Buffett, the stock god, said: "The most important investment in my life is not which stock I bought, but who I chose to become my partner." Everyone's energy is limited, and putting all their energy into their careers will inevitably be sloppy in some trivial things such as human feelings.
Sometimes a virtuous and wise wife can not only be a helper on your road to success, but also save you from water and fire when you fail and fall lonely, after Liu Chan's submission, Pang will take advantage of the chaos to destroy the Guan Yu Manchus, while Zhang Fei, who is also Liu Bei's brother, can die well because of his wife.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Liu Bei and Cao Cao fought for 17 years, and many insoluble enmities were formed between Shu and Wei. Liu Chan's submission gave the generals of the State of Wei the opportunity to take revenge. In the twenty-fourth year of Jian'an, Guan Yu flexibly organized the Battle of Xiangfan in response to Liu Bei's capture of Hanzhong, and successively captured and killed Pound.
Soon after Liu Chan's return, Pang De's son Pang Hui, in revenge for killing his father, took advantage of the war to kill all the people with the surnames involved, and none of Guan Yu's entire clan was spared. If the king is defeated, the man-made knife tricks me into fish and meat, and the generals of the Shu kingdom are all in danger.
Zhang Fei was not only Liu Bei's brother, but also a fierce general of the Shu Kingdom, and no one dared to fall into the well. Derived from his wife's identity. Zhang Fei's wife was the niece of The Cao Wei general Xiahou Yuan, who made great contributions to the Wei state of Jiangshan, and initially accompanied Cao Cao in his conquests, and at the Battle of Guandu he transported grain and grass for Cao Cao, and he also supervised the generals to quell the rebellion in Xuhe and other places.
In the end, he was killed in battle, and his power was intricate in the Wei kingdom. If it were only a niece, it might not necessarily allow xiahou yuan's clan to take such care of it, according to the Chronicle of the Three Kingdoms, in 200 AD, Xiahou Yuan's niece was abducted by Zhang Fei when she went out to carry firewood home. When he learned that she was Xiahou Yuan's niece, he still chose to marry his wife.
After Xiahou Yuan was beheaded by Huang Zhong at Dingjun Mountain, it was Zhang Fei's wife who personally went to collect the corpse for Xiahou Yuan, dig a grave, and build a tomb. Xiahou Yuan was not only brave and good at war, but his seven sons were all talented, Xiahou Yuan's eldest son married Cao Cao's niece, the second son was even more outstanding in battle, and the third son had a deep friendship with Cao Pi since childhood.
Such kindness is tantamount to becoming an umbrella for Zhang Fei's family. The Xiahou Yuan clan will inevitably protect Zhang Fei's clan for a day in Cao Wei.
Zhang Fei's abduction of Xiahou May have been just a whim, but after he asked to marry Xiahou, he pampered her and did not deliberately despise her because of her identity, which is undoubtedly a respect for Xiahou Yuan's family.
The Xiahou clan was able to be protected by the Xiahou Yuan clan, not only because of the surname Xiahou, but also because it did not give up its respect for the clan because of the current situation, and risked the taboo of heaven to collect the corpses of the elders. Plant the good fruit early and eventually reap the rewards of the spring.
Guan Yu and Zhang Fei are both good at xiao yong and good at leading soldiers, but they both have the shortcomings of arrogance and rudeness in the military generals. Unlike Guan Yu, who never knew how to get along with his colleagues. After marrying Xiahou, Zhang Fei was much more flexible than before. During the Three Kingdoms period, there was constant war and chaos, and the people did not have a good life.
In the chaotic world, women were captured as booty, and Zhang Fei's wife could be recognized and respected in the Liu Bei Group as Xiahou's identity, which was inseparable from her way of doing things. Xiahou's good looks and gentle and kind personality, after being robbed by Zhang Fei, he did not complain about himself, but helped his husband to clear his worries step by step.
At this time, Liu Bei's men were not only Guan Yu and Zhang Fei, but also other strategists and generals, as well as traitors. Although everyone is loyal to the same lord, it is inevitable that they will persecute each other for power and profit.
With the assistance of his wife, Zhang Fei slowly learned to appreciate others, know how to use people well, listen to the advice of others, and make good friends with colleagues while never fighting with adulterers. Know how to hide the sharp edge and wait for the opportunity. On the power scaffold of the Shu kingdom, slowly cultivate their own network of influence.
Xiahou's way of doing things not only helped Zhang Feiguang form a good relationship, but also got Liu Bei's blue eyes. It also inadvertently laid a solid foundation for Zhang Fei's family to die well.
After marrying Zhang Fei, Xiahou and Zhang Fei jointly raised two sons and two daughters. Zhang Fei fought outside, and the life and education of his two sons and daughters were handled by Xiahou Shi. Under the cultivation of xiahou, the eldest son Zhang Bao, who was highly skilled in martial arts, had no false hair, and white robes and silver armor accompanied Liu Bei to fight Wu, which could be regarded as a young hero.
The second son, Zhang Shao, abandoned Wu Congwen, although he was raised from an early age, he was knowledgeable and extremely intelligent, and was an important minister of the Shu state. The two daughters are even more beautiful, full of everyone's demeanor, gentle and virtuous, and read poetry books widely, with hills and hills in their chests.
In 223 AD, Zhuge Liang elected Liu Chan's empress, but in 237 AD, Zhang Fei's eldest daughter ended her 14-year career as empress and died. In order to express his grief at his death, the emperor gave the title of empress. In 238, Liu Chan made Zhang Fei's second daughter empress, known historically as Empress Zhang.
At this time, the Shu state lacked talent and gradually revealed signs of decline, and while cultivating both daughters to be empresses, the Xiahou clan also took care of the other children of Zhang Fei's clan to marry the Cao Wei regime early.
When Liu Chan eliminated Cao Wei's suspicions with "Le Bu Si Shu", although he was the king of the fallen country, he left a place in the Wei state and protected himself by virtue of his status as the king of the fallen country, and the identity of the king of the fallen country was his shame, but it was also a major reason for the protection of Zhang Fei's family. After Liu Chan's death, his sixth son Liu Xun succeeded him as the Duke of Anle, and Liu Chan's Principality of Anle was continued.
From this, it can be seen that Xiahou's step by step, the Shu state's imperial pulse is continuous, even above the Wei state's court, the power of the Shu state can still continue. Zhang Fei married this virtuous wife, allowing himself to be saved between the two countries of Shu and Wei.
Guan Yu and Zhang Fei made great contributions to Liu Bei's Shu state of Jiangshan, but they had two very different endings, which had an important relationship with their wives. To this day, Xiahou's various behaviors can still benefit us a lot. For a man, marrying a wife should be a virtuous, for a woman, good use of wisdom, know how to go with the flow, but do not forget the original heart, kind and courageous, to be consistent.
In life, your parents will go before you, and your children and grandchildren will also go their separate ways, looking back, and the longest companion will be the partner around you. A good partner will support and accompany you spiritually, will give you comfort when you are in pain, and will bring you forgiveness when you are confused. In contrast, Guan Yu's life, colleagues were excluded, his son was incompetent, although he was deeply respected by posterity, but there was no way to have a surviving descendant to burn incense for him.
Zhang Fei and his descendants were able to survive the war years under the protection of their wives. Xiahou's unusualness lies not only in identity, but also in the strength that wisdom and kindness bring.