The first rule of workplace survival: colleagues must maintain certain boundaries

Strange things happen every year, and this year is particularly abundant. This morning, I saw a strange thing on Weibo: there is a Mr. Yang in Chongqing, which is the operation of a company. In September this year, he and his wife held a wedding, because the location and company are not far away, in addition to relatives, they also invited more than 20 colleagues who are familiar with themselves to attend their wedding. As everyone knows, if you drink happy wine, you must prepare a gift. The 23 colleagues who attended Mr. Yang's wedding also gave gifts, and 23 people gave a total of 4389 yuan in gifts. On average, each person is about 190 yuan, which is a normal colleague's gift standard.

However, shortly after the wedding, Mr. Yang was punished by his own company, because a colleague reported that he was suspected of seeking improper benefits, and the leader asked him to immediately refund the 4389 yuan gift money collected from his colleagues, and also made a report criticism as a typical case in the whole company. Mr. Yang quickly returned all the gifts, but was very unconvinced by the company's punishment and submitted a complaint to the superior leader, hoping that the company would withdraw the punishment of the company's notification of criticism. After receiving Mr. Yang's complaint, the company not only did not withdraw the punishment for the criticism of the whole company, but the personnel department also directly recommended that he leave.

After reading this news, what do you think? Is it because Mr. Yang feels aggrieved, why is he kind enough to invite his colleagues to his wedding, but is he reported for seeking improper benefits? After returning the full gift money, the whole company should be notified of the criticism? In fact, Mr. Yang's company does have impersonal and unreasonable places, but the general direction is not too wrong, and the large company has its own set of complete management system and anti-corruption charter. Attention must be paid to employees who are suspected of seeking improper benefits, regardless of the amount. In fact, the root cause is still from the report of colleagues. The back of the colleague's report is because Mr. Yang violated the first rule of workplace survival: to maintain a certain boundary with colleagues.

I have read a workplace survival manual before, and the first article on it is written: Don't easily think of your colleagues as friends. Keep certain boundaries with your colleagues. At first, I didn't understand it, but I experienced more companies and met more colleagues, and gradually became more and more in line with this sentence. Let's analyze and analyze Mr. Yang's matter, who reported Mr. Yang? In fact, you don't need to guess to know that Mr. Yang's report must be one or more of his 3 colleagues who attended his wedding. The colleagues who participated in Mr. Yang's wedding were invited to the wedding, and they refused because of their bad face, and it was not like words to participate in the wedding without giving gifts, but after giving it, they regretted it in their hearts. Feel that the money is not worth it, or think of the contradictions and frictions with Mr. Yang at work. The more I thought about it, the more angry I reported Mr. Yang at the company. Not only did he return all the gift money, which was equivalent to eating a wedding banquet for free, but he also retaliated against Mr. Yang and relieved his sullenness at work. Seemingly irrational things have a reasonable reason.

Mr. Yang actually made one of the simplest workplace mistakes: equating colleagues with friends or even good friends. This is also a common mistake that many people in life make: thinking that colleagues can have better cooperation and better getting along with each other when working. In fact, colleagues only need to do a good job in the work to do a good job relationship, usually to maintain a certain good boundary, without long-term and strict investigation must not easily rise to the level of good friends, because good friends can share their joys and sorrows and a certain personal space. It's easy to get problems if public and private are entangled, because you can't guarantee that you won't sin or be offended when you work. There are also fights between offices, and this kind of fight just doesn't affect you too much at work, but if you intervene in your private space by treating colleagues as good friends, the discord of this fight will be greatly magnified. It ends up causing double trouble for your work and life. Just like a group of porcupines, if you want to report to the group for warmth in winter, you must separate a certain boundary, too close not only can not warm but each other's thorns will hurt each other.

Mr. Yang's case is a typical case, Mr. Yang easily upgraded familiar colleagues into friends, allowing them to intervene in their private lives. In the end, it was plagued by innocence. Angry and lost money and lost his job. Remember that the first rule of the workplace and the boundaries must be maintained between colleagues. I hope to help friends who are new to the workplace and who don't know how to get along with their colleagues.