We often say that we hope that two people who love each other will eventually become dependents, and the reason why we say this is naturally that many people who love each other have become strangers for various reasons.
Despite your affection and my wishes, you and I only met the right person at the wrong time, or at the right time, met the wrong person.
No matter what, this kind of love will not last long, and it is doomed to be a husband and wife in this life.
Many people feel that feelings can never be guessed, but this is not the case.
In fact, the feelings are not complicated, after all, can not escape the two words of "fate", there are thousands of miles to meet, no reason to hold hands on the other side.
People who love each other, have no chance to be husband and wife, somewhat regretful, but in addition to regrets, what else can we do?
Xiao Bei felt that if two people really had no chance to be husband and wife, then try to do these two things, because this is good for both people.
The essential attribute of man is animal, but man and animal are very different.
Because man can discipline himself very well, no matter what he does, he will always consider the consequences, or restrain his emotions, while animals simply cannot, they will only come by their own nature.
Especially in the face of feelings.
In the face of feelings, when you fall in love with a person who should not be loved, then you must learn to keep a distance, the person in front of you is not yours no matter how good, what you have to do is to stay away from each other and find your own happiness.
If not, you have to force it, and you will make yourself miserable.
The TV series "The Great Song Ti Criminal Officer", I believe many friends have watched, and there is a plot in it, which explains this very well.
Cao Mo, a scholar, fell in love with the married woman Yingniang, so he asked the matchmaker to match, and the matchmaker told him that the other party was married, and he could only blame himself for not being blessed.
Cao Mo begged the matchmaker to think of a way, and after the matter was completed, he gave her a thousand taels of silver.
The matchmaker still said that there was no way, unless the husband of the young lady died, there was no way at all.
Cao Mo said that he would kill Yingniang's husband.
Originally it was just a joke, but I didn't expect that Yingniang's husband was really dead, and the confused county official sentenced the confused case, saying that Yingniang and Cao Mo conspired to kill her husband.
If it was not the criminal officer Song Ci who just arrived, it may have led to an unjust case, fortunately, under Song Ci's careful investigation, clues were found, and only then did the two return their innocence.
To put it simply, Cao Mo and YingNiang are people with no fate, even if the two are in love, but Yingniang has already married a wife, Cao Mo should not have any thoughts, not to mention that Yingniang does not have this meaning at all.
In life, when we meet beautiful women and handsome men, we tend to look at them more than a few times, and it is enough to look at these people, after all, they do not belong to us.
Even if you are in love with each other, you must pay attention to proportions, because you are already married.
When men and women get along, it is really important to learn to keep their distance.
Even if you love, you must bury this love in your heart, it is your inability to go, not your inability to get it.
In this life, who is with whom, in fact, has long been destined.
In this world, not all feelings can go to the end, and not all people who love each other can become husband and wife.
Since there is no reason to be together, why not keep your distance, and then in the corridor of time, laughing and releasing?
Only by doing so will you not be affected by your feelings and live a happier life.
People are responsible, married to bear the responsibility of marriage, even in the future on the road, will meet better, more loved people, you can not be irresponsible.
You can complain that the other party didn't show up earlier, but since this is the case, don't disturb others and make yourself uncomfortable.
The fate of the world is actually inexplicable, even if you love, it may be difficult to come together.
I've seen a video like this:
In the video, the girl's name is Qiu Qiu, she works as a waiter in a restaurant, and a boy has been coming to see Qiu Qiu, he especially likes her, but Qiu Qiu makes it clear that he does not like him.
In fact, it is not that she does not like it, but that she does not dare to like it.
Qiu Qiu has a younger brother who is not a weapon, and the family prefers her to be a "brother support demon", so she feels that being with each other will drag the other party down, so she refuses.
The boy would occasionally buy her gifts, but she refused.
Later, Qiu Qiu told the boss that he left after he went home to get married, and when the boy learned the news, he was in pain.
He had been looking for it, hoping to meet Qiu Qiu again. Because of special thoughts, mental disorder and trance, accidentally had a car accident.
In the hospital, he met a nurse, and under the careful care of the other party, he quickly recovered, and the two also established a relationship. At this time, Qiu Qiu appeared again, and she did not go to marriage, but went to work.
After some efforts of her own, she finally had something to do, she came back to find the boy, thinking that the other party was still waiting for her, but she did not think that the other party already had another half.
Obviously, Qiu Qiu and the boy are in love, but they have no fate.
Qiu Qiu met the boy when he was very poor, and because he did not want to cause trouble for the boy, he refused his love. The boy thought that the other party really did not love himself, so he finally chose to let go.
Two people who love each other have become familiar strangers, I don't know who can blame this, if you want to blame, blame God.
Some fates are destined to be only in the heart, just think about it, if you want to be together, then forget it.
Because, if it is not yours, you will eventually lose, and no matter how it is, you will not be able to keep it.
Even if you twist a melon, although you can quench your thirst, it is only a moment, and you will eventually give up on it because of the bitterness of this melon.
So, no matter what, if you meet someone who has no luck, then don't give each other hope, keep a distance, and maybe become friends.
Feelings that have a fate and a share are indeed a kind of happiness, but in this world, there are clouds and sunshine in the moon, not to mention that feelings are destined to have no fate.
Doomed to not be able to be together, why not be a little more ruthless and not give yourself hope?
It may be painful at first, but after the pain, new feelings will be ushered in.
You can only do this, is the wisest, otherwise it will only make your pain more permanent, even for a lifetime.
For the rest of your life, may you be a smart person who knows how to keep a distance from people who have no connection.
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