back in place, and in the darkness, the apricot fairy who was not asleep shed tears.
Shao Wei overheard Kai Shan say that he wanted to take Xingxian out of here, so he cried bitterly when he was worried that his sister who loved him would not want him.
Shao Wei went to the river with his friends to take a bath, and deliberately hid his clothes, so he was beaten by Wu Niang.
Xingxian coaxed Shaowei who was beaten, Shaowei cried and said that he would not let Xingxian go with Kaishan, Xingxian quickly asked him if he had told others about this matter, Shaowei said that only the third sister-in-law knew.
This matter was still taken out by the unscrupulous third sister-in-law as a handle, saying cool words in front of the villagers, and also bought mangoes for Shao Wei to give to the apricot fairy, because he knew where the apricot fairy and the open handle were.
After Xingxian learned that it was the mango that the third sister-in-law bought for her, she realized that the third sister-in-law already knew about herself and the opening of the handle, and such a thing was going to be sunk in the village at that time.
The kind Fifth Lady looked at the soulless Apricot Immortal, thinking that she was sick, and she cared about the warmth, which made the Apricot Immortal's heart even more uncomfortable.
The matter of the apricot fairy and the opening handle was still known to everyone, and the third sister-in-law brought a group of people to the grass shed and asked everyone to sink the apricot immortal and the open handle into the pond according to the rules.
The fate of women in the old society is in the hands of the feudal forces, others do not want to see women in free love, think that it is not to keep the way of women, with feudal etiquette to bind the women of the good family, as if free love, is a bad woman, living in the old society of women, there is no freedom to speak of, want to break through the shackles of fate is more difficult than ascending to heaven.
At this critical moment, just in time for the land reform, the village team members said that it is now a new society, marriage is free, and the apricot fairy can choose for herself.
At this time, Xingxian's heart became more and more contradictory, she hoped to marry Kaishan, but in the face of the kind mother-in-law and Shaowei who relied on herself, she couldn't bear to leave them.
However, the mother-in-law of the apricot fairy is a kind person, she came from the old society, she knows the hardships of being a good family woman, and she has fulfilled the apricot fairy.
Under the blessing of her mother-in-law Wuniang and her "husband" Shaowei, Xingxian divorced her younger husband and formed a new family with Kaishan.
If there is no women's liberation, if the new society does not arrive, how can the fate of the apricot fairy change? Maybe it will be sunk.
Without New China, the status of women will never be improved, so if you want to be a good family woman, you are actually a shackle to the fate of women, and the good family women in the new society should be cultivated, qualified, economically independent, and free to live.
This is the 1985 film "Good Family Women" directed by Huang Jianzhong. In the old society, marriage generally followed the words of the matchmaker and the orders of the parents, and few people could have the right to choose for themselves.
The apricot fairy in the film, also under the arrangement of her parents, married her little husband who was 12 years younger than herself and Shao Wei, who was only 6 years old, at that time, such a woman was called a child bridesmaid. After getting married, you must first help the family, take care of the family and your "husband", and wait until the little husband grows up to live together.
In this film, the apricot fairy is pitiful, but also lucky. First of all, she became a victim of the feudal customs of the old society and became a child bridesmaid.
But she was lucky: although she became a child bridesmaid, her mother-in-law was kind, her "husband" liked him, she met her own man, and caught up with the new society.
The kind Wuniang herself is a tragic figure, but she is not constrained by that kind of feudal thinking because of her own tragedy, but supports Xingxian to break through the shackles of feudalism and bravely pursue her own happiness.
Wuniang was a victim of feudal etiquette, while Xingxian was the beneficiary of the freedom of marriage in the new era. Through the sharp contrast between two people, the specific deformed marriage is placed in the vertical and horizontal extension of history to investigate, neither hunting kitsch nor avoiding the deep revelation of human nature.
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