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(Shan Ge talks about emotions, picture from the Internet)
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Teacher Li Yinhe, a famous sociologist and sex expert, specifically mentioned in the preface of her book "Li Yinhe Says Love" that people have only a few short decades in this life and will experience many things.
She particularly emphasized that in sociological research, there are three criteria for measuring people's social status, one is money, one is power, and the other is fame.
In his lifetime, everyone is constantly striving in these fields, for fame and profit, for power, a lifetime of non-stop pursuit.
However, in the end, you will find that what can really bring you happiness is often not fame and fortune and money, but often "love" and such things.
Teacher Li Yinhe is actually right, true love is a very precious feeling, and good love can make people happy for life and happiness for a lifetime.
In real life, why many people complain that their marriage is unhappy, and even feel very painful, to a large extent, two people living together, is because of the lack of "love" foundation and nourishment.
In other words, from the beginning, there was no "love" for each other, at most it was just because of a temperament, and after the freshness, they were left to live together.
Such a marriage, in the end, can only be constantly consumed by each other in the trivialities of life of chai rice oil and salt, how can there be any happiness at all.
And such a marriage, two people living together, even if they make more money, no matter how famous, what is the meaning.
Teacher Zhao Benshan once said: A love word lives a lifetime!
Yes, people live a lifetime, the real can make themselves happy and happy, or a love word, especially after experiencing the baptism of true love, based on the marriage and family established on the basis of love, is where the happy life lies.
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Li Yinhe said: If you have not experienced love in your life, no one in this life has really loved you, and you have not really loved a person, looking back on your life, you will feel very painful, very empty, very regretful, very lost.
All the money you get, the power, the name, it's all outside of you, and you're not getting real happiness. And once you experience love, you feel that this is the happiest compared to everything else.
However, "love" is not something that everyone can easily get, it is mixed with lucky ingredients, and it is inseparable from human efforts.
Just like Guo Jing and Huang Rong in "The Legend of the Eagle Hero", they have always been regarded as the classic of love and the perfect symbol of ideal love, which has made countless men and women envious.
For Guo Jing, he was undoubtedly very lucky to meet Huang Rong, a woman who was ice and snow smart, but also combined with talent and beauty.
However, in addition to the lucky component, Guo Jing actually relied on his own personality and his own unremitting efforts to finally embrace the beauty, harvest the beauty of love, and let the lover eventually become a family.
In fact, many times, in order to get a good love, you also need to constantly understand what marriage, family, sex and gender are, because they are closely related to love.
For example, what is the relationship between love and marriage, how to balance love and family, the secrets that exist between love and sex, and some differences between love and gender, etc., will affect love to a certain extent.
Therefore, love is not an isolated existence, if you want to have a love, and can really enjoy the happiness and happiness that love brings to yourself, you must fully understand love, use your heart to experience love, and cherish love well.
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Love is beautiful and makes people yearn for infinitely. Love is the most beautiful scenery in the world, and love can make people full of upward strength.
In The view of Teacher Li Yinhe, according to the degree of intimacy, she divides love into three levels: good feelings, likes and passionate love, and the lower level is good feelings.
She believes that love is a feeling of two people agreeing and feeling each other, an impulse of two people to become one.
And this impulse to love, one of the strongest forms of interpersonal attraction, is the highest level of romantic emotion that one person has towards another.
Of course, good love can be met but not sought. If you are lucky enough to encounter it, you must redouble your cherishing and pampering.
In fact, love, like marriage, also needs to be managed, if not to operate, love will also make people feel lost and painful.
Plato said: Love needs to have enough space and time to thrive. Love, not sacrifice, not possession. When you have love, you must let the other party be free; when you lose love, you must let the other party be free.
Love is like a kite, you have to give it the freedom to fly, but also know how to pull it back in time.
Love without freedom will slowly tend to natural death. Love needs freedom, just as love needs to breathe. Distance and mystery are a great way to maintain the temperature of love.
Good love will undoubtedly make people feel happy and full of power. And bad love will only make people get tired of it quickly, and constantly feel disappointed and painful.
Therefore, life needs love, and life is inseparable from love. Life without love is a bitter and bleak life, a life without love, and it is impossible to feel the joy of life and the exuberance of passion.
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